Today, I told my husband that it makes me feel unattractive and undesirable that I’m the only one to ever initiate intimacy. Not just sex, but also basic affection like hugging and kissing. His response? "Oh." FML
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Today, I realized that the only time my boyfriend is physically affectionate with me is when he wants to have sex. When I suggested we just cuddle, he looked at me and said, "What’s the point in that?" FML
Today, I told my man I was feeling a lack of emotional closeness and dialogue in our relationship. I'd hoped for a comeback like, "So what do you need in order to change that?" Or even, "Aw, come here, let's cuddle!" Instead, I got a simple, "I don't." FML
Today, I'm sad. My wife of six years cares very little about my satisfaction. Intimacy is my receiving love language, and while we do have sex sometimes, she wants me to "take" or "use" her. I want to be felt up and be shown I'm wanted, too. FML
Today, my husband complained about my lack of sex drive. Gee, I wonder why, Mr. "Always comes first by humping for a whopping 30 seconds." FML
Today, my boyfriend asked why I’ve been so grumpy lately. When I told him it’s because our relationship has been severely lacking in intimacy, he sighed heavily and said, “Ugh, fine, let’s just get it over with!” Gee, thanks babe. FML
Today, after confronting my husband about lack of intimacy in our marriage, I found him playing with himself. His response to my shock was, "This is less work and less involving." FML
Today, my husband told me that he could not love me without sex. My love for him is utterly unconditional. My heart is just broken now. FML
Today, I realized that my fiancé only touches me when he wants to have sex. Any other contact is purely accidental. FML
Today, my husband of 16 years had to force himself to be intimate with me. In his words, not because he’s not attracted to me but because he no longer has emotions or feelings towards me. I’m still deeply in love and had to force intimacy because now I feel like I’m just a means to an end. FML
Today, I realized how low my husband's libido has gotten over the years. He has zero intention of trying anything to fix it, no matter how hard I try. I don't even think I'm horny anymore as much as intimately touched starved. He ran his hand down my back in passing and I almost burst into tears. FML
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kfchicken 31
she did initiate a conversation with him and he ended it very quickly, that was literally the whole FML. he needs to put in effort if not in the intimacy department at least in the conversation about it.
Jillian Cosby-Kelly 15
it's obvious why you have a hard time 😂
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Chandl3r 9
When it would come to someone like me, we doubt ourselves or it's just that we don't know if it's ever a good time. With how the world is going it's really bad and I understand your his SO, but it can be rooted deep. Try talking to him and find out why, work with him and he can start to move forward to what you'd like. There's always some compromise. For all we know, maybe he's just not a touchy type of person.
kfchicken 31
she did initiate a conversation with him and he ended it very quickly, that was literally the whole FML. he needs to put in effort if not in the intimacy department at least in the conversation about it.
Chandl3r 9
What she said is a statement that can be either answered with a comment or expanded upon, what I was saying is she needs to dig deep into this and have him talk, find out as much as possible. I don't need you patronizing me off of you skimming my comment when I gave her an example from someone who deals with those types of insecurities.
LPS8585 26
Your husband sounds like mine :( I’m sorry.
bobsanction 18
Now you know how 90% of men feel when we have to do all the ******* work just to get a womans attention at all.
Jillian Cosby-Kelly 15
it's obvious why you have a hard time 😂
RichardPencil 32
"Oh" means "You're right, so what?"
christian_slate 16
It’s not his job to fix your insecurity. Instead of complaining here, talk with him, or a therapist — about yourself.
greenvegansara 1
my husband is the same way, if I ever tell him that he gets offended
Taurus_ChicKa 37
Well, at least he doesn't reject you when you do initiate it.