By BloodyElegant - 11/06/2016 15:22 - United States - Houghton
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Hey, OP here! (Sorry, I didn't think to use my account when I posted this) Turns out I'm sort of happy that it happened. It hurt (and still hurts), yes, but I'm glad I didn't go through with the wedding. We spent the next week going back and forth and he just treated me like crap. It made me realize I deserve someone who wants me, loves me, and treats me how I deserve to be treated. As for the hotel, I did have my best friend enjoy the amenities with me while I enjoyed some much needed catharsis. Thank you, everyone, for being so kind!
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Call a couple of friends to share the hotel room, go to a local restaurant and try a new cuisine, and make a great night out of a nightmare. You're better off without someone who won't love you. At least you found out now before you got married.
Eh, don't know about that "make anything horrible into something nice" mentality... I believe that sometimes (not for too long of course), people need to allow themselves to feel sad and to grieve when it's necessary ! OP, I hope you get better soon ! It's nice that it happened before you got married though, because then it'd have been even more difficult and painful...
Sometimes, the situation requires you to have that kind of mentality. Spending "a couple hundred dollars on a hotel room" isn't something most people can afford every day. I understand OP is hurt, but how is it gonna make it better if they waste all that money by crying in bed instead of enjoying what the hotel has to offer ?
I don't understand why people do these things on special days like ffs. Just so you can hurt them more than usual? Op, I know it hurts but he doesn't deserve a single tear.
Hey, OP here! Thank you for all the support. I did enjoy the room and stuff with my best friend. She made me feel better. I don't have that hard of feelings against him, we have been fighting a lot and he left because he thought he couldn't make me happy. We are trying to see if we can have reconciliation and maybe get back together sometime in the future. It hurts, but if it's meant to be, it would happen.