By MymB612 - 24/12/2013 06:50 - Lebanon - Beirut

Today, my mom called to bestow upon me warm holiday pearls of wisdom: "I hope you aren't giving everyone your natural handmade eco-shit again. Gifts should be returnable. And have a price." FML
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I didn't realize I wasn't signed in when I posted that one. It's cool that got published! I love making handmade gifts, I think it's so much more personal and intimate to make something for someone that you know they'll appreciate. And by the way, to the meanies, I am indeed broke right now but that wasn't why I made handmade presents (I was very comfortable financially last year and made homemade stuff anyway, it's about the time and effort I choose to put into them, not their monetary value). Also, I am not trying to push my views on anyone, except maybe the belief that the more time and effort you put into something, the more it's worth. I'm an atheist lesbian by the way, and I still spent a month making gifts for a holiday I don't even believe in for my mostly uber-religious homophobic family, just because I know it would make them happy. So don't tell me about pushing my views on anyone, I respect their freedom of opinion just as I expect them to respect mine (not an easy feat in Lebanon, but I digress). Also, no, I am not making them home-made manure or a frame with some stickers on. I made them balms and lotions, personalized to their needs. Odorless moisturizing cream for my pregnant cousin. Natural heating pad for my grandma with arthiritis. Shaving cream for my uncle who has super sensitive skin. Foot scrub for my brother who spends his work hours on his feet. Healing balm for cuts and burns for my cousin who spends his weekends camping and hiking. Stuff like that. About my mom, the reason she gave me that ill-worded comment is because last year I had knitted a hat for my grandma, which turned out to be too small for her head (I had miscalculated), and also I had made a scented cooling pad that leaked a few days later, so she insisted that had I bought store-bought items there would be no problem. Yeah, she's like that. But hey, I understand this particular holiday is supposed to be about forgiveness, is it not? So I dealt with her as follows: I made her a gift anyway (Topical pain-relief cream for her sore muscles, she had a surgery last year and the muscles on her back hurt in the cold) but I didn't put it under the tree with the rest of the presents. She seemed so vexed and saddened. I went and talked to her and told her that I chose not to give her a present, since she doesn't appreciate the time and thought I put into them (and money, materials, hello). She apologized for her comment and said I was right and she was being mean because she had a very tough day and lashed out at me. Then she told me my presents for everyone were awesome, and I gave her hers. Made her doubly smile! So, all is well that ends well I suppose. I made sure she knew that she hurt my feelings, and got aknowledgment and an apology. What more can I ask for? Wow this post turned out huge, sorry for the eyesore :P Thank for the hilarious comments and warm support. Made me glad to feel that people still remember what they are celebrating, and appreciate the thought behind gifts more than their monetary value. Oh and for the couple of Lebanese peeps I saw in the comments, yen3ad 3laykon w 3a 3yelkon bel kheir :)

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MikaykayUnicorn 36

I wish I knew you, I would LOVE to get homemade stuff as a gift! (I'm not being sarcastic, I love creativity and that's really cool!)

Wow that's incredibly ungrateful. Don't get her anything at all OP.

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Your mom isn't Ayn Rand by any chance?

Handmade gifts are a lot more thoughtful than any bought gift.

that's actually a good talent to be able to make lotions and creams, and other handmade stuff. That's a very big asset that's sadly vanishing

SailorSolaris 43

I have to agree, OP. I prefer handmade gifts too. Just wish I was as talented as you are. I mainly try Origami or art projects, though I also try to do crochet or embroidery (sadly a vanishing skill).

I hate self made presents, that sounds materialistic but unless it's a song or other art form, it just feels cheap especially when you try really hard to buy others presents then they get you like a kmart home brand soap or self made sock

Uh, have you ever tried to make a sock? I knit socks all the time and between sock yarn being ridiculously expensive and the fact that you're using very, very tiny needles, one single pair of homemade socks can cost $15 in materials and hours in time. Not to mention the time it takes to learn basic knitting, then knitting in the round, then turning a heel, then working the toe, pattern making, custom sizing, etc. That sock you're hating on is the product of hundreds of hours of experience, effort and learning. But you know, buying some plastic trinket at the mall is way better or whatever.

KaywinnetLeeFrye 15

I'll send you my sugar scrub if you send me some lotion! I love that stuff.

I love having homemade gifts, my sister does it all the time, it's not about the value it's about the thought, if someone bought be a £30,000 car I wouldn't care but if someone made me something they know I'd love then I would appreciate it more !

You must be pretty rich to not care if someone have you a 30,000 car

Maybe Christmas doesn't come from a store. Maybe Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more.

I bought the book for my daughter and have read it every night since December 1st, so it's the first thing that popped into my head when I read this lol. Merry Merry!!

TheLostCauseFML 40

Aww man, I wish I was a close personal relative! I love home made thoughtful gifts! Plus, I'm in a ton of pain and pain relievers are like popping PEZ...

Wow. Glad my family likes my homemade gifts. They even ask me for refills on soap between holidays, and to get me to make mittens for them to give as gifts. Either your family is disgustingly consumeristic or perhaps you just aren't as good at making things as you thought?