Today, I was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. I called all my family members to invite them over this evening because I had some very important news for them that could not wait. They all declined the invite. When I asked why, they said they were going to my cousins to watch his new TV. FML
I agree, your life sucks (201853) - you totally deserved it (7533)
On 03/17/2009 at 1:47am - health - by Mikey (man) - United States (Louisiana)
Cut the bastards out of your will! And leave a little video will saying "I guess next time I call you and say I have something important to tell you... ohh too late now. Anyway, your out of the will suckas!"
Haha, but first go to the cousin's and ruin their day. And THEN cut them out of the will.
#254 - On 01/26/2010 at 7:39pm by tdawgheath
Or say that it's no big deal, then secretly cut them out of the will and use your family's money to help pay for the surgery
#257 - On 01/31/2010 at 12:12am by BloodyMontage
Wow, that's fairly awful. Just keep bugging them about it? I would. If it's that important (which it IS), your family will come.
Or guilt trip them.
wow thats rough, but its ok family are sometimes as dumb as a rock, but once they know whats going on im sure they will be their to support you
More importantly, how come your cousin didn't invite you to watch his new TV?
#6 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:17am by PTERONOPHOBIA
... that's beyond FML... That's downright terrible...
I'm no medic and I don't know what your prospects are, but I wish you best of luck with whatever treatment you'll have or time you have left. I hope you have good friends to make up for this kind of family.
Can't pick your family.. your just born into them.. hope your doing ok...
#8 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:19am by morgan2420
thats fucked up, i woulda stormed over there and cut off the tv and told them I was dyin and to kiss my ass
#10 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:23am by sunshyne84
one thing tho... the family didn't know the op has the cancer, and if s/he has a reputation for either exaggerating or crying wolf, that could be why they didn't show. just pointing out.
that said, your family is rude and you can hold this over their heads for as long as you need to. spend time with your friends. they're probably nicer to you anyway.
#11 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:24am by ummmyeahhh
I hope your family realized how they have shattered your hopes for comfort in your already fragile state. I wish you all of the best, and hope they sober up.
dude that sucks. I hope they feel bad about what they did to you. all the best to you.
#13 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:30am by thellamanator
Agree with # 7. Thats beyond FML.
Guilt trip them, make them feel like shit for putting an inanimate object before you.
That's brutal +5.
But, no worries since the whole FML community cares for you.
#17 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:45am by andydawg8891
i would not talk to them for a long time (make it noticable that u r ignoring them) and then i would make them kiss my ass for a LONG time when i finally told them. im sure ur fam is nice but when they do sumthin so obnoxious its hard not to be angry. its okay im sure they love u but u need to show them how hurt u were by this. the next thing im gonna tell u is REALY imature but i would print this out and show them how many ppl dont like them on the intenet. i hope u get better and i wish u all the best
#18 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:46am by helohah111
Wow. That diagnosis really, really sucks. I hope you have the treatable kind of pancreatic cancer. I disagree with most people here though - don't go out of your way to make your family feel bad about going to your cousin's. As #11 said, they didn't know the OP was inviting them over to tell them s/he had cancer.
Go live life to the fullest
#20 could be the OP's way of dealing. Some people do that, make jokes out of serious things happening to them. Makes it seem less scary.
#24 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:05pm by IxamxStatic
Most of you are fucking stupid. On the very off chance this is true, why would they show up? The phone call would be like this, apparently:
OP: Hey can you come over tonight? I have something to tell you.
Person: Well what is it, I already have plans?
OP: No, you have to come over tonight.
Person: But I have plans already, I'm not going to break them for no reason.
OP: There is a reason but I can't tell you!
Person: Again, I already have plans. Tell me what it is and then maybe I'll break them.
OP: NO YOU MEANIE, I'M GOING ON THE INTERNET AND TELLING EVERYONE HOW MUCH OF A JERK-FACE YOU ARE!!!1!!11!!1!
im so sorry to hear that, all the best and stay strong :)
you could have just said "Today i was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer" that would have been bad enough!
One last thing, who on earth would think they deserved that?
#26 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:26pm by Hubblebubble
You certainly get an FML for having cancer. But I do think that "come by tonight" for an important announcement is too short of a notice.
If nothing else, you need to make sure your own mental state is in check before you start talking to others about it. The last thing you need is to have some kind of panic attack before anybody in the room knows what's up.
#28 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:30pm by vt_mruhlin
Oh wow, that sucks. Especially the cancer bit. I wish you the best of luck.
#30 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:34pm by TheNameless
am sorry dude
i got one advice to you live your life like there aint no tomorrow
i hope you kick the cancer ass
#33 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:41pm by Arabian_Dude
I agree with #6. Why weren't you invited as well to watch your cousins new t.v.? Honestly I wouldn't tell them untill like the next big family gathering, then announce in the middle of the meal or whatever that you were diagnosed a few months ago and that they said they couldn't make it because they were watching your cousins new tv, then leave and not talk to them for a few days...
#36 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:50pm by allstarplayer324
wow- thats a tough cancer. I am sure it was a misunderstanding, and once you tell them that you have pancreatic cancer, they will feel horrible.
hope you feel better!
#37 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:54pm by iluvmycatz
im so sorrry man thats really awful :(
i hope treatment goes well ffor you if you choose to get it !
best wishes
and i also will be praying for you
STAY STRONG
#38 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:58pm by kelseecook
1. Who's the jackass who put that this was deserved?
2. For all of you suggesting he spite his family for this, there's a 95% chance he won't make it five years. There's no time for immature vendettas.
3. Yes, FYL for getting cancer, but can you really blame the family? #25 summed it up quite well. It's just a tricky situation. I'm sure your family isn't going to blow you off when they know the extent of the problem, and now you can't blame them for sticking with prior plans.
4. To #20, there are tons of anecdotes on this site that obviously didn't happen "today". Many of them don't even make sense in that context, but it's how the story is supposed to be organized. Deal with it.
#41 - On 03/17/2009 at 1:14pm by pal5017
25, I agree. The OP said he never told them, and he just said there was something important. It's not the family's fault for having prior social arrangements. Good for them for sticking to them without a valid reason to bail. If you wanted your family to come over, you should have been more specific.
Also, pancreatic cancer doesn't just get 'diagnosed'. It requires lots of tests, and even before then they have to go looking for it, they have to have a reasonable cause. You just don't go looking for cancer. You were either in the hospital for symptoms, or in the hospital for another illness and the doctors found symptoms. Either way, you family should have known you were in teh hospital for something and being tested. Serves you right for keeping that from them, too. I'm sure your family, after you were going to the hospital so much, would have come over if you had abd news.
Stop trying to be so secretive.
#42 - On 03/17/2009 at 1:15pm by sweetjosephine
I agree with #39.
And I'm sorry about your diagnosis, even more sorry that you have a rude bunch of people in your family that aren't there with you in your time of need. And whoever put YDI totally needs some karma thrown back at them. Because I wouldn't wish cancer on anyone. Or a neglectful family.
Every story starts with "Today" and ends with "FML" by the way, #20. Pay attention, yea?
#43 - On 03/17/2009 at 1:16pm by _Elizabeth_
Some of you people are just coldhearted bastards, especially #20 and sweetjosephine
#45 - On 03/17/2009 at 1:31pm by FuzzMonkey09
That's horrible. This made me so sad. My godmother recently died of pancreatic cancer and what I wouldn't give to spend jut another moment with her.
He deserved this... totally did.
I'm not saying he deserved the cancer. That's just horrible, and I hope that you can be treated or something.
I'm saying that the fact that nobody came over IS your fault, because you just said you had something important to say. If you would have said: "Please come over, I need support because I just found out I had cancer." that everyone would have rushed over to your house and support you.
good luck with your cancer, but don't complain about nobody coming to what they think is just some lame talk.
the solution is obvious. Film yourself telling them the news and then play it on your cousin's new tv. That's awful news, though. Sorry.
#27- WOO! YEAH! KICK IT'S ASS!!! WE'RE ROOTING FOR YOU!!!
And to the people saying he's a liar, calling him names, ect., just pretend he isn't becasue it could be true, and that would make you a super ass.
#51 - On 03/17/2009 at 1:44pm by rachelsantixo
Really? To all the people saying that it's the OP's fault for not telling the family over phone, is that something that should be told over the phone? Isn't that something that should be done in person because it's so intimate?
"Hey Carlie, can you come over tonight, I need to tell you I have cancer." I'm not sure that putting it in a more sensitive way would help the situation...There are certain things that you just can't tell people on the phone.
#52 - On 03/17/2009 at 1:50pm by _Elizabeth_
wow thats not cool, i would bitch them all out and then take em all on a very nice, rough, guilt trip to the pit of their souls.
#55 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:19pm by amkoverboard
Im so sorry for what you are going through. Ive been there w/ a family member (cancer) and its hard.
That being said though, you sort of beat around the bush on an important topic. I dontk now what you said on the phone but perhaps instead of hinting that something may be important, you call them and say you are sick and want to sit down and talk to everyone face to face and would like to do it immediately.
Yiou dont just say I have important news. How do they know what you are talking about if you arent upfront? I know this is something you tell the family in person but you shouldnt be upset if you are side stepping around the main issue. Call them and tel them you are sick and its something you need to talk to in person. I also suggest calling your immediate family first.
Just as someone whos been through cancer, this isn't news you shout to the world....im not at all saying to hide it,... but you need to call your immediate family first and talk to them and THEN talk to the family. The way you make this seem, it feels like your pissed no one came to your party. Again I understand what youre going through... and again...do this slowly. don't throw a come be sad with me deal. Way too many important things you need to start doing now vs "coming out"
#57 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:28pm by MonkeySpeaks
That's horrible. They probably just didn't understand the importance of what you needed to say
and figured it could wait one more day. Do you have a best friend or a significant other you can talk to until you're able to get them all rounded up. Or maybe say, it's of a medical nature so they take it more seriously? I agree with what the person said before me. Just be a little more direct about it.
#58 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:39pm by Emrysa
Who are the idiots clicking that he deserves this?
Dude, that sucks!
#59 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:43pm by wallythedolly
Ok, here's the deal. This person clearly states that they told the family they had important news that COULD NOT WAIT. That takes away any of the previous plans/didn't know it was serious excuses. Also, of course they aren't just going to tell it to people over the phone. Nor do I think it was intended as a pity party. Here's my justification for both: In my experience in dealing with multiple loved ones with cancer, people are selfish even when they don't mean to be. When you call them, each one of them has their reaction and so this person would have to go through the telling over and over. Whereas, in having them all together, they can go through it once. Tell it once, deal with how the others feel once. Then, they can move on and start fighting and those people can put their feelings aside after that night and start fighting and supporting, too.
I am so sorry that you have been diagnosed with this cancer. I know it has some grave statistics, but just know that statistics aren't YOU. YOU very well could kick cancer's ass. My sister was diagnosed with glioblastoma nearly five years ago, and the statistics said she would be dead within months. The statistics were dead wrong. She's been cancer free for nearly four years, she's married, happy, and healthy. A lot of your fight is mental. You have to tell the people giving you death sentences to screw off; you don't have an expiration date. Fight hard. I will pray for you.
Some of you guys are being jerks. :( This person told his/her family that it was important and that it couldn't wait. I'm sure that it isn't his/her fault that they didn't come.
And I hope that your treatment goes well if you get some! I'll pray for you!
And that's gotta be the biggest FYL ever.
"The statistics were dead wrong."
No, the statistics weren't wrong; your sister beat the odds. Statistics weren't invented to make you give up on life when given bad news; they're a useful tool for examining trends and predicting outcomes (when interpreted correctly).
#63 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:51pm by greatnt249
And to add to my previous post, keep fighting the good fight, OP...I'll be praying for you.
#64 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:54pm by greatnt249
That's the saddest FML post I've ever read... I'm really sorry for the news... and even more sorry about what happened...
#65 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:56pm by xPediophobia
hey, at least now you have the opportunity to make them all feel like shit when they hear what you wanted to tell them.
#67 - On 03/17/2009 at 2:59pm by AlexJakubsen1
@ #60 I'm glad your sister survived and all, but unless the statistics were "0% survival rate", the statistics were not wrong. She beat the odds, that doesn't mean the statistics are wrong it just means she was in that tiny percentage that survives.
And OP, good luck, man.
#68 - On 03/17/2009 at 3:03pm by arms_akimbo
I'm so sorry... Don't worry about them, they're being idiots. You deserve so much better. I'll be praying for you.
#69 - On 03/17/2009 at 3:04pm by WendlaMimi
I meant the statistics were wrong because statistics do not take in all factors. The statistics for my sister's cancer look mostly at elderly patients. So, in the case of younger people with the cancer, the statistics WERE wrong. Statistics can most certainly be wrong because of the fact that there are so many factors that can affect and skew them. People put too much stock in statistics. THAT is my point. There were so many doctors giving her speeches about how she didn't stand a chance, and those doctors DO exist.
Jeez, I'm so sorry to hear that. I wish your family were willing to hear what was wrong.
#71 - On 03/17/2009 at 3:39pm by Jesus_Cookies
I think it's completely insensitive that some of you are pointing your fingers at the OP. The man clearly stated that he had important news to share with his family - what more of a clarification do you need? If a family member or close friend called me telling me that they had "important news" to discuss with me, I would drop everything I'm doing and/or cancel any future plans just to share that moment - good or bad - with that person. However, I do understand that no two people share the same morals and beliefs, so... yeah.
Either way, I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I lost my aunt to pancreatic cancer three years ago... losing her was one of the most hardest moments I have ever had to endure. I wish you the best.
#72 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:01pm by jinp0ssible
That's absolutely terrible. I'm sorry your family sucks. They should really understand that when someone says they have "important news," it's probably more important than a TV. I hope they feel guilty when they find out - they don't deserve you.
Honestly, every single one of them will feel like shit when you do tell them. Also, don't forgive them.
that's when classic baseball bat is introduced. Smashing the new TV is better than just watching it.
#77 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:29pm by rawblerawble
im sorry but to make the best out of a shitty situation i say buy a slot in the local tv ads and have it go on the channel they are watching and have it be you saying " i hope you all are happy. i have cancer, F U all"
why are people saying YDI?????? i don't get it!!! ahhh!!!!
i'm sorry :( that's awful. I hope you're okay!
#82 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:09pm by choppedNskrewed
haha #1.
im so sorry, stay strong!!
and you have alot more people who care about you on FML apparently ^ :)
#85 - On 03/17/2009 at 5:34pm by xx_hayleyy
That's really awful. I'm so sorry for your diagnosis and for your family's horrible behavior. I know it will be hard, but try really hard to stay positive - it will help you stay healthier! I hope it's treated and goes away!
But don't y'all think he may have told them that it's something so important that it should not be discussed on the phone but in person? I wouldn't call anyone either and be like "Hi, I was diagnosed with cancer today why don't you come over so we can talk about it"
#89 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:02pm by Puolukka
I hope you get out of this all right, man. I highly doubt you've done anything to deserve cancer; if anyone did, it's your family. I'm rooting for ya, and I hope those assholes' comeuppance comes up strong and soon.
#90 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:12pm by shorgenfunkel
I'm sure they'll feel bad just by knowing when you do tell them. And yeah, who the fuck did put YDI?
If you didn't tell them what it is, you cannot blame them for not wanting to break their prior engagements. You should have told them that you have cancer, or that you're sick or something along those lines. If they don't know, it's not their fault. Info that's "cannot wait" could be a promotion or that you're moving, or something even less consequential. Your surprise is surprising :).
#92 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:50pm by puliceman92
whoever put YDI is seriously messed up and has no heart.
and i'm really sorry to hear that :/ hang in there.
I don't know the OP, and I don't know his family. So I can only speak from MY experiences. If I had told MY family that I have something "VERY important, that CAN'T WAIT" to tell them (I don't do that. Ever.. so if I did, they'd be damn sure it WAS IMPORTANT. VERY VERY IMPORTANT)... if they blew me off to go watch some fsckers NEW TV - I would damn well be a little vindictive in telling them. You're god damn right I'd make them feel bad about it! Maybe the OP's family is used to people calling trivial shit "really important that can't wait".. that would be different.
Show up to cousins house with a DVD of a video you "want to see how it looks on you new TV"... make it of your doctor telling you the survival odds you face.
On a personal note: Cancer is an uphill fight - keep swinging, kicking, and biting, and don't give it an inch. Kick it's ass, and KEEP kicking!
#96 - On 03/17/2009 at 7:30pm by Paulspacefdot
This is just... Just terrible.
If you get to writing a will, write this to them:
"To my family members (name all that apply), I leave absolutely nothing. Hopefully that TV was worth it."
#97 - On 03/17/2009 at 7:43pm by Sonic_Rocker
#6: LOL Haha yeah, get to the heart of the issue!
Anyway bro, sorry for the sad news :/ They're pretty heartless to choose an inanimate object over you. Hope the cousin's new TV breaks apart and explodes, hmph.
I'm sorry to hear that...
What your family did to you is really fucked up, I would just go to your cousins house and start flipping out.
#99 - On 03/17/2009 at 8:24pm by Shivam
Sorry to hear that...
And it doesn't necessarily mean your family doesn't care - they probably just didn't expect your news to be this dire...
Good luck, stay positive!
I had to hear that my dad had cancer over the phone... I wish that I could have been there with him.
He's cancer free now, 1 year after chemo started. :)
#105 - On 03/17/2009 at 9:56pm by digitalangel
wow man, my uncle had it i wish luck you and sorry about your family you just need to tell them theyll understand and apologize
best of luck and health
i hope the doctors treat you well. theres some support websites out there like dailystrength.org and mycancerplace.com if you need people to type to. also try not to take it personally - when i was diagnosed with brain cancer i had friends call and say they would come see me in icu. they never showed up...never called...never answered...i seriously think some people cant handle the idea that bad things happen even to good people. i wish you well.
#108 - On 03/17/2009 at 11:13pm by pinkducttape
Sorry to hear that. I have a very important advice for you.
Goto youtube and search for "the last lecture randy pausch". It is a 1h 16min video by a professor who is diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and only had 6 months left.
It is really inspiring and forever change your life.
"We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand."
You should have invited them over for the next night so they had a little advanced notice. It sucks they wouldn't come but your brothers tv must have been banging. Also why can't you just go to your brothers and tell them? Also i agree with #102.
#110 - On 03/18/2009 at 12:13am by notlaughingwitu
Please know that I hope with all my heart that you make it through this. I also hope that your family apologizes and are supporting and loving through these difficult times. Though it is easier said than done, I hope that you are not hurt over this for too long, because you need all of your energy and focus into staying healthy. It's not much consolation, but keep in mind many of us will be praying for you!
#111 - On 03/18/2009 at 12:20am by nnyl
I'm sure your family didn't mean to be careless. But still, that is messed up.
And anyone saying OP should've told them over the phone is stupid. This was something personal and he/she probably wanted their family to be there to support them.
If you got a call from a family member that said they needed you to come over asap because they had something very important to tell you, would you say no because you had to go see a friends NEW TV?! I DONT THINK SO.
Anytime a friend or family member needs me, I drop what I'm doing for them whether I know what's going on or not. Personally, I think that's more important than a tv. Don't you?
Good luck, OP.
#112 - On 03/18/2009 at 1:09am by Faxiekat86
man,family sucks sumtimes... don't worry.. hope it's not in its final stages.. and you can make it through. No point of telling you to cheer up but there are people out there that feel for you. Good luck buddy!
#113 - On 03/18/2009 at 1:32am by Mikeymikey
wow that is so damn depressing
I feel for you. I guess good luck is the best thing to say right now
So good luck!
#114 - On 03/18/2009 at 1:35am by kraemerdrummer
1st im soooo srry to hear
2nd why the hell wern't you invited???
#115 - On 03/18/2009 at 1:36am by savanajnclwtr
im sorry about your illness. i hope you'll pull through :)
#117 - On 03/18/2009 at 4:35am by ohprettynails
That does suck. I hope that you'll be all right. Good luck!
#118 - On 03/18/2009 at 4:40am by iamsansname
ohh my god, thats hurting
I dont know what to say other then you got to beat the cancer,
and screw your family
#121 - On 03/18/2009 at 12:19pm by Staal_Baby
That's awful! I'm so sorry to hear that. I really hope you get better soon, and screw your family, nobody deserves that. :(
Best of luck!
# 120 - I am absolutely speechless.
# 100 - Obviously you feel the need to put others down because you had a terrible childhood, was abused by your parents, tortured by black Spiderman, and is now taking it out on others.
Am I making sense? If not, then ask yourself the same question.
OP - You are in my thoughts, I really hope everything will get better.
#125 - On 03/18/2009 at 5:28pm by becauseisaidso
that really blows bro. i'm sure they'll be sorry and very supportive once they find out though.
and #100, do the rest of the world a favor and put a bullet in your fucking brain.
#126 - On 03/18/2009 at 6:01pm by inlimbo11
Make them feel guilty. Be like that you're donating the rest of your money to like a charity or something.
HOW can you POSSIBLY deserve this?
Praying for you (and for a more compassionate family)
#128 - On 03/18/2009 at 6:57pm by April_Showers
I am so sorry to hear that you have pancreatic cancer. Check out myspace.com/pancreaticcancerawareness & listen to some of the music. Hold on to hope. Good luck!
#130 - On 03/18/2009 at 8:22pm by bhayy27
i'm really sorry to hear that.. this is terrible. and anyone who said "you deserved that one" should go die.
#25... You can't just say things on the phone like that, or wherever it is...
Sometimes it requires for people to ACTUALLY be there.
#133 - On 03/18/2009 at 8:45pm by EffYourLyf
Oh my goodness. That's so mean of them. I feel so sorry for you and will keep you in my prayers tonight. I hope you can gain support from your family and fight it!
#135 - On 03/18/2009 at 11:29pm by KiyatsuFox
wow. I feel sorry for you. I hope they're sympathetic when you actually tell them. I agree with guilt tripping them though, just not too much so they resent you for it.
This is the worst post I've actually seen so far, none of those that I have read compare to this.
#136 - On 03/18/2009 at 11:46pm by buttons
that's okay, they'll feel really guilty afterwards and buy you stuff. Good luck and God bless - keep your spirits high and you'll do well
im very sorry about your news .. and i wish you the best of luck and hope u get better.. but in their defense they probly didnt know how serious it was
wow thats terrible. they sound like pretty insensitive people, i hope you get through your cancer and i hope they all eat a big shit burger and feel terribly guilty. stay strong and don't give up
#141 - On 03/19/2009 at 2:44am by chuteboxe39
Thats terrible! But, they'll feel SO bad when you tell them and you should really rub it in. Here's to beating your cancer though!
thats really dumb...like....seriously....but cheer up. you and patrick swayze are fighting the same war
#146 - On 03/19/2009 at 6:21pm by singingfreak228
That's terrible... sorry to hear. My dad had that. Wishing you the best, and much luck. Plus, your folks are going to feel so bad when they hear that you can totally twist their arm for whatever you want now!
#149 - On 03/19/2009 at 7:40pm by anabdesigns
omg! thats sooooo sad! im sorry :( i hope youre ok :D
#150 - On 03/19/2009 at 10:45pm by love_to_laugh44
IM SO SORRY.
You should REALLY give them the guilt trip, and MAKE THEM REALIZE WHAT THEY ARE IGNORING (maybe not intentionally, maybe they think that you just want to tell them something small.).
#151 - On 03/19/2009 at 10:57pm by NeverMind88
I am so sorry that you have cancer. Good luck with your treatments.
Just remember that your family did not know what the news was that you wanted to break.
If you had prior plans and someone called you the day of an event to invite you to it, wouldn't you say you can't go to the new event?
Don't get down about it- try planning it out a little better next time.
#155 - On 03/20/2009 at 11:14am by thedyingewok
wow, that's f***ed up. I hope that you have some really good friends, good luck.
#156 - On 03/20/2009 at 12:04pm by your_mother
Oh dude, I'm sorry. That sucks.
You should of gone to your cousins house and knocked the tv over.
#157 - On 03/20/2009 at 7:05pm by WowLifeDoesSuck
That's so horrible. Family can suck.
I would've gone over there and be like, hey what're we watching guys? ER? OH WOW THIS GUY HAS CANCER, JUST LIKE ME.
And leave.
Fuckers.
#158 - On 03/20/2009 at 10:53pm by audiogasmic
As a cancer survivor myself, I know that the two hardest things to say over the phone are, "I have cancer" and "s/he passed away." Especially over and over. You did the right thing by calling to arrange a meeting. They didn't do the right thing by saying they wanted to see the TV.
No one deserves cancer. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It's horrid.
I wish you the best of luck, and better support. I didn't have the same kind of cancer, but if you need to talk or anything - you can leave a comment on my blog. Good luck to you.
you shoulda told them then and there, i mean they didn't know you had pancreatic cancer, but you could always go to ur cuzin's house and tell them there
i'm very sorry to hear this.
don't worry though, im sure they didnt mean it and had no idea.
keep positive. =)
#162 - On 03/22/2009 at 12:15am by wotwzombie
that sucks, whichever bastard picked you deserved go screw urselfs assholes
#164 - On 03/22/2009 at 8:56am by a1m2a3d4o5
you should give everything to charity and to the family leave...
A BOOT TO THE HEAD
#165 - On 03/22/2009 at 4:28pm by firstnlast77
LOL #1. yea, definitely, you totally should.
but yea, im sorry to hear, i hope its not too late for treatment.
#166 - On 03/23/2009 at 1:45am by beok
Dude, you should give everything to your dog or cat out of spite, if you die.
Having pancreatic cancer is an FML all by itself. Whoever said that you deserved it is a giant dipshit.
#167 - On 03/23/2009 at 7:23pm by uhnonnuhmus
maybe you should have called them and told them the news.
but family is much bigger than a frickin' new t.v!
#168 - On 03/24/2009 at 12:48am by babyimcreativexx
thats horrible...
dude i wish u the best.
and im sure if ur family really knew theyd be over there in a heartbeat.
They probably would have gone if you told them you had cancer, instead of important news, but yeah they suck.
Best of luck to ya.
#173 - On 03/27/2009 at 1:19am by ThereIsNoSpoon9
My God, this is beyond FML.
I'm really, really sorry that this all happened. Hope you went over to the house anyway and told them there. And just think about it this way, as bad as you felt that night, they must have felt even worse when they heard the news.
I'll keep you in my prayers.
#174 - On 03/28/2009 at 11:32am by xThatRandomGirlx
I'm terribly sorry to hear this. But you know, if you have some insurance, there are a lot of medical procedures that can cure cancer completely, and the sooner you look into them, the better. If the cancer is only located in your pancreas, and hasn't spread, it's far easier to kill of those nasty mutated cells than you might think! ^_^
#175 - On 03/28/2009 at 11:36am by FajitaFreak
Ohh no thats terrible. Just forget about them for now and i dont blame u for feeling bad. Later they will feel extremely guilty. dont worry about it. I hope you will be ok with your cancer and everything. good luck
#177 - On 03/28/2009 at 11:50pm by cullenclan
I'm sorry.
This is sad.
But then again they had no way of knowing.
Don't worry, when you tell them they'll feel guilty.
It'll work out in the end.
First and foremost, you have my deepest condolences, I really do wish you get better.
Seriously, who the flying fuck is 'clicking you deserved it'? Why wasn't he invited to his cousin's house as well? And to those who say that they couldn't have canceled their plans for him, I'm sure he stressed how important his announcement was, and by his tone they should've sensed it was something tragic. I'm pretty sure your family member's serious announcement, can come before watching tv at your relative's house. Lastly, to you douches out there saying he shouldn't have been so secretive, this isn't exactly the kind of thing you tell your family over the phone. Anyways, again, I hope you get better.
you have my utmost sympathy and empathy. i have Hodgkins Lymphoma, i was diagnosed on the day before thanksgiving 2007, and im still battleing it. i hope everything goes well for you.
#180 - On 03/29/2009 at 9:01pm by pnkfld7892
#180: I guess we can't leave private messages on here, or I would have done that.
I had Hodgkin's Lymphoma. Twice. If you need to talk or support or just to know what happened to me (it might ease your mind), check out my website. Leave me a message on there, if you'd like. If not, good luck to you. It's scary, but you CAN do it.
Oh my God. I'm so sorry, dude. My grandpa died of lung cancer on halloween two years ago, but pancreatic, that's just so much worse. My condolences, man. Fight hard. I mean, there's no way they could have known, but still, if a family member has something important to say, you listen. Best of luck to you, man. I can't even imagine what you're going through. Fuck anyone who clicks "you deserved it."
I would have gone over, uplugged the tv, and yelled at them about the cancer before they could do anything
this is possibly one of the worst ones on this site... you should go and make them feel as bad as possible about it.
LOL I'd totally leave them out of my will too!
Your family sounds like a bunch of overpriveleged assholes. I feel your pain, my dad's side of the family would do the same thing.
#195 - On 04/17/2009 at 8:30pm by Sakura_Haruno
wow, that is really unbelievable. my mom actually runs a nonprofit for pancreatic cancer and my aunt died of it so i can understand how hard that news is to get. although your family acted like jerks, would forgive them. I obviously dont know your prognosis, but i do know that you are lucky to survive with pancreatic cancer for a year. With this is mind, you want to spend and value as much time as you have with them. it may be hard to get over that initial feeling of anger, but you will regret your actions if you hold a grudge against them.
aw im sorry man. but don't be too ticked off they didn't know what the news was and probably figured it was nothing. and they'll feel really bad when they find out what the news was.
sorry
#198 - On 04/21/2009 at 7:35pm by DanielleMazz
I don't feel that judgment is fair. You should've told them what was happening, something like "i'm sick" or something. Words like "important" carry little meaning in today's society, so blaming them for your lack of specificity is unfair.
#204 - On 04/30/2009 at 9:18pm by screwedup123
Why didn't you stress just how important the situation was? They'd obviously already made arrangements and watching TV is much more appealing than listening to news in any case.
#205 - On 05/02/2009 at 11:44pm by pietastesgood
I am so sorry. I hope your battle with cancer goes well- several close family member to me have suffered different forms of cancer and I really hope you survive.
Even with a moronic family.
That's so sad :(
*hugs*
I would of came if I knew you and you called me.
Not that it helps,
but I would have.
You should record yourself delivering the news in HD, with a heartbreaking score in 5.1 dolby surround sound and bring the DVD over and some popcorn.
WIsh you the best. pancreatic cancer is a terrible terrible disease. seriously stay strong and find yourself some real support. Also, don't forget that they don't know...and surely if they did, hopefully they wouldn't care about the tv
At least you have family. Go and join them in watching your cousin's tv. Mention the cancer later in the evening, or not.
#211 - On 05/17/2009 at 12:42pm by hyperblaster
I'm sorry that they did that, especially right now, when you really need them. They're assholes.
#212 - On 05/20/2009 at 9:56pm by SweetheartAngel
Hey man, im sorry to hear about the cancer, i found out last night my girlfriends father has the same cancer =/ It'll be alright. About them not coming, that's down right rude.
#214 - On 05/27/2009 at 2:08am by Pringle126
Some big guilt trip you can put onto them, eh?
Sorry, about the Cancer. Maybe they gave it to you by treating you so bad.
#216 - On 06/08/2009 at 3:17pm by RodeHard
I would have gone over and smashed his TV and then cut the wires. You can always reimburse your cousin.
#217 - On 06/16/2009 at 7:54pm by AlreadyExistsTH
Tell a few really close members of your family or friend circle, be direct. Word will spread and everyone you know will know, but there are some that know that you don't know, like us, but we don't know you, so we don't really know what you know that your friends and family know what you know that we know but don't really know about what you know. I know it's hard to connect with others and you don't know how to approach it. Sometimes, you just have to get straight to the point. Hook them in, just like writing an essay (I'm majoring in English). You know what I'm saying?
#218 - On 06/24/2009 at 12:55am by FatAssAnonymous
no kidding, pancreatic cancer! sorry to hear that. wish you all the best.
#219 - On 07/10/2009 at 4:52am by LeCorsaire
You deserve it for thinking your more important than a new TV. You people with cancer are all alike! Sheesh...
#220 - On 07/10/2009 at 11:26am by epicFAIL_Sometim
That sucks, but you can't blame them for having previous engagments,. They didn't know what it was about.
But that does suck for you.
Ohhhh... that is so sad. My friend's uncle had pancreatic cancer, and he died a few months ago. It made him look older and he was really skinny in the end. I'm so sorry. Your relatives are idiots for thinking a 'new tv' is more important than family.
To the person who said LOL: Pancreatic cancer is terminal. His chances of survival are slim to none.
I seriously feel really bad for you. I am seeing my friends tomorrow and when I tell them this they will feel so sad. I will keep you in my prayers!!
#225 - On 08/13/2009 at 2:21am by ICantDanceLOL
Oooh, I'm so sorry. My friends mom had pancriatic cancer for about 3 years. She died recently, and it was so sad. Amazingly, my freind only missed one day of school, she didn't want to stay home she wanted to be around friends. But seriously, you should've gone to your cousin's house and stood in front of the TV and said "Are you sure you don't want to hear my news?" and if they told you to get out of the way you couldve said "Ok, but if you ever want to hear it, then i hope you can comunicate with people from beyond the grave!" that would get their attention! and then when they're all like "What?!?!" you could be all "Oh, so you do want to hear it, nah, i'll let you watch TV.. cuz that is more important that me." An theyd be all "Tell us. Then you say "OK, today I was diagnosed with pancriatic cancer. Now i'm sorry i interupted you." and dun dun dun dun..... everyone is being all "sorry!" and "oh my god" and "*Cries*"
yea, but i'm so sorry. I wish you the best of luck with this. :'(
#227 - On 08/14/2009 at 3:33am by vampirechick
wow I'm disgusted some people think this person deserves it... pathetic wish you best of luck hope your fine
some people are so cruel like that. I say just go over to your cousins with something that's good to hit with, stand in front of the TV, and break it.
It's really terrible how bad things to the wrong people.
#230 - On 09/10/2009 at 5:59pm by FMLdaileygirl
Ooooh my...
that sucks balls.
honestly.
why did they do that?
I'm so sorry for you :[ you should reprimand them somehow, maybe tell them that it was important to you. really important.
I hope you'll be okay :[ that really sucks.
I'd give you a hug but that'd be awkward. internet comfort then.
~13AD
#231 - On 09/28/2009 at 3:07am by 13_angels_death
Whoever said YDI has to go to hell. That's plain horrible.
And hang in there, you *will* survive. Just keep believing :D
That is horrific.. My mother died of pancreatic cancer. I really hope you live.
#234 - On 10/08/2009 at 12:32pm by wellthatsucksss
what is this the 50's? everyone has their own tvs now who goes to someones house to watch tv? FTL for being in a timewarp. seriously i bet they will feel horrible when you break the news. and good luck bro. hang in there
OMG...I'm soo sorry for you...My dads girlfriend has cancer so i know its horrible...just keep faith and fight hard...U will survive. ill pray for u and dont b too hard on ur family ull want them around now...besides they could never have guessed tht ur news would b cancer...god bless and good luck
#236 - On 10/19/2009 at 9:03pm by greekgoddess2012
watch a TV?.......impotant news?............ my conclution.......... they r assholes!
may all hope be with you, and god be in you soul.... : )
good luck
#237 - On 10/29/2009 at 9:43pm by smexy_sasori123
i am so sorry about your news :( my uncle had pancriotic cancer too, and its so devistating.
please hang in there and i wish you all the luck in the world. stay stong
#238 - On 11/17/2009 at 7:16pm by sarahcheetah
I understand that families can be busy, I understand that we should always forgive those who hurt us especially, for most people, family. Family are the ones who are suppose to be there for you when no one else will, also I realize that is not always the case, but if I had invited my family over for *dinner* because I had some *news* to tell them that should have communicated to them that it is pretty effin major. It may not be something as big as telling them I have pancreatic cancer, it may be something like I am going very far away far away to school, announcing an engagement, or telling them something that effects us all. Regardless of what they have going on or for what the reason I have called a family dinner I expect these people that say the love me unconditionally to be there promptly and ready to hear what I have to say. If they decided that a effin television was more important than me and whatever news I had then I would not tell them at all. I would just let them find out by simple happening, such as, "I will be over as soon as I pick up my meds from the pharmacy." "Medicine for what? " "My pancreatic cancer." My family members would be like, "I can not believe you did not tell me." I would reply with something like, "Oh, you had a TV to watch. I did not want to interrupt that with my boring family dinner and announcement." I am sure there are those out there who are bigger people than a person I would be in that situation so I commend those who could so easily forgive but I would be quite angry and face my cancer alone, but that is me sometimes I let my pride get the better of me.
TBH you should'a called your cousin and told him the deal straight away, then asked him to come straight over and have dinner, and not call the rest of the family. Then they could'a stood outside his door looking like a-holes while you and your cousin was having a nice dinner and talking it over.
P.S. tell him to turn off his cell
You know what I don't understand...
why people voted that "you totally deserved it" like wtf?
#244 - On 12/05/2009 at 2:15pm by Fyourlifekidss
im really sorry about your situation. cancers a hard thing to go through. as for you family, they'll regret it but really sucks to not have them be there for you. they sound like selfish little bitches
#245 - On 12/20/2009 at 12:51am by oceaneyes9
My aunt just recently died of cancer, and i regret not getting to know her better. and this makes me sick to my stomach. though they didn't know what you were going to tell them and the serverity of it. hopefully you are cured and live a happy life. and make sure that your family know that you were going to tell them you have cancer, and they skipped out on you for a freakin tv. Make them feel terrible, and make sure they apoligize, even though they are still going to feel like crap.
#246 - On 12/24/2009 at 2:41pm by leahismine
Haha, do you guys live in the country where TVs are scarce? I can't imagine a family gathering over a new TV.
#247 - On 12/25/2009 at 2:24am by emmaemmaemma
guilty trip. thats the best bet. make them suffre because thats just down right wrong, and over a Tv?.
Milk them for their sympathy until you die. Then leave everything on your will to yourself because you "believe in reincarnation".
#251 - On 01/06/2010 at 7:01pm by hellomynamekeyes
Sorry man :(
Give them the guilt trip definately.
And when you're better (which I hope you get!), don't invite them to celebrate
and cut them out of your life!
You're in my prayers!
#252 - On 01/13/2010 at 12:29am by Sttephhh
that is so wrong on so many levels....Blessings and best wishes. I pray you can fight it. (hugs)
#253 - On 01/16/2010 at 11:40pm by sweetnsassybitch
