right bc it's so easy to just stay in shape after children, stresses of life, and getting older

That's no excuse at all. My mother is turning 42 this year and is still a size 4-6 even though she's had three children. The rest of her siblings are overweight because they are lazy and eat fattening shit for every meal. She's not even an exercise/diet freak, she works out for 30 minutes a day and makes good choices at mealtimes. I've been married for nearly a year now and have been extremely adamant about staying trim for my hubby, it's NOT hard to keep track of your weight.

that's nice. i mean, seriously, congrats. but some people don't feel the need to stay a size 4-6. i think that should be their choice.

You shouldn't stay trim for your husband, it should be for you. Your comment suggests that if someone was out of shape in a happy marriage it would mean they are undesirable- therefore expandable. What a shallow outlook on life, and very narrow minded.

Call it whatever you want, but I don't think there's anything wrong with using my other half as motivation to stay in shape. I am aware that people can be overweight and still in a happy marriage, but I could never "let myself go" like some of my own friends have. I find it extremely annoying to see overweight or obese people that have absolutely no reason to be. There's a woman that works out at my gym that has ONE LEG and runs 5 miles nearly every day. Seriously, what is anyone's excuse if people missing appendages are in better shape than they are? This one of the main reasons why other countries hate America.

i don't think people should need a "reason" or "excuse" to be overweight. :/

That's right, no one needs an excuse to be doing what they do with their own bodies. Many things can lead to being overweight, including our emotions. Everyone has a special way of dealing with what comes their way and sometimes eating can be comforting (albeit only for a little while, and people can easily fall into a vicious cycle) or maybe they honestly don't mind if they're over a size 14 because they feel good! It is no one's position to judge another because of their weight. People try to be understanding when it comes to a bunch of senseless shit that people do, yet they can be very hard on the inside when it comes to certain issues, such as weight. Learn to be understanding, sympathetic, and most of all mind your own damn business. It's not your life, and I'm sure half of you do things that are much more despicable than *gasp* overeating! Just count yourselves lucky that your hardened hearts cannot be seen at first glance, because you'd be uglier than any good human being that happens to be overweight.