Work, Health and Family: I want to break free

I want to break free

By annoyed - 29/11/2021 20:01 - United States - Staten Island

Today, I found out that after caring for all of my family and I’m about to get on with my own life, someone has dementia and I'm right back in the same spot I’ve been forever, stuck again with caring for someone else. This has been going on for 20 years. FML

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By David - 17/08/2023 06:00

Today, after my dad was diagnosed with liver cancer, I'd packed my belongings and quit my job to go help my mom take care of him. Now she's had a stroke, so I spend my days/nights taking care of both of them. The thing is, I have 3 siblings that live within 5 miles that can't lift a finger to help. I love my parents. FML

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By dmachin - 08/02/2010 19:30 - France

Today, I visited my grandmother who has dementia. She thought I was my father, and told me that I should never have married my mother, let alone have had children with her. FML

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Growing old

By Anonymous - 08/10/2021 19:00 - United States - Steele

Today, I'm officially stumped as to whether my mom has early-onset dementia, or if she just has plain bad memory. I've considered having her get tested, but I shudder to think that the person who brought me into this world won't recognize me in about two years if I'm right. FML

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Pants on fire

By Rae - 25/10/2020 08:02

Today, I found out that my mother doesn't have Alzheimer's disease. This would be joyous news, except for the fact that one year prior to this day my grandmother lied to me so that I'd stay closer to home. I've been worrying over a nonexistent illness for an entire year. FML

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Sharing is caring

By Anonymous - 06/05/2020 14:00

Today, nine months after changing my entire life when my father had a stroke and I became his carer full time, I called my sister to talk about some his irrational behavior. All I got in response was, "I just watched a sad movie, I can't deal with this right now." FML

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Back to square one

By nurseITHINKNOT - This FML is from back in 2011 but it's good stuff - United States

Today, I finally started my job as an in-home caregiver. The man I was hired to care for died two hours after I made it to his house. FML

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Vicious circle

By Anonymous - 15/08/2021 10:01

Today, I have a permanent illness. Whenever I'm too unwell to manage the housework or children, my hubby does even less than usual. As soon as I'm well enough, I have a mountain of work to do, which makes me sick again. FML

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By blah - 19/01/2016 20:53 - United States - Frisco

Today, I found out my father didn't have a rare brain disease, and that he was just an alcoholic. I've been taking care of him every time his "brain disease" acts up, for 2 years. FML

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Thanks for the help

By Anonymous - 12/04/2021 14:00

Today, both my mom and I are very ill, while her boyfriend is perfectly fine. Somehow, this means that I’m the one having to take care of my mom, myself, the household and 6 pets, while he does nothing, goes on trips and leaves dirt all over the house when he’s here. FML

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Where there's a will, there's a way

By Alfonso - 03/08/2022 05:00 - United States - Pomona

Today, I got a text from my husband’s adult son offering help. I’ve been my husband’s caretaker for 4 years as he battled Parkinson’s and cancer. His son never called once to offer help; when I asked, he refused. Sadly, my husband passed last month. Now his son is offering help because they can’t find the will. FML

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BurnInDemonFire 33

Tuesday 30 November 2021 2:56

Time to learn how to say no before this goes on for another 20 years and you basically become a prisoner. Put yourself first for once, and tell whoever is left in your family to pull their weight for a change.

historygrad74 19

Tuesday 30 November 2021 2:25

You need to take care of yourself

Comments

historygrad74 19

Tuesday 30 November 2021 2:25

You need to take care of yourself

RichardPencil 30

Tuesday 30 November 2021 2:25

You said "someone." Did you forget who it is that has dementia? Is it you?

BurnInDemonFire 33

Tuesday 30 November 2021 2:56

Hangryko 27

Tuesday 30 November 2021 4:59

You don't have to do it. Tell the family it's time for someone else's turn. You've done more than enough.

KookieLove666 15

Tuesday 30 November 2021 20:05

Move on with your life! I know what its like to deal with that. I've turned down once in a lifetime opportunities to try to take care of sick family and now I'm just watching my life and happiness fade away over people who don't even appreciate it. If I could do it all over again, I'll tell them good luck and then go live a much better life.