By RabbitOfAurora - 12/12/2012 15:56 - United Kingdom - Feltham

Today, I flew from Australia to the UK to meet the woman I love. After two years of talking, and having gotten a love letter for my birthday a few months prior, I was convinced we'd have a great time. Turns out she doesn't know what she feels for me. I'm staying with her for the next 35 days. FML
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RabbitOfAurora tells us more.

Okay, for all of you who were wondering how this thing ended? With her mother screaming at me to "Get out right now or I'll call the police" Apparently the whole time I was there I "offended everyone" and made "the atmosphere absolutely unbearable" I was also "Vile" an "ungrateful" She knows this FML is here, and so I won't even try defending myself because I don't want an argument or something to break out over it. The last straw pretty much came when I posted a status on facebook about a conversation her mother and I had. I didn't name names, and only stated that I didn't care how overly cautious I looked for not doing X because I could hurt myself pretty badly doing it (because I am overweight and so risk of injury increases). she took this as me having a "Dig" at her. As her opinion was pretty much I should do it anyway, or that I should loose weight with diet and exercise and then do it. I found this so offensive because over the last 15 weeks or so I've lost 12 kilos, I'm also recovering from a bulging disk pressing against my sciatic nerve. I don't know if you all know how much that hurts, but at the worst I was almost passing out, vomiting, and loosing control of both my bladder and bowels, all at once, just standing up. The only reason I was okay is because I used some serious will power. That was 9 months ago. Three months ago, I couldn't even stand long enough to heat up soup because the pain was so bad. I'm actually surprised I was okay enough to do this trip anyway. I had some decent pain killers that really helped. I'm getting there in my own time. I honestly think that by this point they were looking for reasons to kick me to the curb. This girl is very, VERY different in person. Still not a bad person by any definition of the word, but so different to how I ever expected.. I'm actually still rather shocked. Guess she felt the same about me too. Pretty much the whole time, we were all pretty miserable so I came home a week early. I've been home for almost 8 hours and will be celebrating the new year with my mum. I have chosen to no longer have contact with her or her family. I'm ready to put this all behind me and start next year all new and fresh. All this was just a play by play of the last day or so, obviously things go way deeper, but this is not the place for that. If I could go back in time, I probably would cancel the trip and save all the money I spent.. Possibly salvage the friendship too. But at least on the up side, I learned a lot about who I am through this. It could have been an amazing love story, now it's a tragic romance that pretty much equates to "At least I did something with my life at one point, even if it didn't work" My fellow FMLers, I think it's important to go after what you want, even if you don't want the same thing by the end. you need to take risks and put them behind you if they don't pay off. Forward is the best way to go. I wish you all a happy new year full of wonderful stories too good to submit on this site. XOXO - Rabbit Of Aurora <3

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There is a huge difference between online & being right there with a person. 35 days was probably a bit optimistic for a first date... Hope it goes well, OP

onorexveritas 23

well it seems she's got plenty of time to figure it out

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Hey y'all. It's not actually that bad. Even if it doesn't work out she's still one of my best friends. Nothing will change that. And to be fair things were rather complicated to begin with and we'd been arguing a lot. I was hoping that this would turn out kind of like a movie, with a super happy ending and all that jazz. But life is rarely like a movie. Either way I'll enjoy my time here and I'll deffs be coming back for a visit in future regardless. There are already plans in the making for a Halloween visit one year. Cheers, and may you all never submit and have something posted on this site. Because you think it'll be great.. It really isn't. <3

Your comment shattered the hopes of most FMLers. And OP, It's still like a movie, a touching movie.

Yeah, but I wanted a kick ass movie. Like, to have the plane explode and to have to swim half way through the ocean. Maybe fight off a shark and be abducted by a mermaid prince. He could have been all "I want to make you my bride" Then I would have to escape from a dungeon. Then turned up at her doorstep and been all "No, no problems at all" I am kinda... I'm not exactly sure how to feel though. It is a bit awkward because I don't want to make her feel awkward and that just makes it more awkward. And I'm really not good at leaving the house for even a day, let alone the country. I really miss the comfort and security that being at home brings me.

Cool username, OP. Wanna update us on your 35 days in the future to let us know what happened?

Ok OP, your life is not a movie. First time meeting someone is sometimes awkward, and what she said about not knowing what she feels for you just made it worse. England is beautiful place, try to use the 30 some days to your advantage. have fun together as friends and see if you guys are meant to be together, if not you can stay friends. Edit: I didn't mean to post this twice. Hate it when that happens

saffy66 34

"Y'all"? "Kick ass"? Americanisms, mate. If you really are an Aussie, maybe she would prefer you to speak like one. If you were already having issues, I think it's naive of you to think meeting face to face would help solve it. It's more likely to put an even bigger strain on the relationship. But good on you for giving it a go. By the end of the holiday you should both know if it's going to work out. Meanwhile give her a bit of breathing space & do some sightseeing, even if its just in the local area. Give her the option to join you, or not. Good luck OP.

Dude, your an Aussie, dont you fight off sharks in your free time?

Girls from the UK like to string men along. I had something similar happen to me. Basically she used me while she was on "holiday" then when she got home she dumped me.

If she already knew what you looked like before hand well its probably not that, and the only explination would be who did she meet recently that caught her eye?

No, no. It's nothing like that. She's far too sweet for that. It's more like I don't want to be with anyone right now.

sweetmama88 6

The only thing I can say is I would never meet anyone online! Because chances on there lying big time.

CharresBarkrey 15

"Chances on there lying big time?" Is that even English?! Also, OP said nothing about her girlfriend lying to her.

Yes of course because people NEVER LIE when they are speaking face to face.... As if ....

i dont want to be the bad guy, but you kinda deserved it. online love stories dont work out easily. especially when half the world is between you...have a nice time and when you go back try to find a gf the normal way!

If you don't want to be the bad guy then don't be. Don't be that guy.

There are plenty of online relationships which have worked - you can't really say "you deserved it" because OP fell in love with someone who was far away from her. I say good on you for trying and it's good that you've at least gained a friend from all of this, even if nothing else.

My sympathies, man. Good that she's still gonna stay your best friend, though. A lot of women are pretty complicated (and fickle) like that - props for being okay with it, a lot of guys would probably be fairly pissed at her for leading you on. My advice would just be to chill, ignore the awkwardness and try and make the best of your trip here. There are some nice spots to visit, and who knows; something more might develop if you spend a bit of time with her.

Strike most of that. You're a chick, aren't you? Well. Gee. I guess the complicated part goes double in this case, right?

It's true, on all accounts. ^^; I'm not mad or anything, Not even really disappointed, but at the same time I am. It's hard to describe. but it'll all work out :3 And thank you for noticing I am a chick. You have to be the first one. *gives prize*

Heh, things get especially difficult when you fall in love with a member of the same sex. But it's true, things have a habit of working out one way or another. Hopefully someday soon you'll be able to experience the unadulterated love you hoped to find when you came here, it's a pretty incredible thing when it happens. And I'm glad -one- of us is enjoying the cold. It's not so fun when you're a ranger in the wild wastelands of Wales.

Just make sure you get some before you leave. Then it won't be a total fail.

carminecris89 13

It really sucks. I had something similar happen to me. He and I wrote long winded letters, received tons of texts, and talked via Skype for 6 months. I flew out to Miami and he said he didn't know how he felt. It was heart breaking. Sorry op, this really sucks.

SwiftKeeper 2