It is when you're alone with someone else's fiance.

Though for that FML, the fiancé had to be watched, I pity your boyfriends/fiancés/husbands if they can't be near a topless woman friend, even alone.

In what country are topless beaches the norm? Here in 'murica if a woman is topless, it's usually a sexual situation.

Come to germany my friend....we have quite some FKK beaches....and being topless at the beach isn't that uncommon in parks or outside of fkk beaches as well while sunbathing.

In the US, it is pretty uncommon unless you go to a nudist beach to see topless women. I know in Europe and other parts of the world seeing topless women at beaches isn't as big of a deal as it is in the US.

The country appears under each fml.

I’m glad you are working on things, but you will soon get tired of feeling like you have to monitor his communications. It is exhausting and mentally draining. I hope for the best for you.

Honestly, I feel like this is a red flag you're going to seriously regret missing much later on in your life.

With respect, you're a dumbass. He will cheat on you, only this time you'll be married. Break up with him now.

So... excuse me for being blunt but-- the only reason nothing happened was because SHE rejected him, he did nothing and frankly didn't care about your relationship since he was openly talking about being more. Yet you're still with him... because? When it happens again, its definitely a big YDI.

Oh, they’ll just get it on at work.

Oh for goodness sake. He lied and tried very hard to cheat on you. Don't take him back.

One year from now: "Today, I found out my husband has been cheating on me since before we were married. He's leaving me to be with his pregnant girlfriend. Why don't you ever see these things coming? FML." Guaranteed you'll regret the wedding within a year.

You're really naive OP. If he is willing to behave like that when you are in the house, god knows what he does and will do when you're not around. Even if nothing happened (emphasis on the "if" because I doubt that it's true), do you realize that the only reason he didn't cheat on you is because she backed out? I can guarantee you that he will cheat on you again. Whatever you think, you will not be able to monitor him all the time, and frankly, is this the type of marriage you want? Do you want to spend your life with someone you will always be suspicious of? Trust and loyalty are the foundations of any relationship. It's not worth it without them.

It's obviously your decision, but this is not a lasting solution. If you feel like you have to monitor him, even just for one person, that is going to eat away at what trust is left and effect your whole relationship. Texts can be deleted and there is no way to know what he's doing when you're not around. The doubt and paranoia will only build and create resentment on both sides.

Why do you monitor contacts with her? She refused to have sex with him. He's the one who was trying to have sex with her not understanding that you were not in an open relationship anymore. So yes you can forgive, but he'll have a lot to do to change his behavior. And as other said you can't monitor all his contacts and there is a great chance he might do it again.

I woke up at 1am qnd they were out there.

Wait... your fiancé was in your own pool in the middle of the night with another woman, while you were asleep upstairs, and he's only "in the doghouse" because this bitch wasn't willing to risk her own relationship? Sweetie, you're being played. You only caught them once, so who knows how many times they fooled around before you found out? And going all Big Brother on his cheating ass will only result in you becoming severely stressed out, which will put a huge strain on your already fractured relationship, and he'll most likely try to avoid it by hooking up with the same woman again. If he respected and loved you like he should, you wouldn't have been suspicious of the two of them. End it, and your sanity will thank you later.