By AdamTB - 21/07/2015 17:45 - United States

Today, I attended a new class at college. It was a class to help people with Asperger's adjust to college, which my parents pushed me into taking. It was incredibly condescending and insulting, and it felt like a class for preschoolers. My parents won't let me drop the class. FML
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AdamTB 26

Huh, surprised this got published. Anyway, a lot of the comments are about me just taking control and dropping it and that’s probably not going to change, so I’ll just comment the reason why I haven’t now. Due to my Asperger’s, my parents feel like I am not self-sufficient and I cannot make my own decisions. Naturally, this is completely false. However, due to college being ungodly expensive, I’m living with them until I can become financially stable. Now then, onto the problem. Dropping the class is a great idea in theory, but that’s not going to happen in practice. Trust me, if I could then I would. If I drop the class, my parents will definitely know. They will then proceed to, for lack of a better phrase, bitch me out for dropping it without consulting them (which I have done, and they refused to let me drop it). They are not abusive, but can be relentless and admittedly scary at times. I’d rather take a demeaning class than have to deal with them. Does that sound like a childish reason? If it does, I don’t blame you. I’ve always been constantly told that I’m mentally and emotionally a few years behind normal people. Sometimes, I don’t know whether to believe it or not. Regardless, my best option is to just move forward with the class no matter what happens. Also, this is probably going to be brought up so I’ll just talk about it now: no, I cannot move out. They will not let me as they do not believe I could survive by myself yet. Even if I were to just run away and move out, I still don’t have the finances to buy a even an apartment room and continue with college.

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You're in college now, you get to make your own decisions.

You're an adult. Make your own decisions


Great thing about college is you don't need your parents to get you out of it, you can go do it on your own.

OP's parents might be paying for their college so op has to do what they're told.

just don't show up for the class

AdamTB 26

#20 - no matter how bad the class is, I'd still rather get a grade on my transcript for it instead of being a no-show.

Unless it's a non-credit seminar class. Hard to say without more info.

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Also, the class couldn't possibly be required for your major. So I see no point in it.

tantanpanda 26

^do you live under a rock? Lots of college classes DO count attendance with a clicker device. Plus, there are clicker questions which you need to be present for, or you get a zero. Daily grades and hw don't weight a lot (around 8%) but I'll take the free gpa booster. Even if It's not required, you ARE required to have a certain amount of hours outside of your major, or more commonly known as elective classes.

You're in college now, you get to make your own decisions.

Unless OP's parents are paying tuition

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and if you're still working on getting a job, like many of us are in this shitty economy? what then?

You're an adult. Make your own decisions

Time to cut the cord

My parents couldn't control what classes I took in college. Neither can yours. You are attending for yourself and your future.

Although he may be in college, he might be supported financially by his parents. If that is the case he might have to (or feel obligated to) listen to them. However if you feel you don't want to take the class, then you need to stick up for yourself.

You're the master of your own destiny. Don't let your parents control what you want to do with your college career.

why did this get a thumbs down?

#32, probably because 5 people have already told OP to stand up for himself and 5 other people have already responded that he may not be able to do that because his parents pay his tuition.

jimmer23 21

You're doing it for all the wrong reasons. When my parents did something similar my first semester, I took control by taking out loans. College is for you, not them.

Are you seventeen? Do you need their signature on a drop/add form to change classes? If not, weigh the pros and cons and make an adult decision and stand by it.

tiredofwaiting 25

Your parents cannot control you. You are an adult. You have the right to make decisions for yourself. From the sounds of it. It seems like you are doing this for your parents. You should never stay at something just because it is what your parents want. Do it because you are passionate about it.

If you actually do have Asperger's, OP, I would like to show support. I know friends that have it as well and heard about the troubles it causes. That being said, don't be afraid to change things without consulting your parents, especially if you don't like it. This is for your future :) not theirs.