The ick

By Rosalind - 14/07/2024 14:00 - United States

Today, I realized my best friend has it bad for me. This man has treated me better than the guys I’ve dated. He goes above and beyond for me, and makes me feel safe, valued, and respected. He’s everything I’ve ever wanted in a guy, except he’s butt-ugly as fuck. I feel so bad that I can’t return his feelings. FML
I agree, your life sucks 249
You deserved it 801

Same thing different taste

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I understand that people shouldn't prioritize looks, but if she's not physically attracted to him, there's nothing she can do. I'm not a good-looking man by any stretch, but I don't think that if I was able to do all those things for a girl, and she told me that she was not attracted to me, then that's it. There's nothing I could do in that situation. She doesn't owe him anything. He's not her type, leave it at that.

I used to be like you once upon a time. For many years I dated guys that were my type and I always got the same outcome. I then developed a toxic mentality that all men were the same. With the help of a therapist and self-reflection, I realized that I shouldn’t write off potential suitors based on looks, I should instead look for his sense of integrity. When I met my now husband, he was not my usual type. I got annoyed when he would flirt with me. This man worshiped the floor I walked on but I didn’t see that because I was chasing other guys who wouldn’t spit on me if I were on fire. I then got to know him better as a friend and I came to find that he is the most charming, interesting, smart, caring and kind person with the biggest heart. I don’t regret marrying him not one bit. He makes me happy and that’s all that matters. That poor guy you’re playing deserves so much better than you. Hopefully he can find someone who values the whole of him and that you’ll learn your lesson that looks aren’t everything. Eventually a pretty face and a nice body grows old and wrinkled over time. Their integrity matters the most.

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You don't deserve him, and he deserves better. Stop prioritizing looks.

Obviously he can do far better. He deserves it.

I understand that people shouldn't prioritize looks, but if she's not physically attracted to him, there's nothing she can do. I'm not a good-looking man by any stretch, but I don't think that if I was able to do all those things for a girl, and she told me that she was not attracted to me, then that's it. There's nothing I could do in that situation. She doesn't owe him anything. He's not her type, leave it at that.

I used to be like you once upon a time. For many years I dated guys that were my type and I always got the same outcome. I then developed a toxic mentality that all men were the same. With the help of a therapist and self-reflection, I realized that I shouldn’t write off potential suitors based on looks, I should instead look for his sense of integrity. When I met my now husband, he was not my usual type. I got annoyed when he would flirt with me. This man worshiped the floor I walked on but I didn’t see that because I was chasing other guys who wouldn’t spit on me if I were on fire. I then got to know him better as a friend and I came to find that he is the most charming, interesting, smart, caring and kind person with the biggest heart. I don’t regret marrying him not one bit. He makes me happy and that’s all that matters. That poor guy you’re playing deserves so much better than you. Hopefully he can find someone who values the whole of him and that you’ll learn your lesson that looks aren’t everything. Eventually a pretty face and a nice body grows old and wrinkled over time. Their integrity matters the most.

He deserves a hard conversation. You are just realizing things, which is GOOD. Now you need to sit down and FACE TO FACE give him the explanation he deserves.

Get over yourself. Maybe he's just a good person. Also, when you see him happy in a relationship with someone who appreciates him, treating her like a queen, you are going to regret not giving him a chance. Although, I do agree with Dumdum123: Physical attraction matters.