By jshsnan - This FML is from back in 2015 but it's good stuff - United States - San Francisco
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He couldn't have kept his mouth shut? The gall of people amaze me. Have some decency; yes, the child is annoying (even to the mother!) but that's no reason to be an absolute dick face to her because your ears are bothered.
Reminds me of a story where an old man walked up to a woman and her two year old at walmart and smacked the two year old in the face because she was throwing a tantrum and yelled at the mom for not "controlling her kid". No matter how good of a parent your are your kid is going to have meltdowns in public
Ironic, his father couldn't either! uff there are sure some mean people in this world. Kids are difficult too, wish you luck on any future tantrums OP. Always have a lollipop on stand by!
You should have said, "Nah, your wife likes it when I don't wear one." Actually, maybe don't say that since it might get you punched...
While what the old man said was rude, and could have been met with a remark like "at least I'M still virile"..... I am sick of the Political Correctness police that made it (it is illegal at least in Australia) to smack your kid - and I don't mean beat, i mean tap on the butt. Sometimes a smack on the bum is what is needed to stop that tantrum. When i was a kid, if someone was screaming that they wanted something, or there were "too many people on the bus", then they would have got a smack on the bum. And that would have been the end of it. Whereas today its nothing but screaming and screaming until the parents give in. So when they grow up they don't have any respect for anyone else and expect everything to be done for them.
exactly, i dont understand parents nowadays who are apparently unable to teach their toddlers that throwing a tantrum when you dont get what you want is completely unacceptable and will only result in receiving nothing at all. thats how i was taught and i mustve learned pretty fast as a child because i dont recall EVER having the nerve to embarass my parents and, more importantly, myself in front of other people. Its a CHILD these are the moments you teach them how to behave for the rest of their lives, and the threat of pain is not a good motivator.
I was spanked as a child (no belt or paddle or anything, just a slap with the hand on the butt) and I feel I turned out alright. There is no one correct way to raise children. There is no ONE answer. Whatever works for you and your children is what you should do, granted it doesn't cross any abusive boundaries of course. Personally I think this debate is pointless, you're not going to change anyone's mind about it.
Regardless of whether or not you believe in spanking, you have to remember that every child is different. I have a friend with two kids. If one of them has a tantrum in public, stern admonishment and an occasional spank (if it's really bad) will get her to stop within a few minutes. HOWEVER his other child is the complete opposite. If you sternly tell him to stop or spank him, he will get 3 times louder and definitely won't stop, forcing you to drag him back home. However if you ignore him for a few minutes, he will stop on his own. The problem with this though, is people don't seem to get that not every kid is the same. They'll go to my friend and ask why he doesn't know how to control his children, why he doesn't just spank him, blah blah blah, while not realizing that he knows his children best and knows which methods work best for them.
Spanking is a way to show there are consequences for actions. Yes there are other ways, but like all things some work for different circumstances. You teach your child the correct way to behave and how to make good choices. When they make a bad choice or acts badly you use an appropriate punishment to show there are consequences. If the child hits someone you might spank them, but if they don't do their homework you might take away their phone. Sometimes showing a child that doing something may result in pain is a good lesson to teach. Just remember not every punishment has to be spanking though.
#77 Not saying I'm for spanking or anything, but just want to point out that your argument is kinda flawed. I mean, the relationship a man has with his wife and coworkers is completely different than with his kids. A husband is not in charge of "disciplining" his wife (like sending her to her room or taking away her money or things) because she did something he didn't like, and neither is he for his coworkers, so of course he won't be spanking them either. However he IS responsible for helping discipline and raise his kids to be functional members of society. Whether he chooses to spank them or not is up to him (and both people who have/haven't been spanked can grow up to be good or bad individuals), but that really has nothing to do with how he interacts with his coworkers/wife when they do something "wrong."
Spanking just teaches children that violence is an acceptable way to deal with issues. The ONE child in my class that has issues with hitting, kicking, etc s also the one child who is physically disciplined at home and hasn't been shown how to control his anger. Respect children enough to talk through issues and consequences, their feelings, etc. And when they're too emotional to talk, gently restrain them, remove them from the situation, give them breathing exercises, water, etc. and talk to them when they're calmer. Might be difficult at first but definitely worth it in the long run.