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By notready - / Tuesday 15 October 2013 06:49 / Australia
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By  dawood_k  |  25

Ha ha ha...she knows you to well. Seems that your dad knows you even better!!! There has to be a reason for her to reject you, and for your dad to state you not ready!

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  oj101  |  33

Sorry, but has anyone considered that she isn't obligated to say yes? Sure, OP had good intentions but the girlfriend probably felt nervous and embarrassed when she was asked the question, and she clearly wasn't ready to get married.

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  nomoreparty  |  11

They were along with family. Also the father was joking, that means they have know each other for quite some time.

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  R3TROxLOV3  |  32

46 no it doesn't. I met my boyfriend's parents the week we started dating, and he met with mine as well. His parents were joking around with me within the first two hours, and our families had our first dinner together by the second month of our relationship, and have continued to do so for the past 4 years. Your reasons are unbelievably stupid. I'm kind of hoping that you were joking around, and I just missed it.

By  singer0421  |  32

Yikes! Maybe you should've confronted your parents about the topic first?

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  Enslaved  |  36

Maybe the dad purposely took on the dick role to try and save the girlfriend from seeming like a cold hearted beep! And also to help lighten the mood of his son getting rejected?

By  AverageJoey  |  18

Something tells me that she isnt going to say yes if you ask her again later, but if she does CongratS!

By  dawood_k  |  25

Ha ha ha...she knows you to well. Seems that your dad knows you even better!!! There has to be a reason for her to reject you, and for your dad to state you not ready!

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  queerdragon  |  20

@59: Don't know why people assume "not ready to get married" equals "I hate you and want to end this relationship." I have friends who were proposed to, turned it down, waited a few years then got married. They were much healthier relationships than the girl/guy who just agrees because society says you have to be at step C by x age.

By  tpm45  |  25

You probably should have talked to her dad first. But either way, what he said was extremely rude and unprecedented.

By  Vidrill  |  22

Well, since two people that are very close to you agree this wasn't a good idea, maybe you should consider it. It's a bad idea to rush into marriage, and now you have plenty of time to discuss why they think you are not ready.

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OP didn't specify how old he was. For all we know he could be in his 30s and completely ready for marriage, but it was his girlfriend who wasn't ready for the commitment and his dad was being a super asshat.

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  RedPillSucks  |  30

Being old doesn't imply you're ready for marriage. The dad may very well understand that his son is not mentally ready. Perhaps OP is a player, or is immature. I don't think what he said was rude at all. If he had said it BEFORE the girlfriends response, then I would have agreed is was rude.

By  Newboy237  |  4

Ask them if they're ready to pay for their own meals if they're going to shit on you so much.

By  LizetteBerenice  |  22

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  magiczebra  |  9

But if OP had asked for permission, the dad would've said no then, thus saving OP the embarrassment of being rejected and insulted in front of his family.

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  magiczebra  |  9

First, I highly doubt he would've. If the dad did happen to say yes, it would still be embarrassing, but a lot less cause OP doesn't have his girlfriends rejection AND her dads insult. It would've saved OP a whole lot of dignity to ask the father first.

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  magiczebra  |  9

Oops. It's OPs own dad who said he wasn't ready, not OPs girlfriends dad. No matter what I don't think OP could've avoided the double embarrassment. Sorry for misunderstanding you.

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  queerdragon  |  20

I think communication is what is missing here. Op thought, because he was with this girl for x amount of time, that she would feel the same way he did about the relationship. That is usually the excuse I hear for "Why didn't you ask her if she was ready for marriage?" Sometimes it is hard to imagine the person you love and care for might not be on the same page. I should know, because I have had to be the girl who turned my ex down for marriage. I wasn't ready, I felt I was too young, and had said, multiple times, I was not ready for marriage. He chose to ignore that and we never really had the conversation until he proposed and I ended it that night.

By  harryisangry  |  6

That sucks. I guess your dad was upset that you Diddnt speak with him first, but that's not a good enough reason to embarrass you child in front of their potential spouse.

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