By roundtherose - 13/10/2013 01:59 - United States - Anchorage
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Thank you everyone for then encouraging words and sympathy for me. I would like to say my mom is one of the greatest people in my life and is very intelligent. She had been dating my dad for 2 years before and they got married and they are still married. She is certainly not a dead-beat mom. I think she was just being spiteful when that happened. She apologized later. She taught me that what she did is not what I want to do in my life. Sure what she said got me down, but outside dating I have a great life!
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I really agree with this! I hate it when people automatically assume that a pregnant teen must've been sleeping around with a load of guys. For all they know, her protection might have failed the first time she had sex and that's why she got pregnant. Not because she's a "hoe". (Btw this isn't specifically referring to OP's mom).
You know what does make you a hoe? Making fun of your 16 year old child for never having a boyfriend and then bragging how you we're already knocked up at that her age. I'm sorry but that's a pretty hoe-ish thing to say to your child. Not to mention ****** up and hurtful.
This is true. However, (I'm going to use myself as an example here)- I'm very careful with protection and birth control, and so I'm pretty confident that I am not going to get pregnant. I'm in a loving relationship, and don't think there's anything wrong with me having sex at this age.
Because at your age a 'loving relationship' just means you have sex with the same guy. Although having sex with someone you're in a 'relationship' with doesn't make you a hoe, bragging about having sex, especially at a young age, does. When your current relationship breaks up and you find someone who wants to be with you just to be with you, the sex gets much better anyway, and that's something you can't rush.
Well, that's totally wrong. We've been together for two years now, and we only started having sex a year into the relationship. We are NOT together just for the sex. We are together because we make each other happy and, whether you believe it or not, we love each other. The fact we're 17 shouldn't automatically cut off all possibility of us being in a loving relationship, because that's exactly what we are in. I'm not "bragging" about having sex at a young age, I'm just stating that it isn't a terrible thing and doesn't make me a bad person. My relationship is brilliant and loving, and I can assure you that he wants to be with me for me. Not all teenage boys are mindless idiots. I found your comment to be very ignorant and judgmental.
She's such a motivational mother. She should be giving you advice, not bashing on you.
Back when I was in my early 20's, the Australian government brought out this thing called a "baby bonus", they would give you up to five thousand dollars for having a baby. The year it was brought in, and a few years after that, teenage pregnancy went up dramatically. There were 14 year olds getting pregnant just so they could buy a big TV (unprotected sex, spiking condoms, lying about being on the pill) , or other random shit that they couldn't afford without it. Was a big expose on the news.
OP, be proud that you are being responsible. It's not bad that you haven't had a boyfriend, and incredibly good that you aren't 16 and pregnant. Chin up.