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This is a Nearly FML. It’s an FML, nearly. It got positive votes from the users, by wasn’t approved by our team.
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By  cacheson  |  39

For people who are saying she shouldn’t be upset that he’s with someone else, here are some things to consider:

-She discovered he was in a RELATIONSHIP with another girl, making her an unknowing party to his cheating.
-Because he didn’t disclose other sexual partners, her health is now potentially at risk without her consent.
-If she considered him a friend as well as a sex partner, his dishonesty will likely cost her both of those relationships.

If you’re having sex with someone, the kind and responsible thing to do is discuss boundaries, disclose other partners, and be considerate (but not subservient) of the other persons desires and needs. This is absolutely an FML for her.

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By  cacheson  |  39

For people who are saying she shouldn’t be upset that he’s with someone else, here are some things to consider:

-She discovered he was in a RELATIONSHIP with another girl, making her an unknowing party to his cheating.
-Because he didn’t disclose other sexual partners, her health is now potentially at risk without her consent.
-If she considered him a friend as well as a sex partner, his dishonesty will likely cost her both of those relationships.

If you’re having sex with someone, the kind and responsible thing to do is discuss boundaries, disclose other partners, and be considerate (but not subservient) of the other persons desires and needs. This is absolutely an FML for her.

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  Sinshine  |  25

The way I see it, if you're sleeping around, you're always at a health risk and if they've been having sex with each other without being in a relationship, she'd have to expect him to sleep with others as well (or at least not expect him not to) so she can't really complain there. Yes, he's been cheating on his girlfriend with her, but I wouldn't say that justifies saying she's getting screwed (beyond the justifies getting screwed she went to him for)

By  WeirdUS  |  27

NSA is risky as hell in 2019. Generally, people that are cool with nsa/open relationships aren't going to be considerate of feelings. There is enough online found googling that would tell you it's a bad idea you can't really be surprised.

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I would have to disagree with you completely. I am polyamorous and am in a few NSA relationships. Everybody knows about each other and I have even introduced some of my partners to each other. One thing about this lifestyle is that one is EXTREMELY aware of how your actions can hurt others, which is why honest communication and boundaries are so extremely important for it to work over the long term.

By  Matthew Irmen  |  7

I’m not really seeing your point. Your expectations were strictly sex, and that was met

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