By willstaysingle - 29/04/2014 14:18

Today, I proposed to my girlfriend of three years. I worked my ass off planning everything down to a T. It seemed perfect, until I actually proposed, at which point I was rejected and dumped, in front of my family, friends and two coworkers. FML
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willstaysingle 4

I am the Original Poster. I'm only replying because so many of you requested a follow-up and so many of you are misconceptualizing the context. From the beginning I discussed my interest in a serious relationship and expressed my eventual wish to be with her. I did not explicitly say I wanted to marry her. In common logic, there is no need for that. It is to be expected. For the ones asking about age. I am 30 years old, she is 25 years old. That was clearly not the problem. I am not seeking attention in all of this. But I will let you people know I emigrated for this girl. I made entire reservations for the family members I wished to see. I sacrificed a lot for her. I adapted to her needs. Some of you people say just because there is effort, she doesn't need to accept. While I agree, at some point, when you realize how much sacrifice is made, you are bound to love. There is no love whatsoever without sacrifice. I told her from the beginning that I am not wasting my time. If you are not sure what to do with the rope I gave you, let go early before we get to high grounds, so you could spare me a killer downfall. To all the people who felt sympathetic and gave me a "chin-up". Thank you. A lesson learned that I will teach every single one of you here. Be selfish. I have filled my heart with hate. Love and cherish. Just do not sacrifice so much that you find your life so strained you realize that you wasted years of hard work, effort and emotion. Mind your mental health.

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hippo1234 19

Aww! Don't stay single! You sound like a sweet, dedicated guy.

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machern 1

Sorry OP, but I told her I would stop banging her if she ever married you. Better luck next time.

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ChelzTheWolfGirl 29

I'm real sorry Op. Next time make sure marriage is an agreed upon, and mutual desire. It save you from a lot of humiliation. I'm sorry your girlfriend rejected your proposal. Best of luck Op.

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VynaVail 12

That's what you get for waiting three years.

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Perdition25 12

What does that have to do with anything? You are obviously ignorant in relationships also as the average dating period is almost 3 years before getting engaged.

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KJRowling 13

Boyfriend and I have been together 5 years, and while we have discussed marriage, the proposal is still a long time off yet. Maybe they haven't been in a position to get married before now? They might have dated throughout univeristy, or he may recently have secured a more stable and lucrative job position that has him thinking about the future. Maybe it just felt right, where it hadn't before.

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LatvianPride 16

You dodged a bullet OP. She sounds selfish and ungrateful..

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ElloSubjects 9

For everyone calling her a bitch and saying no, would you prefer her divorcing him later?

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godfathermock 19

I agree that OP should have talked with his ex about marriage and where they stand on the subject so that everyone is on the same page. But that's not the easiest conversation to have with your partner because of society's expectations. Which kinda leads most people to assume that if you are in a relationship, especially a long term one, like OP was here, that both sides are expecting to one day marry and form a family. The topic of having kids is also something that most couples need to have a conversation about, but don't because, again, everyone assumes that people want to have kids. Which they might. But not as early or not as many as in past generations.

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ishchandan 14

At least you didn't have to marry that heartless bitch.

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Camri_123 11

She's been with you for three years. Why would she dump you after you propose?

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Table_Flip 4

Maybe they never talked about marriage before, or maybe they had, but she wasn't ready and he spooked her? Dunno. She was kinda a bitch for dumping him right there without having a discussion about it first... either way, that really sucks.

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an3ph 20

Oooff. That hurts. Sorry, OP, but I am glad you found out now rather than later.

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