Get your self a male stripper... :)

Going to strip clubs and getting hard to girls taking off their clothes and dancing on your lap is cheating. It's different than ****. So, if you don't mind your bf watching girls strip at a club, what's the difference between that and him going over to his friend "sarahs" apartment so she can strip for him and give him a dance? What it's not like he's sleeping with her, right? If he thinks she's psycho for that. Then she can go dance naked and cocktease men, and if he doesn't like it, then he's "psycho".

Well i'll be neutral about this. See he probably does want to do some male bonding time with his guy friends but he's being a straight up inconsiderate douchebag when he calls you a control freak or giving a lame excuse of you needing a reason to get mad at him. So the ball's in your court. Really depends how long you've been w him. Either stay or leave his ass.

I think your being too controlling. Two types of guys go to the strippers. Pervy guys who want to play the games, hit on strippers, and try and bring one home. And guys that go for a few drinks, some male bonding, and treat the strippers as background entertainment. You'd be WAY more justified in saying he can go where he likes, but that you don't want him perving, playing games etc. As it stands, I think you've got a nieve idea of what actually goes on there

I am divided. It doesn't bother me if it's one time every so often but if it comes to more than 2 times a month I would be offended. It's alright if it's a special night like a bachelor party or a birthday with the guys night but if it's just because it's just wrong to me.

I've never understood why women get mad if there boyfriend or husband go to a strip club. It's really not that big of a deal. I say YDI.

Would you rather him go to a party where he has an actual chance of getting some where with a girl? At least at a strip club they just give lap dances. At parties and bars anything can happen.

Sounds a lot like my boyfriend lol

Sounds like someone needs to learn a little something about trust.

when a man is taken, he has no reason to be looking at other naked...especially half naked ones.

I don't care if my husband goes to a strip club but I do prefer going with and so does he. We get a couple lap dance but he likes the stripper to rub on me instead. I get turned on because of him getting turned on. You have to trust your man if you expect to be in a relationship without trust you have disaster. My husband knows if he cheated on me I would leave in an instant and he doesn't ever want to jeopardize that happening seeing with me he has been happier than any portion of his life without me. Of course he is happy because I trust him... It's a circle not a square, lol!

I'm kinda torn between ydi and fyl, because if you constantly nagg him about things then probably ydi. But on the other hand I don't like the idea of my fiancé being around other women when they're half naked. Or naked. Or the idea of him being alone with other women. I don't let him hang around his old friends cause they got him into pretty dark times. But then again I express my feeligs calmly and I make a good arguement and he agrees with me anyways especially because I don't go around checking out other dudes. All I see are pieces of meat. If you've tried to discuss with him why you don't want him doing certain stuff and he doesn't respect your wishes, then maybe it's time to find someone who will. (sorry for the massive wall of text everyone)