Are you blaming your year of unemployment on your pregnant girlfriend needing the occasional emotional support? That’s ridiculous. You don’t get work done bc you’re not doing your work, not because of her.

Oh god I've been there. Being with someone who is so toxic that THEY are more important than actually getting your lives in order. Because you always have to drop everything for them immediately and can never consistently keep a job or get anything done around the house because you're always catering to their issues.

I can't make a judgement on this without knowing all the issues going on. Damage has probably been spread out over time/space to reduce impact, but stress adds up. Don't place the blame on a single person, work through the issues. There's probably a lot of misunderstandings going on. I know I'm confused reading this. All we can do is try our best.