PS: I'm sarcastic everyone! Lol not crazy! :)

I agree, you should trust him enough to allow him to spend time with who he wants. If trust is an issue, OP shouldn't be with him in the first place.

Why can't more girls think like that?!? Seriously, it's like sensibility and logic are slowly being drained from the female population, resulting in overemotional crybabies like OP. It's girls like her that make me ashamed to call myself female. SMH.

Again I have to say that in this case OP was obviously right to think something was going on. I would have absolutely no problem with ending a friendship if my partner was uncomfortable with it and I would expect my partner to do the same. Yes, trust is very important, but it is also something that has to be earned. I struggled a lot with this when I was with my ex who cheated on me. I didn't want to be that girl who didn't let him have any girl friends, and I wasn't, I knew many of his female friends who he was perfectly platonic with, the problem was when he flirted with some of them and I didn't trust him not to get involved because he had done that before. And even before I knew he cheated on me, I was very very suspicious that something was going on, but I didn't say anything because I trusted him. Trust can sometimes be blinding, and it's okay to try to reinforce it every now and then and to ask questions when you feel something isn't right. It's a very fuzzy line, and I don't think OP deserves any blame at all.

And I disagree. Again, you shouldn't be in a relationship with sometime you can't trust you can't trust. He probably cheated on her BECAUSE she was so suspicious, if someone constantly suspects you of doing something you're not even doing, then there's no reason not to do it. I've gone into every single one of my relationships with full trust, and I've never had a problem with being cheated on. Sorry, but I don't think that's a coincidence. And, if any of my boyfriends told me to lose one of my guy friends, if tell that boyfriend to go **** himself and cry on my MALE best friends shoulder. Trust.

122 - Coming from someone who has lost many friends due to their insecure girlfriends being jealous of me and forcing them to cut contact, I would like to say go **** yourself. Either find someone who matches your "level" so insecurity isn't an issue, or seek therapy, which you desperately need. It is NOT okay to force someone to give up their friends simply because you're threatened by them. That's controlling, immature, and insecure behavior. It's also so ******* annoying from the point of view of the friend.

Oh my God. I tried to say it nicely, but thank you for having the balls to say exactly what was in my head. If I could like that comment a hundred times, I would.

I really don't think that you are understanding me, I know that I have my trust issues and it is mainly because of this guy. I went into the relationship fully trusting and that was the issue, he took advantage of that. This is my experience. No one should feel uncomfortable in a relationship and sometimes jealousy is not caused by insecurity, but reality. It was not because I was insecure that he cheated on me, I had the highest faith that he wouldn't, his reasons were much much more complicated than that, and had I stood up for myself then he wouldn't have hurt me nearly as much as he did. My point is that things aren't nearly as black and white as you claim they are. No one should have to feel uncomfortable in the relationship they are in and trust building and communication about things that are bothering you is always a must. There is a difference between ever jealous, clingy needy behavior and genuine concern about something you know isn't right. Let me just say that knowing what I do now I would never ask someone to get rid of a friend because I felt they were too close, but I sure as hell would talk to my partner about it if I felt uncomfortable and see what we could do to make things better, and if that somehow drove him away, he wouldn't be worth it to me.

Communication is key, I'll agree with that. Are you saying you were just like that with him? Or with all your boyfriends after him. Because in your comment earlier, you made it seem like if one person screwed you over, that's a justifiable reason to be jealous and distrustful of everyone after them, which is absolutely wrong, since every person and situation is different. I mean, I wouldn't even give someone a second thought if they cheated, because that relation-ship would've been long sunk for me. But if you have the heart to give them another chance, then I can totally agree with having to rebuild from zero.

I haven't had another relationship since him, this was fairly recent. I'm not saying that, jealously is a pretty unhealthy thing to have come up in a relationship, it is okay, however, to be jealous and to talk about it with your partner when it comes up if the thing that is making you jealous is truly something to worry about and not just paranoia. I know that I will have to build some trust with the next person I'm interested in before it goes anywhere just so that I can be careful about not getting hurt. I'm also saying that we have no idea what kind of situation OP was in and it could be that she had very good reasons for bringing up her boyfriend's friend, and she may have even done it in a way that was reasonable and he could have been the one to get overly defensive and start the fight. It never said that she asked him to stop being friends with her.

Of course if she had absolutely no reason to think the relationship was more than platonic, and was just jealous of the fact that he has a friend of the opposite sex, then you are right, it is completely unacceptable to bring that up and that would rightfully push him away. What I'm saying is from my experience, I can see that it probably wasn't like that. Most people aren't that clingy especially when people and media make it clear that that kind of behavior is unattractive. But if he had broken her trust before, or if she had seen them doing something she felt was inappropriate, she has the right to speak up for herself.

And I completely agree. The way you were talking before just made it should like you meant something completely different. I still think you're craycray for staying with someone that has chetater, I know I could never bring myself to carry on with a toxic relationship like that, but I do applaud you for giving him a second chance. I hope your relationships to come are much better than that one, best of luck to you.

Thank you :) and I agree that was pretty crazy of me, and if I could do it again, I would not give him that second chance, not that some people aren't worth a second chance, but he was not.