Not going out

By not drunk - This FML is from back in 2014 but it's good stuff - Brazil - Santa Maria

Today, I've been one year sober. My health has improved a lot, unlike my social life, which has died a horrible, lonely death. FML
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"Boredom is a disease worse than cancer, drugs cure it." - Doug Stanhope

By Anonymous - 10/06/2025 03:00 - United States - Seattle

Today, after two years of chronic usage, I’m 26 days sober off weed. About 2 months off nicotine. One year off psychedelics. But I’m more bored, lonely, sad, and frustrated than ever. Connections scares me as much as I crave them, and what connections I do make barely scratch the surface. I'm doing my best but it feels the worst. FML
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Corey122726 17

Just goes to show that those people weren't really your friends. There are so many other things in life to occupy your time..... You don't need a type of drug to have a good time.

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thealaskanyoung 14

Hey, sobriety is worth a lot more than shitty friends. Congrats!

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fsomelife 26

Congrats! Stick it out, some things are already improving, the others will, too :)

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dave20012 15

I can't agree to FYL or you deserve it. Probably the best thing you can do is quit drinking. I've quit also lost my "friends" an have energy not to mention money saved in the bank. Now this proves the people you once knew were drinking buddies not friends. Good luck OP

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thunderniron 22

If you're one year sober and you haven't developed a social life then you're either not going to meetings or you're not hanging out after. I had a huge social life at one year clean & sober.

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lvg_fml 10

Congrats. Now you can focus on finding some real friends

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LetMeSleepPlease 23

I'm sorry OP, I was in the exact same position when I went sober at around 16. I've had trouble making friends since then, to this day I only have my partner as a friend, whom I met on craigslist. You can try going to X Anonymous meetings. I assume you mean alcohol, so there are many AA's around each state, and often, more than one per county. If you're not god-fearing, like myself, I suggest going on forums and making online friends to hold over loneliness until fate takes its course. I have many supportive online friends who are willing to help me when I'm in danger of relapse, and they're far more healthy friends that those I had in real life! Good luck OP! Keep strong.

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sturschaedel 27

OP is from Brazil. The AA system isn't that common outside of the US. There might be self-help groups but not as interconnected.

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MJD14 13

having a non existent social life isn't the end of the world, it doesn't have to be. if I were you, I would get out there and perhaps find another lonely soul that would enjoy your company, either that or make friends you would enjoy spending time with who aren't all about the drinking. Best of luck OP!

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skychu 18

I feel something similar to this happens to me, I am more often than not designated driver or driving home at the end of the party, but I'm shy to the point of borderline anti-social when sober/watching how much I am drinking and so I don't socialise but hide in a corner, something that doesn't happen when I drink like a Russian

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