Today, I realized that my fiancé only touches me when he wants to have sex. Any other contact is purely accidental. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I noticed my new boyfriend barely touches me casually, unless I initiate, and even then he’ll pull away fairly quickly. Apparently his dad told him about "fake rape accusations", even from women you’re dating, so he’s scared to touch me now. FML
Today, I realized that the only time my boyfriend is physically affectionate with me is when he wants to have sex. When I suggested we just cuddle, he looked at me and said, "What’s the point in that?" FML
Today, ever since I let my boyfriend touch my boobs, he thinks it's appropriate to grope me whenever he feels like it. Even talking to him about it doesn't seem to stop him. FML
Today, I told my husband that it makes me feel unattractive and undesirable that I’m the only one to ever initiate intimacy. Not just sex, but also basic affection like hugging and kissing. His response? "Oh." FML
Today, I realized just how clingy my boyfriend is, when he pulled out in the middle of sex, lay down and hugged me, and said in his "adorable" voice that he didn't really want to have sex, but cuddle. I wouldn't mind if it didn't happen so often. FML
Today, I realized my boyfriend uses sex as a way to get me to stop talking. FML
Today, at last, my husband instigated sex for the first time since the honeymoon a few months ago when he started fondling me in bed. Then I realised he was asleep. FML
Today, I realized that my boyfriend will only have sex with me if I am on my stomach and not revealing my face. FML
Today, I was with my boyfriend, and things were getting pretty heated. Trying to be sexy, I told him that every time we touched was a guilty pleasure. He rolled off of me, and said "Oh, you're married too?" FML
Today, I noticed that my long distance boyfriend of almost four months only calls me to have phone sex. FML
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Top comments
Omg_its_Chloe 6
Can't touch this lol. Sorry, had to :)
LeapOfFaith 8
Break up with him and say it was purely accidental.
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Comments (189)
Namerkp2 8
*Doesn't
cheer4everever 0
U should give him a hug rite now!!
klorehore 24
my ex was the same way, big warning sign for losing romantical interest.
johng1970 2
What, do you really expect him to say get in bed and have sex? Gee some girls never take a hint!
WitchyArmyWife00 0
Yes we and written instructions help too : 1. Remove articles of clothing 2. Get in bed and those are all the instructions I can add without getting censured by FML.
WitchyArmyWife00 0
I meant yes we do
BeyondVirtuoso 2
Plenty of fish in the sea... So go out and SEE, catch a good one, and throw the old carp back in. You know you want better, so go for it.
tennis_jens 5
That kinda blows. Maybe she just wants your body ha.
rubberduckie94 13
Truth is some guys are just not physically affectionate. It does not change the love they have for you. Sit him down and tell him you would like to hold hands, kiss, hug, and snuggle more. Be patient and help him work on showing his love more through touch. Chances are he will never be a big toucher, but he may be able to modify himself a little. Then you need to decide if not being touched very often is something you can deal with in your marriage. Good luck, but do sit down and talk to him. He probably does not even realize it.
MissHayleyJames 7
Actually that's not true at all. My husband is more affectionate than I am and I love to snuggle and hold hands and stuff all the time. He's told me its very important to him.
rubberduckie94 13
Yes it can go either way about who is more affectionate. Sometimes it is the men who are more touchy feely. I was just responding to ops experience and mine. My husband is not very physically affectionate, but I am secure in his love. I just hope op can handle it. Thanks for responding. : ).
Dracoboxer357 36
94- Thought I'd add my preference to the thread too: Lucky for us, my wife and I are both very touchy people, it just doesn't feel right for us to be in the same room and not be in physical contact. Our kids are never lacking in hugs for it. :) We've been married 5 and a half years, and that's never decreased. We're not insecure or needy people either, just we both are very comfortable in our skins and expressionate. Some people are fortunate to find another that matches their preferences for how much personal space they require, but I'm sure that doesn't mean we love each over more than you love your significant other necessarily. It's just how we choose to show it. :) Just sharing! Cheers! ;)
ImaginaryFoe 1
#77, your personal experience doesn't make what rubberduckie said any less true. She said "some guys" and I gather that applies to some girls, too. I think her advice was the most sensible here. I'm not sure why you'd be engaged to someone you can't talk to so I hope for OP's sake she just hadn't brought it up yet. He could be unaware of the issue or he could just be a person who values personal space. Either way, talk it out and compromise. How often do you just touch him?
anappleaday 0
You should "accidentally" only touch him/agree to have sex when you want money. Then it's like prostitution, but legal because he is your fiancee.
SamCat 21
Sounds like my ex-husband when he was having an affair. Watch out OP, you should consider couples counseling :)
Enslaved 38
If nonsexual touches are really important to you, (they are to me) maybe he's not the right guy for you.