By PhoenixChick - 08/09/2015 18:54 - United States - Champaign

Today, my mother-in-law got her driver's license, despite being prone to fainting, seizures, and being on so much medication that she sometimes forgets where she is. She now wants to drive us to all our family functions, and my father-in-law won't object because he doesn't want to damage her self-esteem. FML
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PhoenixChick 26

Hey, OP here! You know, this might be a comment thread that saves lives. I had already decided to put my foot down on me or my husband ever riding with MIL, but...I hadn't thought about everyone else. And now I have. I do not live with my in-laws, but we live in the same town and I cannot drive at night so it gets awkward to refuse their offers when my husband can't take me somewhere. Funny thing is, there is no legal restrictions on my driving,the DMV keeps insisting I'm fine, but I know that my contacts and retinal disease give me issues with headlights and therefore I shouldn't. I'm fine during the day, but stay off the road at night. I'm careful because my eye disease is from my father, who kept driving at night when he shouldn't. Nearly killed himself in an accident. I know who my MIL's doctor is, and I'm going to call his office. She MUST have lied to the DMV, and I think it'll be easier to talk to her doctor than to the DMV. I just have to brace myself for if she finds out. Thank you all for the help. My in-laws are rather good at manipulation. I've known them for ten years, and they use MIL's medical issues to overrule literally everything. She has serious psych issues, and FIL is very protective of her feelings. To the point of letting her lie to my husband's doctors when he was in the ER because it made MIL "feel useful" to tell the doctor's things about my husband's health. She was making up all kinds of things about my husband's condition when he went in for emergency surgery, and when I corrected her I got yelled at by my father in law for making MIL "feel bad." Nevermind that her lies to the operating surgeon could have gotten my husband seriously hurt or killed. So yeah, this ends now. I'm not going to let her hurt anybody else if I csn help it. Wish me luck, I've got a fight on my hands...

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hotheadslav 17

Just try and make an excuse to drive yourself or to be in a different car, if you can't though, just try and break it to her easy. I would rather hurt her feelings than be in a fatal crash. You're stuck between a rock and a hard place OP. FYL

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little_star78 13

Buckle up and hold on tight

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dirty_dan_ 15

Who cares about feelings? Safety matters man!

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Hunkapoo 19

if you can do something to have her license taken, do it. this is really dangerous, she can cause an accident that can kill herself and other people.

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lvg_fml 10

Definitely talk to her if she doesn't see reason talk to her doctor. This affects everyone on the road

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KaidensCrow 18

take a picture of her meds and send them to the dmv, talk to her doctor, report her anonymously, do something op. don't let her kill herself or someone else... she could potentially kill your partner if they ride with her

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bapbap_fml 15

That is extremely irresponsible of her. I had to stop driving because of my health problems. It sucks, but I couldn't live with myself if I hurt someone else. Be vocal about how she shouldn't be driving. It may not be something she wants to here, but someone needs to be the voice of reason.

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alexxxx92 9

I believe from now on your family will never be fined for not wearing a seating belt

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Britt125 16

That's horrifying. My parents were hit last year by somebody who went into some sort of medical distress behind the wheel. Though not while driving, they'd had a problem before and shouldn't have been driving. My parents weren't too seriously hurt but anybody who'd been in the back seat of the car could very easily have been killed, it would be a miracle if they weren't seriously injured. It sucks, but people with certain medical conditions should not be driving. It's their life and the life of anybody they share a road with on the line. I would refuse to get in a vehicle she was driving, I wouldn't care who it upset. Lives are more important than feelings. I'm not putting my life on the line or being part of putting anybody else's on the line. I'd try reporting her too, to the DMV or somebody I thought could do something about it.

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PhoenixChick 26

Your comment is a big part of me deciding to go to her doctor about this. Thanks for the wake up call, seriously.

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Hildy93 21

Well just don't go then if you fear your safety

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brittanybenton 10

Yeah maybe you should be the one to hurt her feelings then. Personally, I'd rather be offensive than be in an accident. But hey, maybe that's just me.

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MissRaindrop 20

My MIL falls asleep while driving. I straight up told her she'd never babysit or drive our daughter alone. When she got upset I simply said that my child's safety is more important than saving her feelings. Problem solved. Being nice and sugar coating things is not the way to go with stuff like this

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