Parents, LGBTQIA+ and Therapy: Some taken

Some taken

By Sadboy - 06/04/2012 14:24 - United States

Today, I went to family therapy because my mom wanted the family to be closer. When asked what her biggest disappointment was in life, she turned to me and said, "Having a gay son" then patted my hand, smiled, and said "No offense, honey." FML

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By EvilMother - 14/09/2012 00:57 - United States - Hinsdale

Today, after having a long talk with my mother about LGBT rights, she told me that she was totally open. I felt completely relieved, being gay myself. Seconds later, she said, "But not for you. I want you to find me a nice girl that can give me lots of grandkids." FML

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By Anonymous - 06/01/2015 00:16 - United States - Oak Ridge

Today, my mom called me into the living room to say that she had something important to tell me. She then explained how she and my dad had "talked things over" and wanted me to know that they accept me and love me no matter what. Apparently my mom thinks I'm lesbian. I'm not. FML

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Supportive

By bopbop - 20/05/2009 01:21 - United States

Today, my brother came out to our family as being gay. My mother starting crying because she "wanted grandchildren." I told her that I was planning on having children. She started crying harder. FML

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Denial

By TedX - 19/08/2020 20:07

Today, at 18, I finally told my mom I was gay. She spent the rest of the day bringing up my "future wife" at every possible chance she had. FML

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By augh - 10/12/2010 08:24

Today, I finally worked up the courage to tell my mom that I'm gay. She sympathetically patted my back and told me I don't need to make up excuses for me being so unattractive to women. FML

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By teriyaki124 - 21/03/2009 09:13 - United States

Today, I came out to my mom. I had an epic speech planned, and when I tried to tell her, it all fell apart and I started crying and just said, "I'm gay." After a few seconds silence, my mom sighs and says, "Duh." FML

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Main character syndrome

By Anonymous - 10/02/2024 23:00

Today, my mom found out I’m in therapy and took it as an insult, like therapy was a criticism of her parenting. Um, maybe if she hadn’t spent my childhood telling me and everyone in our family that having me was an accident, that I’ve been a huge burden, and that she should have aborted me. FML

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By shouldhaveknown - 26/06/2009 14:22 - Australia

Today, I finally thought that my mother was okay with me being a lesbian. Then, over dinner, she turns to me and says, "So, do you still think you like girls, or are you going to start being normal again?" FML

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By Karim - 12/12/2012 05:29 - France - Aix-en-provence

Today, I introduced my girlfriend to my family for the first time. My mother's immediate reaction was, "We didn't know you were gay!" No mom, she really is a girl. FML

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Keeping up

By Anonymous - 09/05/2019 22:00

Today, I found out that my mother has been telling everybody that I’m a lesbian, because both of her best friends have at least one gay child each, and she was feeling left out. This explains why people have been treating me differently the last few weeks. FML

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knsy 0

Friday 6 April 2012 18:58

I wish small minds had small mouths.

hubla 0

Friday 6 April 2012 18:59

I would have patted her face with the back of my hand

Comments

BrysGirl27 14

Friday 6 April 2012 20:25

What a bitch!!!!:( be proud of who you are:) there is nothing wrong with being gay:)

NothingsEasy 4

Friday 6 April 2012 20:26

I remember when a guy mocked in front of all my friends for being gay when I'm not...I got a bloody nose and cut, he got a nice right hook and a black eye

BrysGirl27 14

Friday 6 April 2012 20:28

Good job:)

NeverDont 13

Friday 6 April 2012 23:00

That's faaaaaaa-ntastic!

cegref 0

Friday 6 April 2012 20:26

I swear if my mom ever told me that I would slap her because she would have lied about accepting me for who I am

Helenarth 6

Friday 6 April 2012 20:28

I dislike the fact that some people will play the "maybe she's just upset she won't get grandkids" card. Now, let's pretend for a moment that gay people can't in fact have kids. Even then, nobody OWES their parents grandchildren. It's not like your little zygote self signed a contract which stated that in return for being conceived, you would promise to have children in the future.

bepatientimadoc 6

Friday 6 April 2012 20:41

Hahahaha good point, but I think that if a straight child tells their mother they dont want any children then still there will be an amount of dissapointment. And some straight ppl (as I said in my comment below) just have these funny ideas about gay life that are very difficult to ' set str8 ' (yes the pun was intended)

Soldier4Christ82 2

Friday 6 April 2012 21:15

What do you mean "pretend"? Are there homosexual men who have wombs somewhere that I'm not aware of? Are there lesbians who can produce sperm?

Dracoboxer357 35

Friday 6 April 2012 22:39

148- Yes, there are some homosexual men with wombs available to them, usually in the form of a female friend that is willing to carry and birth a child fathered with their injected sperm. That way, a gay man can still sire his own child, if they so choose. My brother's gay, and my sister has offered to carry an implanted, fertilized egg for him, if and when he wants to be a father/ have a child. It's not that uncommon or unusual.

Helenarth 6

Saturday 7 April 2012 0:12

148: There are many options available. For a start, many trans people retain their birth genitalia - there's your homosexual men with wombs and lesbians who produce sperm. As well as this, a person could choose surrogacy, adoption, fostering, in vitro...

bigmackin35 0

Friday 6 April 2012 20:29

To hell with that women moms shouldn't be degrading their sons like that

Ifrah 0

Friday 6 April 2012 20:30

Lol, get a wife and prove her wrong! ;)

bepatientimadoc 6

Friday 6 April 2012 20:32

How can anyone say that you deserve it???? OP, I dont know how long ago you told your mom abt your being gay. When I told my mom I was a lesbian she had trouble with it too, now Im able to talk to her about it and it has to do with the expectations a parent has from the moment of the pregnancy. You want your kid to have a happy life, and sometimes straight ppl have the idea that a homosexual life is SO complicated it will make you unhappy and that it is easier to 'just be straight'. I might as well tall a human its easier to just be a dog! Anyway I hope you can talk to your mom and tell her how her comment make you feel, if she cares abt u enough to go to therapy I think she cares abt u enough to listen to you, and try to understand. Hugs OP and hang in there!

Helenarth 6

Friday 6 April 2012 20:34

Agreed. Hopefully she meant the disappointment as in "my son will have a hard life" rather than "I don't like gay people". Not that the former is any more well informed, but at least the intention is better.

Epsilonyx 15

Friday 6 April 2012 20:33

Some of you are quick to judge. Some mothers who hold no anti-homosexual stigmas are often caught by surprise. I knew an Atheist mother who cried when she found out her daughter was a lesbian because she wanted grandchildren (naturally, not artificial insemination or adoption). It doesn't mean she's a "cherry-picking, Christian homophobe"....that's just as judgmental. I'm sure most parents, regardless of who they are, need to cope with the news to some extent.

zombiesdkdjdjf 1

Friday 6 April 2012 20:35

Uh. Your mom wants you to be closer.. But she can't expect that until she's proud of you. And I'm sorry but that was pure bitch. Be proud of who your are and **** the rest.