By joco4 - 15/01/2016 18:00 - United States - Mobile
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OP here. First of all, thanks everyone for commenting and everything, a lot of your comments were very helpful! Some clarification, we have talked about it before, and yes, I have met her parents as well as a lot of her family. Also, she has met my parents and family, and they know that we are together. The reason she has not told them has nothing to do with religion or because she is embarrassed by me. When we first started dating, she asked her parents what they would think if we started dating, and they effectively said "it would disgrace their family," so she just told them that we would not date, and since then, it seems that the topic hasn't come up with them again. The reason this whole topic came up is because, when her parents would call her, they would always talk about one of her exes, and how he was doing, (basically hinting that they wanted that relationship to happen again). After that happened a few times, I asked her about it, and she informed me that they actually didn't know about us being together. Her parents always comment on how nice I am, and how I am a good person. The problem with her parents is that they live in the past. Even though it is currently 2016, her parents can't accept a relationship where I happen to be black, and she happens to be white. As far as her parents are concerned, I am just her friend that happens to hang out with her a lot, as for everyone else, we are very happily in a relationship. Her parents and some of her family are the only people who are out of the loop. So, at this point, we are just not worrying about them and they will find out on a later date. I would like them to know eventually, but it just seems like that wont happen anytime soon. Feel free to leave comments if you want to know anything else!
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As a rule, if either person is embarrassed to show off the other, it's not a healthy relationship. Sorry you found out that way OP.
Does it matter? If it's that committed, I'm sure they'll find out, or maybe she "forgot" because they don't like you and she wants to keep you.
it's easy to let things snowball and get nervous as things go on. I'm not saying you should just forgive that, but have a serious conversation with her and don't get heated. figure things out, if you both love each other. don't give up on her if she's the one for you. it might not be that she is embarrassed by you, there are other reasons, even if they aren't good ones.
Do they happen to think she is in a relationship with someone else? If no then your good. But come on man you never tried to meet her parents in the 5 years of your committed relationship?
that is a good example of how there are many scenarios that could exist. it's a good question why he didn't try or try hard. everyone has a right to have their relationship the way they want it to be but after five years they both need to have a conversation about what they like and don't like about their relationship.