Hold on. I'm going to need to draw a graph to figure this one the **** out. Do you have any red yarn and push pins?

I don’t think there are any winners in this situation. I’m so sorry.

I feel like the advice for most relationship problems is to talk about it. If he is no longer to do certain things you need, then maybe talk about a problem solver on the the side. but either way, talk and figure things out before jumping to the worst.

History repeating itself once again, first as tragedy and second as farce.

Oh god, as a male with a back injury with a previous failed marriage from my ex wife using it as an excuse to cheat on me, holy crap am I familiar with this! I’m sorry to hear this scenario. I understand it’s fantasy, but that’s what it is. PLEASE don’t turn it into reality like me ex did. Getting PTSD from this scenario turning real has ****** me up in more ways than one. That said, please communicate with your hubby about the fact you are having these, and listen to him if you ask to propose solutions. Depending on the disability, you both may have to be open about different ways of having sex, or using longer foreplay to help achieve ****** easier. Just whatever you do, don’t throw insults, or say “because you are injured, I can’t have sex” or anything like that. Trust me, the guy knows, and probably feels just as horrible about not being able to meet the needs. This sounds as well couples counseling might help open lines of communication, but chances are, your husband feels horrible as it is very depressing to know you can’t perform an essential function. My current wife still deals with this, but we do somewhat try to find new things or ways we can both be happy. Ours has been hindered so much still that trying for kids is difficult as well