Today, my wife told me that she wants a divorce. Apparently, I'm taking too long to forgive her for having an affair. FML
I agree, your life sucks (29924) - you totally deserved it (1918)
On 02/08/2010 at 9:18am - love - by DD - Sent from mobile version
(0)Well, I should have forgiven her sooner. or just proposed a threesome... lol jk good for u! get urself a better wife next time k
#104 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:01pm by pwincessa23
(0)Maybe it's for the best if she's a cheating, dirty, whore.
#107 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:03pm by DonkeyDelight
(0)do you get married ask yourself if you're going to see yourself getting bored and cheating don't even think about saying I
#123 - On 02/08/2010 at 8:31pm by awesomechica1229
(0)what a candy ass mofo u shoulda cheated on her with her sisters then took pictures and put them on the table of u fukin her sister in her asslol jk
#169 - On 02/09/2010 at 8:50am by cartermc17
(0)my gf broke up with me for taking to long to forgive her for making out with another guy. and I was only thinking about it for a day! so I know how u feel OP FYL
#174 - On 02/09/2010 at 10:02am by azurablade
(0)My boy friend cheated on me. That day we got in a fight about a girl he was talking to and he said he would never ever cheat on me. That night he went and hungout with his friends and at 10 at night I get a text saying "she kissed me". But he got caught kissing her so I know how you feel.
#214 - On 02/12/2010 at 10:15pm by rebelgirl17
(0)u should not even of gave her a second chance. if some one cheats on me I would just leave them but that depends on how long it was ect. we can't blame if on the wife cause if he was going to give her a second chance then he can't take to long. we can't jump to any conclusions cause we don't know enough
p.s OP gl :)
(0)my gf cheated on me but I didn't break up with her because she told her friends that she felt bad so she would wait for me to break up with her. so I f ed all of her friends and sister for a year. one day I texted her to come over so she could walk in on me and her cousin. best year of my life ;)
#233 - On 04/18/2010 at 10:54pm by mylifeblows3232
(+5)The fact that she cheated probably means that she was looking for an out anyway. She just needed something or someone to blame, in order to take the next step. Your 'lack of forgiveness' just happened to be it. Consider yourself single, and happily move on with your life. Good luck, OP!
#58 - On 02/08/2010 at 3:45pm by TrekkieGirl
(+2)No. Most states are "no fault" divorce states. Infidelity is not a factor in how assets are divided.
#65 - On 02/08/2010 at 3:54pm by Jewelofagal
(0)it's true it's mostly based on the years you spent together. if the marriage lasts over 7 years then you both split the asset equally including the 401k and any pensions either if you have.
op I say cheat now while you're still married to her, tell her she's a bad lay then divorce her ass.
#97 - On 02/08/2010 at 6:33pm by mikeyboi19
(0)I feel your pain OP (and anger) but it's for the best I guess. soon you'll be able to do what ever you want with who ever u want. bad thing is that she takes half ur stuff XD
(0)she probably though u were gonna divorce, and decided she was the one who said it first, so that she wouldn't feelbdumb.
#221 - On 02/14/2010 at 12:00pm by avleenbali
(+2)I don't want to say your life sucks because your life just got IMMENSELY better!
#3 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:07pm by mssuzielyn
(+1)You will be MUCH better off! She needs to be alone, and unhappy. She will be. You move on.
#4 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:08pm by roaminginsomniac
(+1)omfg. brilliant. seriously though what a bitch. drop her on her ass. she obviously doesn't want you anyway.
#66 - On 02/08/2010 at 3:55pm by AngryNinja
(0)Well give the woman what she wants. I say you are getting the better end of the deal. You probably don't have to give her a lot of money in the divorce either because of her infidelity.
(0)wow hold up now.... we don't know if that's true or not. just cuz she had an affair doesn't mean it was with more than one person. it's also doesn't mean she actually fucks everyone she meetws
(+4)You're in a tough situation, but it's time to man up.
Your wife has probably already hired the most vile divorce attorney she could find, and has probably already slept with him. She will petition to force you to pay her attorney fees and they (her and the attorney) will go after everything you own (not just half... that's too old fashioned).
You MUST find yourself a female divorce attorney, because only a female attorney will be able to develop the pure primal hatred toward another female (your wife) that will allow you to stand a chance in this fight.
In the end, you will be victorious in the same way a country is victorious in a long war: you'll lose a lot, take a lot of damage, but you'll be better off in the long run.
DO NOT hire a male attorney... your wife will probably sleep with him too, and then they'll all conspire against you.
#11 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:12pm by FerrariCake
(0)dude!! that was awesome! you said it! I've been there!
#23 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:28pm by drilher244
(0)dump her....I'd your young you shouldn't think twice about bein with someone who obviously doesn't love you.....when u love somebody you don cheat
(-1) "dump her....I'd your young you shouldn't think twice about bein with someone who obviously doesn't love you."
huh?
(0)She's beyond help. Divorce her yourself before she gets a chance.
#14 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:15pm by scott_m319
(+1)She had an affair, and ever since you've been looking at her with hate in your eyes. Meh, it's for the best. People have varying levels of sensitivity and your marriage obviously ended as soon as she had sex with some random
#16 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:15pm by iGreen_Day
(0)@16 ever since my gf cheated on me I looked at her with hate in my eyes! then she broke up cuz I took to long to forgive her. and she only did it a day ago.
#175 - On 02/09/2010 at 10:08am by azurablade
(0)she leaving u for dhat guy she had a affair wit----------- she a whore. u can find u a better wife
(0)well shxt she should of never had a fuckin affair damn !
#21 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:25pm by YunqFlyMa21o
(0)you stayed with her, dumbass. she's suckin'
dick on the side and you stayed? man...
#22 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:25pm by sidvoltaire
(-5)Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment.
YDI for not pleasing her so she felt like cheating on you. Learn to give good footrubs and lick pussy.
(0)affairs happen. if you decided in the first place to try to make it work, then yeah, you DO have an obligation to try to forgive her. People make mistakes and you can't lord it over them for the next 20 years.
#26 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:32pm by roxiluna27
(-1)A mistake is forgeting to close a door, leaving the car lights on, etc... Letting someone put their penis in you is a little different. She chose to do it thinking she wouldn't get caught then due to someone saying something or to her admitting it through guilt it came out.
(+1)If you regret it, its a mistake. Its her fault, but still.
OP- If you know you might never forgive her, divorce her. You cant have a marriage based on resentment. I may be 19, but I know that its not always possible to just forgive. Let her go so you can be happy. Get her out of your life and hope she marries soon so you don't have to give her money anymore.
#41 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:50pm by dudeitsdanny
(+1)Agreed, the upper hand of the cheated on over the cheater only really applies if the cheater wants to stay in the relationship. The fact that OP seems offended that his wife would want a divorce implies that the OP was enjoying the upper hand more than caring about the future of the relationship. That is almost as screwed up as cheating. Either way, the relationship was over before she asked for a divorce, learn from both of your issues and move on.
#90 - On 02/08/2010 at 5:58pm by SamSJester
(0)You're an idiot. Maybe he loves his wife and doesn't want a divorce but is having a bit of a hard time forgiving her for a strong pain which cheating brings. I'm saying maybe since, like you, I don't know the full situation. You just assume he's at the fault here. Maybe you have the issues and not him? I don't know. Cheating = Bad always. And it varies from person to person on forgiveness.
#92 - On 02/08/2010 at 6:09pm by RyanKaufman
(0)@92 I'm going to stand firm on my statement. I purposely used the word "implies" because certainly it doesn't prove it, after all, like you said with all FMLs we lack key information about the situation. To support my statement, the post is phrased in such away to imply mock understanding ("Apparently I was...").
While I stand by the first half of my statement, I believe the second half was more important. No matter the fault, it is clear the relationship was over before she asked for the divorce. A relationship can overcome issues like this only if both parties are interested in recovery. For whatever reason the wife certainly wasn't, additionally for the reasons I already mentioned it is implied (although we will never know for certain) that the husband wasn't REALLY interested in reconciliation.
As for the my character, my problems etc. I certainly won't claim to be a perfect budding flower, but I do have relationship history on the subject. I have experience with being cheated on, and recovering the relationship afterwards. In my situation the other party was not particularly interested in dealing with the situation, and it fell to me to back down to repair. In retrospect the relationship might not have been worth repairing, but it certainly would not have had a chance to survive if I had decided I "deserved" time to forgive her. I think I'm being fair here, but you're welcome to disagree.
#115 - On 02/08/2010 at 8:01pm by SamSJester
(0)I can sort of understand where she's coming from. I'm a very friendly and outgoing person and my ex used to get a little upset when he'll find out that i went out with a guy friend of mine or something. We had so many arguments over it and he used to bring such things up even months later. I just used to say okay, this is how i am, either break up with me or get over it.
I never cheated on him, and i know the OP's story is slightly different, but my point is you can't keep dwelling on the past. There's no point of being together if you're trying to make her life hell for making that mistake and have been holding it against her. Either get over it completely or just break up the relationship you two have.
(0)OP's story is not slightly different, it's completely different. There's a huge difference between assuming someone is cheating, and them actually cheating.
(0)Maybe he wanted to make it work, as he cares about her. But he in no way should hurry to forgive her. You've got to be kidding in your analogy
#35 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:44pm by catastrophicsock
(0)you're like the person that tries to relate their own life to everyone else's situations, even if you have never ever experienced anything remotely similar. like if your friend's parents died in a tragic car accident, you'd be like OMG i totally know how you feel, when I was 4, my hamster died because I stepped on it, and it was just so terrible so I totally know where you're coming from. it's just so annoying.
(0)My point was, that it's very annoying if someone keeps bringing up stuff that happened in the past. Either break up with your SO or get over it, instead of making his/her life hell.
My ex got super mad when he found out i was going to a dance with a man he hated, even though i was friends with him before. He was just super pissed and to be nice i said okay i understand how you're pissed about it so I wont go and canceled my plans. From there we should have moved on but instead he brought it up every time he did something wrong, and tried to make me feel guilty all the time.
It was really like he forgave me and stayed with me because he felt as if he can control me now because of that. So i can understand the op's wife's side. When a SO stays with you but keeps bringing up a mistake from the past. If he forgave her then he should get over it.
(0)He didn't say he kept bringing up the past... just taking time to make a decision. Not everyone in this world takes a split second to make a decision based on a bad decision by others.
I agree with angleod, your story has jack shit to do with this FML.
(-2)Make sure the court awards you one of your balls back in the settlement. She shouldn't get to keep them both (like she has right now.)
If you were a real man, you'd have left as soon as you found out about the affair. On the other hand, you could be one of these spineless jellyfish wimps and taken her back and forgiven her completely. You cannot blend the two approaches.
(-2)Maybe you can blend them. You can forgive her, fuck her, then ditch that bitch in some alley. So, he's a spineless jellyfish in forgiving her. And then he fists her like a man, and dumps her somewhere... Naked. Teach that bitch a lesson.
(0)I'm a little compelled to say YDI... only because you should have left her whn you found out she cheated. That sucks, but you'll be WAY better off without her.
#38 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:47pm by lendahandmanda
(0)Should have thrown the cow out a long time ago. Make sure the door hits her ass on the way out.
#44 - On 02/08/2010 at 2:54pm by Nakedsquirrel
(0)You're not the only one. I found out my wife had an affair 4 years after it happened. A week later, she couldn't understand why I was still upset. She said she'd gotten over it, why hadn't I?
(0)Or, it could be that the wife really doesn't show remorse and is annoyed that he can't just get over it.
In that case, double FH(is)L because not only did she cheat, but she doesn't truly feel any remorse for it.
Cheating isn't something that is forgiven easily, and sometimes it does take years to move past it. If the wife was serious about wanting to be forgiven, she would give the OP all the time in the world to do so. If she really wanted to be with him, she would be patient.
(0)I can't believe someone that had an affair would have the gall to even get testy with her husband. She should have known that there was very good chance he wouldn't let it go,. who could whole-heartedly forgive something like that?
Agree with idkweird also.
#54 - On 02/08/2010 at 3:29pm by alexandraa
(0)I agree with all that you say except for the part that she ought to give him all the time in the world to forgive her. If the infidelity happened quite a long time ago and he's still actively angry and hasn't taken steps to join her in moving the marriage past the issue, it's time for her to leave. Even a cheater doesn't deserve to live the rest of his/her life in a war zone, especially if he/she has done everything possible to rectify the situation. It all depends on: a) how long ago the affair happened; b) if it was a on-going indiscretion or a one time mistake; and c) what steps the cheater has taken to repair the marriage since.
#55 - On 02/08/2010 at 3:35pm by Jewelofagal
(0)you know since my ex did something kinda similar everyone aroun here knows what se did. So in response most of the people around here will walk up to her and even her mother and instead of a " hello " they get a
" WHORE! HOW YOU DOIN? I GOT $5 what can you do for me " lol
(-1)I think you SHOULD forgive her. But just for yourself. You'll feel way better (that's even scientifically proven). Think about yourself, man. Good luck!
(0)for the record, he didnt even cum inside her. how do i know? she is grossed out by semen.
#56 - On 02/08/2010 at 3:36pm by untoldfame
(0)Cheating is unforgivable. YDI for taking her back.
#62 - On 02/08/2010 at 3:51pm by frickyourlives
(0)I feel you man. I know it's hard but you should have ended it when you found out. Once something like that happens a relationship is destroyed and trying to fix it is just a waste of your life (which by the way is f'ed). FYL.
#68 - On 02/08/2010 at 4:08pm by jayemdoubleyou
(0)It's not always a waste of time to stay and attempt to salvage a marriage. Many couples say that their marriages are even happier post-affair than pre-affair. An affair is tragic, but also can be the catalyst in forcing a couple to finally deal with issues that led to the affair. And, once addressed, these marriages can be far stronger and more satisfying than prior to the affair.
#77 - On 02/08/2010 at 4:30pm by Jewelofagal
(+1)Jeez, what a bitch. You shoulda dumped her for the affair first!
#76 - On 02/08/2010 at 4:30pm by xxkiwixx5623
(0)this means she wants you to grow a pair. she probably thought you were going to divorce her when she came clean and when you didn't, she had to take matters into her own hands. next relationship, take control like most women want.
oh, and get a prenup. (:
(0)good. u should get a divorce if she cheated on u. go find someone better
#87 - On 02/08/2010 at 5:46pm by cadillackitty
(0)My, that is depressing. I am so sorry... just give her the divorce... my parents are having problems, and my dad was the one who cheated, and my mom is still trying to stay with my dad, but I think it is better off if you leave her, because then you can find somebody who will love you for real, and she will be better than your current wife. I am truly sorry...
(0)That'll go down well, "I'd like to file for divorce. I got caught cheating on my husband, there were only two other men in my life, yet he can't seem to forgive me for that. Oh and I'd like half of his money to fund towards my vaginal reconstruction."
#89 - On 02/08/2010 at 5:52pm by Ashle1gh
(0)she doesn't deserve you. the fact that you forgave her enough to continue a relationship with her after she cheated on you is a huge step. I would kick her ass out before she gives you the herp. you can do much better, and hopefully you will. best of luck to you
(0)I understand. I've been cheated on and tried to forgive because he said it was a mistake and said he'd go to therapy and stuff. it's hard to forgive when you've been hurt that deeply. you can't just get over it.
#94 - On 02/08/2010 at 6:21pm by heartagram_in_ro
(0)You shouldn't have to forgive her for having an affair, you should have been the one to ask for a divorce.
Move on, bro, she's not worth being with.
#95 - On 02/08/2010 at 6:24pm by whobutme23
(0)Well it can be devastating to lose someone if you're still in love, no matter if they were a "cheater." I mean you invest a lot of your emotion into this woman so her doing this only further your depression.
I would say be thankful that you're both leaving the relationship. Hopefully there are no strings attached with children or whatever.
#102 - On 02/08/2010 at 6:42pm by NorfolkDude
(0)Depends on how long it's been since she cheated. A week? A month? Yeah, dump her ass, it takes time to forgive and she's unreasonable to demand forgiveness on a deadline. On the other hand, if you've been holding a grudge past a certain point, then she has a right to get out. In that situation, yeah, she was justified in leaving. If we were all made to live in the fallout of our bad decisions forever, everyone would be miserable. You don't get to hold her cheating over her head forever.
(0)If you haven't forgiven here, it's for the best. Besides file this as a good day. Brush yourself off and kick some ass- metaphorically.
#108 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:07pm by baffledking042
(0)Call your lawyer now and get the divorce application in first. If she makes the application, it might look like she was the wronged party.
(0)good I would have never for gave her that sucks though
#111 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:21pm by devingragg
(0)Why would you want to stay with a whore? You can just get another one off the street corner geez. You really want to be asleep in bed with your wife and wake up to another guys cock in her mouth and another guy ramming it in her ass? She's trash man. Yeah it sucks, it happens. But you can't stay with her pretending that it never did.
That makes you as disgusting as her. I've been there. I know what it's like.
Congrats on the divorce.
#112 - On 02/08/2010 at 7:56pm by Lattenkiste
(0)if you are with her then you obviously agreed to forgive her...when you take an apology and decide to work it out...that means you actually do that...forgiveness is not holding it over her head forever!!!!!
(+1)I'm gonna voice the unpopular opinion and say that she does kind of have a point... if you wanted to stay with her and work things out, it'll take time, sure, but you need to forgive her and not bring this up for every new thing that comes along. Of course, if she wanted to be with you, she should be bringing this up instead of going straight for the divorce.
(0)wifes make you stress anyway. help with this, do that, nag,nag,nag. ah well, strip club time! SPEND THE MONEY before the bitch gets it.
(0)Actually I'm with your wife on this one. I don't condone cheating. But if you wanted to keep trying at the marriage your responsibility is to forgive her. Either you don't understand that or you missed the hint that she wanted out.
(0)Come on. She had an affair! Get a spine and divorce her ASAP! Do you really want to be with someone who cheats on you? She's lucky you forgave her. Bitch.
#129 - On 02/08/2010 at 9:42pm by rollursk8r
(+1)1.Get an amazing, balls to the wall, kick ass attorney. Thats all that can be said. I got married, and divorced, in less than 2 years because my husband not only cheated on me, he cheated on me with another man. and when i filed for divorce, he used my money and got an attorney who raped me in court for everything i had. I was the only one who worked in our marriage (im in the military) because my husband was kicked out. Now, he gets a third of my paycheck every month in alimony because he didn't work, citing that the navy had caused "irrepairable damage" to hime when he was dishonorably discharged.
2. Make sure that you freeze your assets from being used my her. Women are notorious for letting their husbands know that they are divorcing them, then running up the credit bill to furnish their new home, with your money, and leaving you to foot the bill.
3. Next time, GET A DAMN PRENUP!!!
Lastly, life sucks, dude, but you got to work through it. So, take my advice; get a kick ass shark of an attorney, get what you can, and live life. All that can be said, home slice.
#131 - On 02/08/2010 at 9:48pm by miz_kitty89
(0)wtf, why is she the one divorcing you? She's the one that was having the affair, you should divorce her. Dump her ass, who needs her. She sounds like an ungrateful bitch. You are better off without her.
#135 - On 02/08/2010 at 10:47pm by metman9192
(0)If you couldn't forgive her for having an affair (I don't blame you by the way!) then why didn't you divorce her? If you caouldn't forgive her how could you stay married to her?
#136 - On 02/08/2010 at 10:49pm by vanaathiel
(0)I forgave a girl for cheating on me and she said she wanted to be with me.. A week later she left me. Moral of the story? 99% of women are whores.
#138 - On 02/08/2010 at 10:59pm by killswitch307
(0)yeah, well 99% of men are whores too, but that's fine, but if a woman cheats, she's a bitch. I'm not condoning cheating (it's despicable) but the double standards are infuriating.
(0)FYL but sounds like good riddance thats one less bitch you gotta worry about
#140 - On 02/08/2010 at 11:08pm by DeadHorseman
(+1)give her a bouquet of flowers, have a card on there that says "I'm sorry" on the font and inside write "sorry you just made me the happiest man alive, bitch,"
You don't need her. Say sayonara hoe!
(0)Don't let her take the BMW. = ). Kids are fine though
#146 - On 02/08/2010 at 11:33pm by Sheslikeheroin
(0)have the divorce. obviously she doesn't love you anymore :/
#148 - On 02/08/2010 at 11:41pm by xlovelessx
(0)I'm sure a lot of people have already said this, but you don't deserve her. Let karma give her back what *she* deserves. :)
(+1)My ex-boyfriend was like that. He kept bitching about me for being upset about him cheating on me twice. So I ditched him and life is better. Trust me, she's doing you a favor. You need someone better.
#152 - On 02/09/2010 at 12:30am by startafire
(0)sorry man, that sucks. fyl. hate how people make promises they can't keep. props for trying to work it out before..
(0)maybe it really is better to split up, with such a dumb bitch, life can't get any better, I guess.
#156 - On 02/09/2010 at 1:03am by tuninggamer
(0)well it's not your fault she is a slut. If I was a guy I wouldn't want to forgive a girl I was dating that had some other dudes cock in her. just a thought.
#158 - On 02/09/2010 at 1:10am by TotchiNeko
(0)y r u forgiving her. she's a bitch fuck her. get somebody better
#163 - On 02/09/2010 at 4:10am by soccerballs
(0)Don't sweat it bro, she's just telling you she'd really prefer a dick who'd hit her after finding out about her backup fuckbuddy. Most women do, but never admit it.
(0)you should of slapped that bitch when she told you she cheated on you and said stay in the kitchen or get out. hope you find someone bettter =]
#165 - On 02/09/2010 at 4:33am by wonderboy1
(0)the real question is: was it with a man or a woman ? if its the 1st = divorce. if its the 2nd, what are you an idiot? its called a 3some buddy. Enjoy !
(0)What if the girl was wearing a strapon? Might as well have been a guy in that case. It's still cheating and they wont have a threesome.
(0)Exactly #170 Speaking from experience, I hope you have some evidence. Saved me from paying alimony when I shared e-mails, photos, dates and times. Cheating is unforgivable! Get her out now! The sooner you do, the sooner you will fell better about yourself.
(0)Haha. She's an idiot in more ways than one. It's her loss and your gain, OP. So long as you can prove the indiscretion, you have the upper hand. You should just be glad to be rid of her.
#176 - On 02/09/2010 at 11:57am by blastvortex
(0)Well, what a hell to live through! Either divorce her or forgive her.
Don't drag it out any longer than neccessary.
Do whatever makes you happy and she's gonna do the same.
(0)well, a woman would never seek sex with another man if you would satisfy her "needs", so im guessing the joke is on you mate
(0)Hang on, I need to know more. It's entirely possible that the husband IS taking too long to forgive her. Since we only got a tiny bit of info, I'm gonna say both of you may be at fault.
#180 - On 02/09/2010 at 1:10pm by GrapefruitZoe
(0)Oh well, for once maybe the guy will keep his money and the kids.
#183 - On 02/09/2010 at 3:11pm by stormin972
(0)it's not that easy to forgive especially with that kind of mistake, you deserve a lot better.
#187 - On 02/09/2010 at 9:11pm by windblown_79
(0)I'm actually going to try to defend the OP's wife here. I realize it was wrong of her to cheat, but since the OP chose to stay with her, he needs to try to forgive her. Who would want to be with someone who held that over their head for a long time and refused to forgive them. After a while of being treated like the devil by your husband, it's understandable that she would want to leave the relationship
(I'm assuming that the OP actually still held a grudge after a very long time, since he never says otherwise)
however I am NOT saying YDI to the OP here
(0)she sounds like a stuck-up retard. stay with her just to spite her. however, i do think #188 has a good point.....
(0)Well, look. she had an affair. It's already a done deal. Realistically you either want to make it work, forgive her and move on, or don't forgive her and end the relationship. Those are your choices. It sucks, yes, but that's what needs to be done. Don't dawdle and cry about it.
(0)Yeah... YDI.
First, YDI for staying with her, and second, YDI for staying with her. Did I mention YOU DESERVE IT for having stayed with her?
I feel like I should point something out, but the three letters are eluding me.
In any event, you win the award for YDI because you *stayed* with a woman who clearly didn't respect the boundaries of your relationship, and now wants to end it because you haven't forgiven her trespass.
...I'll grant a FYL as per your taste in women, but that's as far as it goes.
#195 - On 02/10/2010 at 1:35am by justanotherhuman
(0)well how long has it been since she cheated? id say ydi for not forgiving her. i know its hard and i know it would take some time, but shes ure wife. if you love her u should forgive her. however, if it happened again after u forgave her, then maybe divorce should b considered
(0)No, you're taking too long to file for divorce. She cheated, she wants out, but she's a woman so she has to make you do it to feel good about herself. It's too fucking complicated to explain properly, so I'm just going to tell you to run the fuck away and never look back.
(0)Have you ever noticed how it always seems like the insensitive person in the relationship is always the one who thinks they're being treated unfairly? Like the person who cheats on someone else or does something obviously wrong to their partner blames the other person for being upset.
#198 - On 02/10/2010 at 1:25pm by t0xicfaerie
(0)exactly 198! when my gf cheated on me, she was acting like It was MY fault! she then yelled at me and said never to call her again. it was the fourth time she's cheated on me and was mad at ME for breaking up with her.
#200 - On 02/10/2010 at 11:19pm by azurablade
(0)You're better off without her. She's the one who fucked up in the first place! Why on earth does she get to decide when OP has to forgive her?! Did she also decide when she had to come clean and apologize to him for what she did?
#201 - On 02/10/2010 at 11:51pm by angrynegro7
(0)marriage is all about commitment, she wasn't right for you.
#204 - On 02/11/2010 at 12:42am by Sweets_wtc
(0)YDI for not kicking her lying ass to the curb and taking all her money right after you found out.
#205 - On 02/11/2010 at 4:26am by Ultimate_Cynic
(0)don't divorce. have her your side and make every relationship she'll have an affair. and sue her:)
(0)how longs it been? if u have forgiven someone for cheating you can't bring it up as ammo every time things don't go your way.. either you move on with her or without her... she cheated but going on about it ain't Gibbs help anyone
(0)I know exactly how you feel my boy friend cheated on me, and I wasn't even aloud to be upset about it or talk to him about it at all. Its taken me a while to get over it because having your heart broken isn't an easy thing, to trust someone and give them everything to have them smash it all, throw it away like it all meant nothing hurts. You have had every reason to be upset. The reason why they dont wan't to hear about it is because they are the person doing it, not the ones recieving. They don't want to here about their fuck up it happened they had their fun there over it. But if you did it to them it would be a whole other story. Now people dont understand why you stayed with her, and why your the one letting her divorce you. Thats because you love her and so therefore your willing to ober look the pain she caused you, but in the end you knew that after what she did it would never be the same. You wanted to believe it would though, but she obviously didn't want to try to make it back to the way it was. It will hurt and its going to take a while but your way better off without her, there will be someone who will think your worth your time and will treat you like gold and you will see that your ex wife is just another bump in this road called life. Life will get better I promise, good luck with the next girl hopefully she wont be a heart breaker. - AA 17yrs old.
#215 - On 02/12/2010 at 10:26pm by rebelgirl17
(0)@rebelgirl.
that's exactly how it happened with me and my gf. she cheated and then told me less than a day after it happened that I need to just forgive and forget. I wasn't allowed to have time to get over it. so I know how u feel
#225 - On 02/20/2010 at 6:43pm by azurablade
(0)Your better off without her then, because if she isn't willing to understand then you shouldn't be willing to understand why she cheated. I finally broke it off with my ex and yes it hurts but I'm a lot happier.
#229 - On 03/02/2010 at 5:37pm by rebelgirl17
(0)Wow! You're a good person for sticking around that long even. Might be time to move on though.
#216 - On 02/13/2010 at 12:16am by truthisRelative
(0)too many pages to read so im gonna get to th3 point.
1. wait till shes away from the house
2. hire a removal truck
3 take EVERY belonging from the house
4. move the "F" out of there.
i mean if you divorce her you have to give the cheating whore half your stuff
if YOU stay, then YOU'RE the whore
(0)that bitch! I wud get all of her belongings and throw them outside and hav a note saying, "I'll give u a headstart"
#219 - On 02/13/2010 at 7:46pm by d0nthate0nme
(0)Give the bitch a good Falcon Punch
It works everytime
#223 - On 02/14/2010 at 5:28pm by mainiac_zombie_m
(0)sorry but once a cheater always a cheater. 6 months before I was to get married my ex dunce was caught sleeping with my best friend. now he's 33 with a child by the girl n still liing in his parents basement... cheaters don't deserve another chance
#226 - On 02/22/2010 at 2:21am by loriny24
(0)you can never forgive someone if they broke your trust like how she did. I couldn't. my last girlfriend cheated on me and I was trying to get it to work. three weeks after she did it, she thought I shouldve forgave her cuz she was drunk and didn't know what she was doing, my question is.... how did they remember the condom if they were drunk?
(0)Wow - every situation is different. My ex would make the stupidest fights and storm out of the house to make excuses to go see his girlfriend. It was obvious to everyone but me what was going on. I realized later he was just looking to shift the blame. Mine was a case of "once a cheater, always a cheater" but I guess I just needed to be hit upside the head with the "right" rock to get it. Hope you can feel better soon about it. I know it isn't a happy time.
(0)Dude! What's to forgive?! Throw her out on her ass! Once a cheater always a cheater. She WILL do it again. Trust me on this, I'm 36 and until my latest wife I've alway ended up picking loosers. My ex-wife was the worse. I discovered she was cheating on me, I went right to the court and filed for divorce, child custody, and possession of the house. She was served the papers and went straight to the court and accused me of molesting her daughter. What a nightmare that was! FML... At least she is willing to cut the tie, get evidence and take everything from that nasty slut!
#234 - On 04/19/2010 at 10:02am by rasellersjr
