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This is a Nearly FML. It’s an FML, nearly. It got positive votes from the users, by wasn’t approved by our team.
By rmsutton - / Monday 27 August 2018 23:30 /
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By  rmsutton  |  19

OP here!

My first published FML! Yay!

I've always had a rocky relationship with my dad and stepmom... So while this was the tip of the iceberg that made me finally decide to be done with them, it's been a long time coming.

And how my mom knew, was because they told my sister where they were - and not to tell me. So she told my mom and told HER they said not to tell me because she thought I deserved to know. My mom tells me pretty much everything, and my sister knows this.

But really? Who visits a place they KNOW is less than 15 minutes from the kid they only see a couple times a year because of the distance and doesn't at least say "Hey, we're in the neighborhood, let's get dinner!" My husband and I have met these friends before, and none of us would've minded. And, like I said, this is just the tip of a very large iceberg.

So yeah, I've decided if they want a "Christmas only" relationship with me, that's what they're gonna get. Cuz I'm done.

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By  rmsutton  |  19

OP here!

My first published FML! Yay!

I've always had a rocky relationship with my dad and stepmom... So while this was the tip of the iceberg that made me finally decide to be done with them, it's been a long time coming.

And how my mom knew, was because they told my sister where they were - and not to tell me. So she told my mom and told HER they said not to tell me because she thought I deserved to know. My mom tells me pretty much everything, and my sister knows this.

But really? Who visits a place they KNOW is less than 15 minutes from the kid they only see a couple times a year because of the distance and doesn't at least say "Hey, we're in the neighborhood, let's get dinner!" My husband and I have met these friends before, and none of us would've minded. And, like I said, this is just the tip of a very large iceberg.

So yeah, I've decided if they want a "Christmas only" relationship with me, that's what they're gonna get. Cuz I'm done.

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  chosha_fml  |  25

Good choice. You can’t make family actually act like family, but you can choose not to have toxic people in your life. Sounds like your mum and sister have your back.

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  rmsutton  |  19

Yes. Yes it is.

Like I said in my previous comment, this is just the last straw in a lifelong chain of stuff they've done. I've told myself I was done with them before but it never stuck. Deep down, I was always still the child wanting her father's love and approval.

Things they've done include:

Brainwashing my sibling and me against our mother.

Literally ignoring me on mandatory weekend visits because I didn't like sports and that's literally all they did.

Never making it to any school event (even when they said they would) to the point I s
stopped telling them about them WHEN I WAS 12 because I was tired of looking for them in the crowd and never seeing them, and they'd give me a flimsy excuse after.

And that's just childhood stuff. And just to me. My sibling got it worse, because the brainwashing mentioned above actually caused him to choose living with them over mom.

In adulthood they've been trying for years to rewrite my childhood for me. I saw them every other weekend and they had me for one or two weeks each summer.

But they "raised 3 kids" and, in their eyes, were picture perfect parents and deny any wrongdoing on their part at all. This rewrite only started when they realized I was the only one of their children who was going to have money in the future.

So, yeah. This upset me. It upset me more than it should have with our past.

But it upset me enough to finally have the strength to be dome with them.

By  raven_of_azarath  |  23

Sounds exactly like my dad. He and his new wife moved from another state to 45 minutes away, and I haven’t seen him once. And he’s even eaten at restaurants right down the road from me and never said a word.

By  rodfergie  |  13

I have visited EVERY member of my immediate family, at least once every 5 years (we all live in different states). Not one single member of my family has ever come to visit me in 32 years.

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  rmsutton  |  19

Yeah, I've driven to visit them pretty much every time I've seen them in the past 4 years since I moved 3 hours away. They've been down to visit me twice in that time - once when I lived in my apartment 4 years ago, and once shortly after I bought my house.

What especially made this hurt is not even 2 months ago, my husband and I drove 6 hours round trip on a Sunday, starting when my husband got off work, to be there for my dad's 50th birthday party.

But he comes within 15 minutes of me and it's all "don't tell *me* we were there"...

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  rmsutton  |  19

Yeah, I've driven to visit them pretty much every time I've seen them in the past 4 years since I moved 3 hours away. They've been down to visit me twice in that time - once when I lived in my apartment 4 years ago, and once shortly after I bought my house.

What especially made this hurt is not even 2 months ago, my husband and I drove 6 hours round trip on a Sunday, starting when my husband got off work, to be there for my dad's 50th birthday party.

But he comes within 15 minutes of me and it's all "don't tell *me* we were there"...

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