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By wakesnow - 01/06/2016 07:54 - New Zealand - Auckland

Today, I found out that the only thing that would fix my uncontrollable anger and near-constant panic attacks is medication. Today, I also found put that under no conditions would my mother allow me access to this medication. FML
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InfiniteSunshine 32

This is disgusting and unacceptable. Clearly the medication is necessary, considering the severity of your condition. Your mother is being irresponsible and in a way, abusive, by not allowing you access to medication that is essentially required for you to have a normal life. Unfortunately, parents have basically all the say over their Child's healthcare until we become an adult, usually age 18. I know it probably won't help as much, but try going to therapy, if you're mom will allow it, if she won't, there's decent online sources too. Try meditation and calming activities to try and sooth your anger and anxiety as well. You might just have to wait until you come of age, then I'd get on the meds, and cut your mom off. She doesn't know what you go through, so she has no idea whether or not you need the meds. She is making you suffer for no reason, this all creates stress and would just serve to worsen your condition. She should be listening to you, it's your health, not hers.

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smallandroid 26

Does your school have decent counselors? Is there anyone outside that you could talk to? This is incredibly dangerous to your health and your mother shouldn't be able to deny something to you that you absolutely need. Don't give up, OP.

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InfiniteSunshine 32

This is disgusting and unacceptable. Clearly the medication is necessary, considering the severity of your condition. Your mother is being irresponsible and in a way, abusive, by not allowing you access to medication that is essentially required for you to have a normal life. Unfortunately, parents have basically all the say over their Child's healthcare until we become an adult, usually age 18. I know it probably won't help as much, but try going to therapy, if you're mom will allow it, if she won't, there's decent online sources too. Try meditation and calming activities to try and sooth your anger and anxiety as well. You might just have to wait until you come of age, then I'd get on the meds, and cut your mom off. She doesn't know what you go through, so she has no idea whether or not you need the meds. She is making you suffer for no reason, this all creates stress and would just serve to worsen your condition. She should be listening to you, it's your health, not hers.

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wakesnow 13

OP here. My mother doesnt know the full severity of it, but she knows there's something pretty wrong. My father has a history of mental health issues, and it's highly stigmatised in my family. I had to find out what he was being treated for online after they wouldnt tell me. I'm currently in therapy/counselling but it isn't helping that much (partly because i cant go as often as i should because they're really busy-the reason i dont go somewhere else is this one is free), and there's not great online support where i live. I'm planning on it, or seeing if i can get the meds without her knowing somehow, since i know it works for some things. Here they tend to prioritise a child's health over parent's wishes (if the child wants it) but only in some cases so im not sure if it'll apply

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InfiniteSunshine 32

I'm sorry to hear all that OP, seems your family is not very accepting of the fact that mental health problems exist. Unfortunately, that can be the case a lot of the time. I really hope you can bypass your mom's permission for this medication. Try really hard to do so, and be demanding, you often have to advocate for yourself within the medical system, especially regarding mental health, speaking from experience. Also, if your family ever criticizes you for it, don't just sit back and take it, sometimes you can criticize them back, I like to remind these types of people that the brain and mind is an organ, and it can have issues just like any other part of the body. If that will cause too much upheaval though, just walk away, you don't need to hear their ignorance and it's not healthy for your condition either. I wish you the best of luck OP, and I hope you get better.

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InfiniteSunshine 32

I'm sorry to hear all that OP, seems your family is not very accepting of the fact that mental health problems exist. Unfortunately, that can be the case a lot of the time. I really hope you can bypass your mom's permission for this medication. Try really hard to do so, and be demanding, you often have to advocate for yourself within the medical system, especially regarding mental health, speaking from experience. Also, if your family ever criticizes you for it, don't just sit back and take it, sometimes you can criticize them back, I like to remind these types of people that the brain and mind is an organ, and it can have issues just like any other part of the body. If that will cause too much upheaval though, just walk away, you don't need to hear their ignorance and it's not healthy for your condition either. I wish you the best of luck OP, and I hope you get better.

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InfiniteSunshine 32

I'm sorry to hear all that OP, seems your family is not very accepting of the fact that mental health problems exist. Unfortunately, that can be the case a lot of the time. I really hope you can bypass your mom's permission for this medication. Try really hard to do so, and be demanding, you often have to advocate for yourself within the medical system, especially regarding mental health, speaking from experience. Also, if your family ever criticizes you for it, don't just sit back and take it, sometimes you can criticize them back, I like to remind these types of people that the brain and mind is an organ, and it can have issues just like any other part of the body. If that will cause too much upheaval though, just walk away, you don't need to hear their ignorance and it's not healthy for your condition either. I wish you the best of luck OP, and I hope you get better.

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InfiniteSunshine 32

I'm sorry to hear all that OP, seems your family is not very accepting of the fact that mental health problems exist. Unfortunately, that can be the case a lot of the time. I really hope you can bypass your mom's permission for this medication. Try really hard to do so, and be demanding, you often have to advocate for yourself within the medical system, especially regarding mental health, speaking from experience. Also, if your family ever criticizes you for it, don't just sit back and take it, sometimes you can criticize them back, I like to remind these types of people that the brain and mind is an organ, and it can have issues just like any other part of the body. If that will cause too much upheaval though, just walk away, you don't need to hear their ignorance and it's not healthy for your condition either. I wish you the best of luck OP, and I hope you get better.

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InfiniteSunshine 32

I'm sorry to hear all that OP, seems your family is not very accepting of the fact that mental health problems exist. Unfortunately, that can be the case a lot of the time. I really hope you can bypass your mom's permission for this medication. Try really hard to do so, and be demanding, you often have to advocate for yourself within the medical system, especially regarding mental health, speaking from experience. Also, if your family ever criticizes you for it, don't just sit back and take it, sometimes you can criticize them back, I like to remind these types of people that the brain and mind is an organ, and it can have issues just like any other part of the body. If that will cause too much upheaval though, just walk away, you don't need to hear their ignorance and it's not healthy for your condition either. I wish you the best of luck OP, and I hope you get better.

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InfiniteSunshine 32

I'm sorry to hear all that OP, seems your family is not very accepting of the fact that mental health problems exist. Unfortunately, that can be the case a lot of the time. I really hope you can bypass your mom's permission for this medication. Try really hard to do so, and be demanding, you often have to advocate for yourself within the medical system, especially regarding mental health, speaking from experience. Also, if your family ever criticizes you for it, don't just sit back and take it, sometimes you can criticize them back, I like to remind these types of people that the brain and mind is an organ, and it can have issues just like any other part of the body. If that will cause too much upheaval though, just walk away, you don't need to hear their ignorance and it's not healthy for your condition either. I wish you the best of luck OP, and I hope you get better.

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InfiniteSunshine 32

I'm sorry to hear all that OP, seems your family is not very accepting of the fact that mental health problems exist. Unfortunately, that can be the case a lot of the time. I really hope you can bypass your mom's permission for this medication. Try really hard to do so, and be demanding, you often have to advocate for yourself within the medical system, especially regarding mental health, speaking from experience. Also, if you're family ever criticizes you for it, don't just sit back and take it, I like to remind these types of people that the brain and mind is an organ, and it can have issues just like any other part of the body. If that will cause too much upheaval, just walk away, you don't need to hear their ignorance and it's not healthy for your condition either. I wish you the best of luck OP, and I hope you get better.

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wakesnow 13

Like i said in reply to another commenter, they should be because my dad has mental health issues too (which he's medicated for). I'm currently seeing a counsellor, so hopefully that goes somewhere

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smallandroid 26

Does your school have decent counselors? Is there anyone outside that you could talk to? This is incredibly dangerous to your health and your mother shouldn't be able to deny something to you that you absolutely need. Don't give up, OP.

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wakesnow 13

OP here. My school has reasonable counsellors, but i dont feel comfortable going to see them considering my dad is a teacher..... I'm seeing a counsellor outside of school, after referral from my doctor (who recommended the medication), but thats a recent thing

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surewhynotme 4

Don't say that it is the only way. It's better to do it without drugs if you can. The last thing you need is to build up a dependency. Drugs aren't always the answer. The again, I have no idea who you are and maybe you need it to stay safe.

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wakesnow 13

Having been through therapy and stuff, i can say with pretty much certainty that i need medication. And specifically because of the anger.... Lets just say when you can't control your anger bad things happen. To keep myself and people around me safe, i need to control it and nothing i have tried (which is pretty much everything except medication) has had any affect

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InfiniteSunshine 32

First of all the term is medication, not drugs. The use of the term drugs makes it sound illegal and bad, and taking medication for a disorder is not a bad thing. Even if the first thing a person tries and resorts to is medication, it does mean they're worse than people who manage without medication. There's already stigma associated with mental health and taking medication for it, the last thing we need is people saying stuff like this which propagates these problems.

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sturschaedel 27

#5's comment is bullsh*t. It's like saying "It sucks that you have to get your wisdom teeth out, but do it without pain medication because it's always better to deal with the pain with your mind". Or "You might've pneumonia and you are already in really critical condition, but don't take antibiotics, you might get resistant." OP, the important thing is that you get your problems under control, nobody is going to ask HOW you did it in the end. It seems like you've exhausted most of the less invasive methods, so do all you can to get your hands on the medication you need! I really hope for you to get better and find a stable psychic balance!

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