You need to take care of yourself

You said "someone." Did you forget who it is that has dementia? Is it you?

Time to learn how to say no before this goes on for another 20 years and you basically become a prisoner. Put yourself first for once, and tell whoever is left in your family to pull their weight for a change.

You don't have to do it. Tell the family it's time for someone else's turn. You've done more than enough.

Move on with your life! I know what its like to deal with that. I've turned down once in a lifetime opportunities to try to take care of sick family and now I'm just watching my life and happiness fade away over people who don't even appreciate it. If I could do it all over again, I'll tell them good luck and then go live a much better life.

I thought it was just me. Its so sad and draining. Everyone says you are the hero but you wish you werent