Christ, OP, I’m so sorry. Your ex is a piece of work.

It’s not « because she …. » but because my cheating husband couldn’t bear having been caught in the act and threw us out. It’s mainly her life that’s been F. up. Trauma from seeing it, trauma from the divorce, from being thrown out, and from hearing that the problem was that she discovered it. Hope it was just a mistake in communication and that you are supporting your child. You are better without this disgusting human that threw his family out because of his own mistake. Get child support from him if applicable.

Don't tell your daughter that it was because she saw it. Don't put any kind of guilt on her. It's her daddys fault, and only his!

I’m so so sorry for what you’re going through. Rob him dry of everything in the divorce. What a POS. You and your daughter will figure it out ❤️ best of luck to you

you're literally making this her fault and that's not ok

Why is HE not being kicked out and, depending on the age of the babysitter, arrested?

I'm so sorry, OP. Do everything you can to keep your home and get him to leave. Don't tell your daughter how this started. What an asshole your husband is.

At least she learned a good lesson about being a rat. She learned "snitches get stitches" the easy way.

If you don't do everything you can to make sure your daughter understands that this is ENTIRELY your ex and the babysitters fault and not hers in the slightest, you would be a really horrible mother. I get the whole instinct to shoot the messenger but you seriously need to reel that crap in right now. Even if you didn't mean it to come across as blaming her for catching them, that's how it IS coming across. I'm sorry that your Ex is a cheating streak of bastard cold piss but that has nothing to do with your daughter. You need a safe place to stay, a divorce lawyer and a therapist for yourself and your daughter.