@61 while that may be true, a wake isn't a first date sort of thing so I'm assuming his girlfriend knows the family well enough to know what is and is not okay in their situations.
I'm just really glad I'm Irish! In all seriousness, though, this may have been a kind gesture on her part (it would certainly be welcome for many wakes) so before you get upset, consider the thought behind it. Also, very sorry for your loss!
I've been to more than one Irish wake in my day. Getting loose in memory of the times you had with those you lost. Though I tend to bring a bottle of whiskey over a 12-pack, all malt is good.
But OP is from Mexico; the wake is more of a viewing than a party. It's a somber occasion. So showing up with a 12'er is really tacky. FYL indeed.
It depends where you are from. I'm from New Zealand and to us a wake is a massive celebration of the persons life. We all sit around drinking, playing guitars and singing, and telling stories about the person. I'm pretty sure the Irish are similar too.
addioty 19
Where I come from, wakes are celebrations of life, alcohol included (even though I'm not of the legal drinking age). Maybe OP's girlfriend thought this would be a celebration instead of a viewing. Either way, sorry for your loss OP.
Coming from the southeastern U.S., wakes are just as mournful as funerals. The wake I went to had dishes to pass and people asking if I had popped out any kids yet. That being said, wakes and funerals under the Bible Belt consist mainly of comparing each other's outfits, casseroles, and social status more than remembering the person who passed.
Maybe you need a new girlfriend who can actually support you and do a better job at helping you in this great time of sorrow in your life. My condolences are with you, sorry for your loss
She was supporting bringing beer was her way of saying "things happen for a reason so celebrate the wonderful life she had" personally my family got wasted at my granny's wake we all talked about how awesome she was and drinking helped deal with the pain she wasn't being insensitive at all
I don't know about inconsiderate. A 12 pack is plenty enough to go around between a few people.
In all seriousness though, sorry for your loss OP, and your girlfriend is rather inconsiderate.
Nothing is wrong with it by itself. It depends on the family. Your question is legitimate depending on your perspective. My ex's family always had booze at wakes. It's considered tradition in many families. Take a look at #20's comment. At that wake it was considered a good deed. The troll comments were a little harsh given a legitimate comment/question. I don't think you were just trying to start a comment war.
19, like Doc said, that shit will stick with you like herpes.
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Faith in humanity slowly being restored, thank you very much. It was an honest question.... I'm Mexican and besides the stereotypes there is always alcohol at any gathering, which is why I didn't think anything was disrespectful... Thanks again
You can thank the teetotalers for seeing alcohol as "disrespectful" at serious social gatherings. It's more about the irresponsible things that irresponsible people do (fight, cause scenes, say inappropriate things, etc.) when they get completely wasted at events like these.
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Stoodle 9
What the hell..
BillMurray_fml 12
Wow...sorry about your mom man.
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Stoodle 9
What the hell..
the_zero_article 15
Classy.
the_zero_article 15
But seriously, someone needs to explain to her that not every gathering is a party.
Rainhawk94 27
Apparently op's girlfriend is handling her death harder than op
ticktockbaboom 6
perhaps she wished to drown her sorrows?
abitabanana 8
I come from an Irish family, where at a wake, it's not only NOT abnormal, it's expected. But judge on, Judgey McJudgersons.
Niniva 8
Yeah, come to think of it, IT'S A WAKE. WTF do you expect?
TheDrifter 24
I too thought that a wake was more of a celebration of someone's life and a funeral was a somber remembrance.
Flowtastic 16
@61 while that may be true, a wake isn't a first date sort of thing so I'm assuming his girlfriend knows the family well enough to know what is and is not okay in their situations.
iceroyalty1984 14
I'm just really glad I'm Irish! In all seriousness, though, this may have been a kind gesture on her part (it would certainly be welcome for many wakes) so before you get upset, consider the thought behind it. Also, very sorry for your loss!
alan2kai13 3
moms funeral. byob
CaptMacLeod 45
I've been to more than one Irish wake in my day. Getting loose in memory of the times you had with those you lost. Though I tend to bring a bottle of whiskey over a 12-pack, all malt is good. But OP is from Mexico; the wake is more of a viewing than a party. It's a somber occasion. So showing up with a 12'er is really tacky. FYL indeed.
Niniva 8
Thanks for the explanation. I'll remember that the nationality influences the nature of the occasion.
BillMurray_fml 12
Wow...sorry about your mom man.
abitabanana 8
Condolences from Bill Murray always make one feel better, no?
SmuggletheBudgie 15
So sorry to hear OP I cant imagine the pain you're feeling after you've lost your mum. Take care.
sarahhanlen 11
That Is so disrespectful.
griggypop 4
Maybe more presumptuous than disrespectful. I've been to a couple wakes where the booze flows freely.
cheshirecat13242 32
Sorry to hear, OP.. There are worse things she could've shown up with--such as her other boyfriend
You_Screwed_Up 7
It depends where you are from. I'm from New Zealand and to us a wake is a massive celebration of the persons life. We all sit around drinking, playing guitars and singing, and telling stories about the person. I'm pretty sure the Irish are similar too.
addioty 19
Where I come from, wakes are celebrations of life, alcohol included (even though I'm not of the legal drinking age). Maybe OP's girlfriend thought this would be a celebration instead of a viewing. Either way, sorry for your loss OP.
amisenho 11
Coming from the southeastern U.S., wakes are just as mournful as funerals. The wake I went to had dishes to pass and people asking if I had popped out any kids yet. That being said, wakes and funerals under the Bible Belt consist mainly of comparing each other's outfits, casseroles, and social status more than remembering the person who passed.
JustinKirby 20
Maybe you need a new girlfriend who can actually support you and do a better job at helping you in this great time of sorrow in your life. My condolences are with you, sorry for your loss
whaaaaat111 6
Yea my best friend showed up to my dads wake drunk and he passed out after making a scene
katiemay007 6
She was supporting bringing beer was her way of saying "things happen for a reason so celebrate the wonderful life she had" personally my family got wasted at my granny's wake we all talked about how awesome she was and drinking helped deal with the pain she wasn't being insensitive at all
thebomb553 5
Not ok, not even for the after party.
ColonelFML 17
Yeah. Everybody has a party after a wake.
iAlissa 34
I get the joke but he just lost someone. Have some ******* empathy.
Nick_Cage34 3
17 shut the **** up and chill out.
Phoebe_Buffay 14
Wtf. I'm sorry for your loss, OP. And I'm also sorry you have such an inconsiderate girlfriend.
MatteKudasai 17
I don't know about inconsiderate. A 12 pack is plenty enough to go around between a few people. In all seriousness though, sorry for your loss OP, and your girlfriend is rather inconsiderate.
mythicaltimes 15
My ex was like that. it sounds like she has an alcohol problem.
gingaa96 18
She a ho, fa sho.
SonOfAMitch 14
Wh-what.. *squints* ??????????
RedPillSucks 33
Idiot translator.... She has questionable moral character, certainly.
juarezj96 12
Wow disrespectful bastard. Damn. I'm sorry
jackrreaper117 6
What's so wrong about it?
jackrreaper117 6
You know actual response instead of down votes would really be appreciated -___-
Shrike 24
D'aww, the poor lil' troll isn't getting enough raging replies. There there. *pats through a hazmat suit*
DocBastard 40
Careful about touching trolls, Shrike. Even with the hazmat suit, that stench will cling to you.
SonOfAMitch 14
Eugh, last time I touched a troll - it took 17 baths, 12 showers and 4 bleach washes... It still sometimes comes back..
BobbieH 19
Nothing is wrong with it by itself. It depends on the family. Your question is legitimate depending on your perspective. My ex's family always had booze at wakes. It's considered tradition in many families. Take a look at #20's comment. At that wake it was considered a good deed. The troll comments were a little harsh given a legitimate comment/question. I don't think you were just trying to start a comment war.
eddeeezzyy 19
19, like Doc said, that shit will stick with you like herpes.
jackrreaper117 6
Faith in humanity slowly being restored, thank you very much. It was an honest question.... I'm Mexican and besides the stereotypes there is always alcohol at any gathering, which is why I didn't think anything was disrespectful... Thanks again
amisenho 11
You can thank the teetotalers for seeing alcohol as "disrespectful" at serious social gatherings. It's more about the irresponsible things that irresponsible people do (fight, cause scenes, say inappropriate things, etc.) when they get completely wasted at events like these.