By meltingturtle - 02/08/2016 03:25

Today, I was talking with my girlfriend. We both have family issues, so we'd agreed to open up to each other today. Turns out I'm dating my cousin. FML
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OP here. Here's your follow up. My mom and her brother had a rocky relationship. She moved to the west coast some twenty years ago, and never talks about my uncle. I know of him, but never met him due to problems between them. I moved out of state for college, and met my girlfriend there. I'd only been told I had a cousin once, pretty much in passing. My gf and I were both talking, and she mentioned how her dad, named David, was bipolar and had several issues. I asked if she had any aunts or anything cause that sounded a hell of a lot like my estranged uncle my mom hardly talks about. She was all, 'yeah, but my dad never talks about her. Her name is Emily or something I think?' And I was like 'o shit that's my mom'. It was super awkward. I'd known my uncle had a daughter, and she knew her aunt had two. Thing is, I'm a trans boy who goes by a completely name, so we never really figured it out until now. Hope it makes more sense to y'all now.

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kusje 30

Hey, at least you have a lot in common with each other!

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Just remember, there's nothing wrong with dating your cousin. It's very common. If you love her and she loves you, that's all that matters. Hopefully, your mother and her father aren't dragged into it.

Where's all this 'trans people don't have kids' rubbish come from....

This couple couldn't eaisly produce children because the op is a trans man and is dating a cis woman. They don't have the equipement for genetic exchange and recombination because neither of them produce sperm. It isn't that trans people don't have kids, it's that because this man is trans he probably won't make genetic offspring with this partner, or any cis woman, without trying very hard and spending a lot of money if possible at all.

Mortoli 30

well hope you havent gotten too far in the relationship lol. or is it still goin?

x10 15

I have about 5 or 6 aunts and uncles I've never met who I'm sure have kids. I actually met one of my cousins at a party and figured out we were cousins months later that God nothingness happened romantically with him but you never know what could happen.

I believe the correct wording is "I was dating my cousin"...

I know the pain. I don't really know anyone on my father's side of the dany. Had know this guy for years, we were great mates. My best friend kept going on about how cute we would be together because we both had the same kind of blonde hair. A few years after we first met we decided to give it a go. We both have messed up families. I knew I had an uncle who shared a name with him and jokingly asked if he was named after his father. He was. I also knew my father's mothers name and asked if that was his grandma as well. It was. I had known my cousin for 5 years without knowing...

The only thing that would make this worse is if you had kids together. So sorry OP. FYL in the ass.

haveyou000 22

That sounds like way more family issues than it helped solve by talking about them