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By Kayaker - / Sunday 26 March 2017 20:00 /
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By  Soninuva  |  40

We're both of you clear on the purpose of the retreat? Often times lack of clear communication can result in individual interpretations that don't line up. For example, you may have phrased it as an opportunity to be free of the kids, and your wife may have seen it as a chance to get things done (in this case for the kids) without having to worry about your kids.

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By  Soninuva  |  40

We're both of you clear on the purpose of the retreat? Often times lack of clear communication can result in individual interpretations that don't line up. For example, you may have phrased it as an opportunity to be free of the kids, and your wife may have seen it as a chance to get things done (in this case for the kids) without having to worry about your kids.

By  jfsiv  |  16

Yes, it really doesn't sound like your wife understands what a marriage retreat is about. The most successful marriage is one where you put your spouse first. you have to have that foundation to build a family on. Unfortunately too many people think of, and put, their kids first.

By  cacheson  |  38

Why don't you go with them? Maybe spend some quality bonding time with everyone and also give yourself the chance to talk to your wife about what you were hoping to get out of the retreat while kids are trying things on in the dressing room. As opposed to just staying home, isolating and feeling sorry for yourself.

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  siggy_mcsigx  |  18

Married couples need romantic couple time though. It's sometimes ridiculous the extent to which the kids come before anything else (the relationship of spouses).

By  GhostFox  |  33

Sounds like she might be having some anxiety about being away from the kids. Maybe she could trying calling them in the morning and afternoon/night, and dedicate only that time to them while the vacation is on going. Otherwise... plan something and take her somewhere with a "don't think about the kids" rule.

By  BeccaSedai  |  7

How do you shop for shoes for someone else if they're not there to try the shoes on? Sounds like she's avoiding you. You don't need a marriage retreat, you need a marriage counselor.

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  GhostFox  |  33

Uh, by knowing their shoe size and being willing to exchange them at a local store or give them away. Not rocket science. This is more likely to be her being anxious about being away from the kids, especially if it's the first time she's been away from them for more than a day.

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