By Chelsey5279 - 31/10/2015 04:05 - United States
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I wasn't planning on commenting if this got published, but I decided to create an account to thank you guys for your supportive comments. I also wanted to add that I do know I'm better off, it's just difficult because we have a daughter together. Thankfully I have an amazing support system around me and I don't have to deal with this by myself
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Good. Now you have room to find people that will actually support you in your recovery.
It might be really hard, but if he is worth it, go to the bar and talk, but don't drink. If he isn't worth it leave him be. If he can't accept you for you, don't talk to him ever.
OMG, you two have a kid and he was expecting you to risk a relapse into drinking so he could have fun? Wow, he really is an absolute moron. But that said, are you sure that this is the real reason? Maybe he wanted out and picked the one thing he knew you wouldn't budge on so as to be able to "blame" you for the breakup? Either way he sounds really immature and a dumbass. You're better off without him.
Alcoholics aren't there by choice. I'm trying very hard to stay respectful, but your comment really pisses me off. It's an addiction. That's why they have to have help and support, why its so hard for many to quit, why some might not be able to and lose everything. If they have any alcohol there is a very large chance of them falling back into it. It's not that they party hard or don't know how to drink in moderation, it's that they CANT.
66- Honestly, I don't know if that is his real reason, or if he wanted to be able to leave and blame me. I feel like it probably wasn't the real reason considering how hard I tried to get him to do things together that didn't involve going to the bar or club. I certainly would have had more respect for him if he had just come to me and said our relationship wasn't working for him anymore. 69- There is no such thing as a moderate addict. I am incapable of drinking in moderation and I will never be able to drink in moderation. It's all or nothing. I'm one drink away from drinking myself to death and I always will be.
Don't take this the wrong way, because yes it's wrong to ask someone in your your position to go to a bar, but depending on how long you have been sober couldn't you just go and have fun and be a designated driver?
No worries, I don't mind answering questions unless someone is being an asshole about it. No matter how long I'm sober, I will never be able to go have fun at a bar and not want to drink. As much as my head may try to convince me that I'm strong enough to go to a bar and not drink, I know that's not true. It's part of being an addict