I wouldn't wanna be apart of that family..

Try to explain? Good luck!

well technically he has given you his consent...by telling you that you should not require his consent... congratulations btw :)

The Dad sounds like a annoying person. I know I would appreciate it if my significant other went to my parents and said "I'd like to marry your Son, are you okay with it?" as it shows my significant other values my parents good opinion just as much as I do. It isn't a question of property so much as politeness. You aren't signing a deed in which the younger generation has no consent. You are just making sure the parents don't hate and resent you as a matter of politeness -- because if they DO hate any resent you it doesn't matter because they should want what is best for their kid. And if they are happy then too bad. But in the end asking for permission is the kindest and most polite thing to do and shows respect for the parents -- without whom the person you want to marry wouldn't be alive.

I totally agree with her dad and think you should stop taking your social cues from rom-coms and Facegrandma--or whatever place people stare at to absorb ass-backward views on whose permission you really need to marry a girl, hers or her father's. That said, I'm sure you were trying to come across as "cute and respectful" rather than "outdated sexist." So FYL and learn something. Hope your actual proposal goes better.

I'm sure you meant well OP but I agree with the father on this one. I would've been so upset if my husband had asked my dad's PERMISSION. He doesn't make decisions for me. Including him on the proposal plans would've been a better idea.

I'd go with asking for his blessing, rather than his permission. Try clarifying to him that you only meant it as a tradition and seeing if he found you suitable for his daughter.

"Permission" is rather outdated. Most often nowadays it's asking for the father's blessing.

I also agree with the dad. It was pretty much a property transaction back when that was relevant. Nowadays people that feel the need to appear 'sweet and traditional' ask for their blessing. It was a stupid move OP, I can't speak for every woman out there but I would be incredibly offended if my partner did that. Who I marry is my choice, not my family's and even though he said no I assume you're still going to marry her. What's the point of 'asking permission' if you're just going to do it anyway? It was incredibly disrespectful of your girlfriend and her family.

Sometimes you can't win for losing. And it's a father's last chance to try and prevent their daughter from marrying someone they've spotted to be a really, really poor choice (abusive, drunk, philandering, etc.). But I hope he doesn't expect to walk her down the aisle. That's also archaic. He gets to sit in the pews and watch, with all the other guests! BTW, one of my brother-in-laws asked...while Dad was carrying a loaded shotgun and they were out in the middle of nowhere quail hunting! Gotta give him points for guts. And a better response for that Dad? "You have my blessing to ask my daughter."