By BloodyElegant - 11/06/2016 15:22 - United States - Houghton
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Hey, OP here! (Sorry, I didn't think to use my account when I posted this) Turns out I'm sort of happy that it happened. It hurt (and still hurts), yes, but I'm glad I didn't go through with the wedding. We spent the next week going back and forth and he just treated me like crap. It made me realize I deserve someone who wants me, loves me, and treats me how I deserve to be treated. As for the hotel, I did have my best friend enjoy the amenities with me while I enjoyed some much needed catharsis. Thank you, everyone, for being so kind!
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Hopefully someone does the same to him.
You automatically assume that he's a jerk for doing that, but maybe there was a good reason for it. Also, at least it happened before they got married.
@13 + @15 Who even says the guy left her?! OP might be a male and the female left the OP
18: Probably because it says 'fiancé' and not 'fiancée'.
#18 ate you joking? It clearly stands Fiancé.
Call a couple of friends to share the hotel room, go to a local restaurant and try a new cuisine, and make a great night out of a nightmare. You're better off without someone who won't love you. At least you found out now before you got married.
Nyattack
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Eh, don't know about that "make anything horrible into something nice" mentality... I believe that sometimes (not for too long of course), people need to allow themselves to feel sad and to grieve when it's necessary ! OP, I hope you get better soon ! It's nice that it happened before you got married though, because then it'd have been even more difficult and painful...
IcyDarcy
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Sometimes, the situation requires you to have that kind of mentality. Spending "a couple hundred dollars on a hotel room" isn't something most people can afford every day. I understand OP is hurt, but how is it gonna make it better if they waste all that money by crying in bed instead of enjoying what the hotel has to offer ?
I agree, why waste it completely? And, #9, you can have your grief AFTER enjoying the expensive night with friends.
I'm so sorry this happened. Though at least you didn't get far enough for it to happen at the altar in an even more expensive wedding. Either way, that's painful. And hopefully karma is quick. Take care, and again, I'm SO sorry you went through this.
OP, I know it hurts right now, but you'll find someone better. He's red-blooded and not a brut. Somewhere out there is a guy with a dry sense of humor and sweet. His name is Cabernet Sauvignon.
I know it hurts but shit happens, just don't blame yourself and move on, life is about never stop moving.
Le_ponderer
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OP, you need to go home to your friends and open a couple more bottles of wine. Then you all should let it rip. It'll be a quick fix but later you have to reflect on why the relationship ended. Yes, you'll mourn for a while but you will get past this.
I don't understand why people do these things on special days like ffs. Just so you can hurt them more than usual? Op, I know it hurts but he doesn't deserve a single tear.
I understand but problems never just arise from the anticipation of a holiday alone, it all comes down to the lack of communication unfortunately
diego92
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He didnt deserve you. You will go through this
Your anniversary might have been ruined but it marks a new anniversary for you, the day you were free to discover someone whom truly loves you.
Hey, OP here! Thank you for all the support. I did enjoy the room and stuff with my best friend. She made me feel better. I don't have that hard of feelings against him, we have been fighting a lot and he left because he thought he couldn't make me happy. We are trying to see if we can have reconciliation and maybe get back together sometime in the future. It hurts, but if it's meant to be, it would happen.
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Call a couple of friends to share the hotel room, go to a local restaurant and try a new cuisine, and make a great night out of a nightmare. You're better off without someone who won't love you. At least you found out now before you got married.
You automatically assume that he's a jerk for doing that, but maybe there was a good reason for it. Also, at least it happened before they got married.