This is a Nearly FML. It’s an FML, nearly. It got positive votes from the users, by wasn’t approved by our team.
By MsPoorEtiquette
Today, at on-the-job etiquette training, I was asked to leave the room for being disrespectful. Why? The trainer said that women should not dress as if they were looking for a man at work. I dared to suggest that this should not be part of etiquette training. FML
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By  BurnInDemonFire  |  30

You're wrong about that. Appropriate dress goes hand-in-hand with job performance for many businesses, and your trainer was right to call you out on it. If you'd listened to the one person who knew what they were talking about, you wouldn't have this problem.

By  sunnyray812  |  42

If your appearance is giving off an "I'm looking to seduce someone" vibe, you ARE disrespecting the company. It's considered unprofessional in the workforce to show cleavage and have very short shorts or skirt. Every job has a dress code, and it is your responsibility to follow it. YDI

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By  sunnyray812  |  42

If your appearance is giving off an "I'm looking to seduce someone" vibe, you ARE disrespecting the company. It's considered unprofessional in the workforce to show cleavage and have very short shorts or skirt. Every job has a dress code, and it is your responsibility to follow it. YDI

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  nemcali  |  34

The FML does not say that OP was dressing inappropriately. OP just didn’t appreciate the poor choice of wording. Also men should dress appropriately, why every assumes that this applies to only women?

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  sunnyray812  |  42

It's true that the FML doesn't state it, but the rule still applies, and she was also being disrespectful in the sense that she spoke up to say what rule should not apply. It is not her company, so she does not get to make that decision. As far as males go, they normally don't dress appropriately anyway. Of all the places I worked and went to school, I haven't seen one male dress inappropriately. However, I can't say the same for women since I witness it all the time.

By  BurnInDemonFire  |  30

You're wrong about that. Appropriate dress goes hand-in-hand with job performance for many businesses, and your trainer was right to call you out on it. If you'd listened to the one person who knew what they were talking about, you wouldn't have this problem.

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  Callyn  |  47

Except it really doesn't. In face to face sale, sometimes, but most of the time people are more productive if they are comfortable.

That's before getting into how sexist dress dress codes are, where the majority of the rules are around what women can wear and the clothing that women are expected to wear is already sexualized but women are expected to thread a needle and not go too far and distract the men, it's a mess.

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It counts everywhere. Even if you work somewhere that doesn't have the company logo on its uniform, they still expect you to dress well, as it reflects on the image of the business. It might not matter too much to a small mom & pop store run by one family for 100 years, but to many corporations, from Target, to Apple, request that staff look respectable enough that people will continue to shop with them. And then there are other places, restaurants, hotels, law firms, etc., which make their employees wear something more presentable than just smart-casual pants, and a polo shirt. And since OP went for etiquette training, I think she probably works somewhere nicer than Walmart, so the standards are way higher.

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  Callyn  |  47

That's face to face sales. Office jobs, it literally does not matter. Have you seen what Google employees dress like? I'm not saying that the management doesn't care what OP wears, but if she's working in an office it shouldn't matter and whatever dress code exists is certain to be sexist.

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  Selene1090  |  26

I think both are wrong. The trainer should not have put it in such a sexist way, and OP should realize that most jobs have a dress code and it is definitely a part of etiquette training.

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  nemcali  |  34

She could have said “business casual dress code is required “ instead of making an old fashion sexist comment so no OP was right to call the trainer out.

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Forgot about this one. Google made a point of allowing employees to wear casual clothes, have a rec room or whatever for them to relax in, to show that staff didn't need a suit and tie to make a business work. And given their status, they would appear to be right. I personally agree with that method, and I took my job based on their no uniform policy alone. However, there are still tons of businesses out there that think the right look equals bigger profit margin. It's old-fashioned, and most likely sexist, but to a lot of CEOs out there, image matters. And again, on-the-job etiquette training is something organized by companies that want their employees to look good, behave correctly, and improve profits, so I'd be very surprised if OP worked in admin.

By  Juraj Repinac  |  5

Work somewhere? Grow up and accept what's told you. Fighting with your betters will only get you fired. Rules exist for a reason, and each company has their own set of rules. You're just an employee, so keep your head down and do what's asked of you, or find another company to work for.

By  onceuponatime456  |  16

Grow up snowflake! You do NOT go to work looking like you are heading for the local meat market (bar). This type of crap is caused by the failure of business schools to teach dress codes. When I was on college we had a "business dress" day every Friday. The first Friday I looked at the students that were in "business dress" and then asked the school principal if Friday was "dress for the bar" day. She put her head down and said, I know, but what can we do! Pathetic!

By  Rabite  |  28

A dresscode and some made-up sexist rules are something really different.
And even the dresscode might be way sexier than normal clothes. Plus with non-sexy clothes co-workers will still hit on you. So what's the point of this made up etiquette except of being sexist and stupid?

By  TxKitten79  |  10

If women dressed appropriately at work, trainers wouldn't have to make these statements during training sessions. Unfortunately these conversations are needed in today's workplace.

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  Callyn  |  47

Define 'appropriate'. Some people define it as 'wear a burkha'. Men never have that problem and are never blamed for dressing in a way that is attractive or distracting to women.

Also, try going shopping for 'appropriate' women's clothes sometime. Take a woman who is willing to associate with you to model them, because many of the ones on the rack don't look as 'appropriate' once they're being worn. See what you find.

By  nrvanagrl  |  6

Every single one of you except for nemcali are completely missing the point. OP isn't against talking about dress codes in etiquette class, OP is against the sexist way the instructor worded the comment.