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By bad guy - 20/05/2016 14:04 - United States - Chesapeake

Today, after talking to an attorney about my divorce and letting him know I had been nice with sharing custody of my children, I was told I have to take the children away from their father completely in order to get any sort of assistance from the father. I have to tell the kids. FML
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GhostFox 33

I feel like it's important to know if OP and kids would be entirely dependent on whatever the husband paid- court mandated child support isn't the best amount of income to raise kids on. If it would put OP and the kids below poverty or otherwise in financial duress for all of their care to come from the husband, it would be best for the kids if they lived with him. That's assuming that the lawyer isn't lying out his ass to drag out the case to earn more money from the case- I think it might be likely, even. Though I don't know how it works in Virginia, I know that more than a few states handle it based off custody ratio. Like if one of the parents has custody for 75% of the month, the other has 25% custody, they take the child support fee amount that would be the payment and subtract 25%. That's how it worked for my cousins- they're father had something like 60% custody, so their mother had to pay 60% of what it would have been if she gave up full custody. Which, she later did because she preferred being an emotionally neglectful and abusive alcoholic to being a parent. So the child support was reassessed (not sure how typical that is, though) and she had to pay the full amount. That said, not a lawyer, but something about this still smells off and I'd suggest getting a second opinion somehow.

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ImagineCrazy 27

The court doesn't need to know if he still sees the kids (;

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Unlucky1232 20

well.... ****. that's all i can say. ****

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Mr_Mole 24

Divorce lawyers are parasites. Keep it amicable for the kids sake. Divorces scar kids enough.

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GhostFox 33

I feel like it's important to know if OP and kids would be entirely dependent on whatever the husband paid- court mandated child support isn't the best amount of income to raise kids on. If it would put OP and the kids below poverty or otherwise in financial duress for all of their care to come from the husband, it would be best for the kids if they lived with him. That's assuming that the lawyer isn't lying out his ass to drag out the case to earn more money from the case- I think it might be likely, even. Though I don't know how it works in Virginia, I know that more than a few states handle it based off custody ratio. Like if one of the parents has custody for 75% of the month, the other has 25% custody, they take the child support fee amount that would be the payment and subtract 25%. That's how it worked for my cousins- they're father had something like 60% custody, so their mother had to pay 60% of what it would have been if she gave up full custody. Which, she later did because she preferred being an emotionally neglectful and abusive alcoholic to being a parent. So the child support was reassessed (not sure how typical that is, though) and she had to pay the full amount. That said, not a lawyer, but something about this still smells off and I'd suggest getting a second opinion somehow.

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ImagineCrazy 27

The court doesn't need to know if he still sees the kids (;

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smallandroid 26

Wow, what the ****? When my parents divorced I still saw my dad 5 days out of every 2 weeks, and he still paid plenty of child support to my mom. Do court systems care about children at all these days??

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