By PhoenixChick - 08/09/2015 18:54 - United States - Champaign

Today, my mother-in-law got her driver's license, despite being prone to fainting, seizures, and being on so much medication that she sometimes forgets where she is. She now wants to drive us to all our family functions, and my father-in-law won't object because he doesn't want to damage her self-esteem. FML
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Hey, OP here! You know, this might be a comment thread that saves lives. I had already decided to put my foot down on me or my husband ever riding with MIL, but...I hadn't thought about everyone else. And now I have. I do not live with my in-laws, but we live in the same town and I cannot drive at night so it gets awkward to refuse their offers when my husband can't take me somewhere. Funny thing is, there is no legal restrictions on my driving,the DMV keeps insisting I'm fine, but I know that my contacts and retinal disease give me issues with headlights and therefore I shouldn't. I'm fine during the day, but stay off the road at night. I'm careful because my eye disease is from my father, who kept driving at night when he shouldn't. Nearly killed himself in an accident. I know who my MIL's doctor is, and I'm going to call his office. She MUST have lied to the DMV, and I think it'll be easier to talk to her doctor than to the DMV. I just have to brace myself for if she finds out. Thank you all for the help. My in-laws are rather good at manipulation. I've known them for ten years, and they use MIL's medical issues to overrule literally everything. She has serious psych issues, and FIL is very protective of her feelings. To the point of letting her lie to my husband's doctors when he was in the ER because it made MIL "feel useful" to tell the doctor's things about my husband's health. She was making up all kinds of things about my husband's condition when he went in for emergency surgery, and when I corrected her I got yelled at by my father in law for making MIL "feel bad." Nevermind that her lies to the operating surgeon could have gotten my husband seriously hurt or killed. So yeah, this ends now. I'm not going to let her hurt anybody else if I csn help it. Wish me luck, I've got a fight on my hands...

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hotheadslav 17

Just try and make an excuse to drive yourself or to be in a different car, if you can't though, just try and break it to her easy. I would rather hurt her feelings than be in a fatal crash. You're stuck between a rock and a hard place OP. FYL

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little_star78 13

Buckle up and hold on tight

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Jryan952015 7

Put a fake car key on her car so the only thing she can due is go into it with the remote.

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Mpii 11

"I dont want to damage one persons self esteem. I'd rather have several people die instead." ~ your father-in-law. Honestly though, why did she even get a license. If she didn't mention some of her conditions, bring that up. Her self esteem would be lower if she ended up killing people.

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mercyelvira42 23

My MIL actually had her license taken by the DMV. She nearly killed us on a road trip by slamming on her brakes on a highway and a van nearly drove into us. She regularly drove through red lights and got into three car accidents in just two months. My husband and I were very blunt about her driving but it wasn't until her license was taken that she got the hint. Nowadays she drives a Hoveround and crashes that into everything. Good luck to you, OP

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Etweens96 25

My dad had to get back surgery ten years ago and my grandmother had to pick him up because he couldn't climb in a higher up car. From what I recall on my grandmother's driving skills, she always drove on the wrong side of the road, sometimes between the lines and would speed or be very slow at driving. Eventually, my mom managed to convince her to give up driving and sell the car to someone who needed it more. She wasn't happy but eventually she got over it. Stay safe OP!

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Slover1995 9

I could of died in a car wreck where the person that hit me had a siezure. I'm traumatized and have neck problems this is not something to take lightly. report her. I got lucky, but if I was in a differnt car, I could have died.

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estabooky 7

If she's had a seizure within the past 6 months it's illegal for her to drive whether she has a license or not.

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RoseCrystal 17

This woman in my home state neglected to get medical help for her seizures, had an episode while driving, and killed a family of four. **** your MIL's feelings. I'm glad you are putting your foot down, OP.

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doriboo 13

Totally feel your pain girl. My MIL has a horrible habit, and my FIL just lets her keep going. She needs serious psychiatric help, but he won't get it for her because she might get mad at him. It's pathetic.

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randomblahh 10

have a doctor write a letter stating she's unstable to drive, makes him the bad guy and keeps her and everyone else safe

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Captain_Debilos_fml 13

buy a bike and tell her you want to lose weight or be healthier

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