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By thanksbabe / Saturday 12 January 2013 06:32 / United States
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I won't be popular for saying this, but dump her. Manipulating you with the threat of leaving you is not ok. My ex used to do that. He threatened to leave me every time I wouldn't do what he wanted, even with dumb shit, like refusing to buy him a beer. One day I finally said, "Fine. There's the door." He just whined that I didn't care and didn't even move from the spot where he was. He never threatened to leave me again. I suggest that next time she threatens to dump you, call her on her bluff. If she dumps you, good riddance. If not, she won't be manipulating that way again.

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39 your photo looks like you could be the next over obsessive girlfriend. When I read this fml I read it literally. Should have been a paper view week "Girlfriend Beats S*** out of Boyfriend for one week straight!!!"

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I agree with DrunkButterfly, it seems more like manipulating his feelings when it suits her needs to get her way. That's not love, not in my books anyway.

I won't be popular for saying this, but dump her. Manipulating you with the threat of leaving you is not ok. My ex used to do that. He threatened to leave me every time I wouldn't do what he wanted, even with dumb shit, like refusing to buy him a beer. One day I finally said, "Fine. There's the door." He just whined that I didn't care and didn't even move from the spot where he was. He never threatened to leave me again. I suggest that next time she threatens to dump you, call her on her bluff. If she dumps you, good riddance. If not, she won't be manipulating that way again.

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I understand what you say, but OP said she did this last week, not that it is a weekly occurence. When you're fighting, you might say - and mean - that you will end the relationship if things stay as they are. I find it a warning rather than manipulation if it happens once, in a specific argument.

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11, What you say makes sense, and I'd agree with you generally, except for in this specific situation, only because OP's girlfriend admitted that she threatened to dump him "only to frighten [him] into submission," You can bet your bottom dollar she'll do it again.

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Yeah, but how long did it take for him to start telling you that? They have been together for four years. It's also possible OP was being a jerk, and she said it so he'd realize it. That would also be trying to make him submit to what she wanted. Submission isn't always a bad thing. He should break up with her if it looks like it's going to be a habit, or was for something stupid. FMLs don't have enough information for you to really know either way.

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I like how your comment goes so in depth to help me understand what's going on in the OP's head. Just the way it was writing is phenomenal, have you ever considered writing a novel?

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