A lot of that has to do with the guy you are dating. If he is insensitive and only concerned with how it feels for him, then yeah its probably going to hurt. But if he wants you to enjoy it and he takes his time then it can be a blast.

44: Pretty much this. Some women might not enjoy anal, as much as they might not necessarily enjoy oral sex or any other act, but if your partner is considerate, you can still perform those acts and be comfortable doing them. I'm not crazy about anal - every now and then I get in a mood, but it's not often. My boyfriend likes it, so sometimes I go to the effort just for that reason. The key is to go really slow, spend a lot of time getting worked up and turned on, use a LOT of lube, and possibly a vibrator for your clit. If anal is that awful? You're probably doing it wrong.

69- I like your optimism! I actually do feel that anal is that awful. No, I've never tried it, but I cannot stand to think about it. If my husband ever asked me to try it, I would definitely give it some thought, but how is it any different than having normal sex from a man's perspective? I'm pretty sure it's not a natural thing to do, since humans let out their waste from there. The ****** is literally made for sex and having children. So, I guess what I ultimately want to know from you is why is it something that is appealing at all? (Since you can't hear my tone of voice, I want you to know that I am not being judgmental or harsh towards you or anyone who likes this! I just want to understand it.)

I completely agree. Surely everyone has taken a big poo that hurt, I couldn't imagine something bigger could feel good and not hurt.

But then again, we've all taken that huge poo that felt really good, too.

"but how is it any different than having normal sex from a man's perspective?" It feels tighter. And the idea 'I am taking my gf in the ass' can make the experience even more exciting. "I'm pretty sure it's not a natural thing to do, since humans let out their waste from there." I'm pretty sure it's a natural thing to do, since animals also do it and because it's part of human nature to experiment (with sex). Besides, if you want to have only natural procrastination-sex, you'll have to ban oral sex along with all the sex toys.

Wait, what? Since when do animals have anal sex?

Bonobos are known to have sex for pleasure. That can include anal. There is a lot of appeal in it for guys. It's a much tighter space, it's got the whole "We're doing something naughty" appeal, and it often can be a turn on because of the domination aspect of it (which is the main appeal of using a strap-on on a guy). It can be quite pleasant for women, and cause REALLY intense orgasms if you know what you're doing. I said before, you need to be really relaxed, use a lot of lube, and work your way up to it. Using other sex toys can help - one of the appeals is the feeling of being 'full' (having something in your ass and in your ******). Your anus IS an erogenous zone, so it is perfectly natural to explore it. Even if you just start with circling it with a finger, if you're open minded and in the mood, it can be really great. People have this misconception that there is always a pile of feces sitting in your rectum, and if someone sticks a penis up there, they'll be literally ******* poop. But fecal matter doesn't descend into your rectum unless you are about to poop, and you can clean it out a bit more using some distilled water or a mild enema. It's often really great for guys - at the right angle, you can hit the prostate, which can be really pleasurable. Again, going slow and getting really worked up to it is key. :)

124- Once again, I was not being rude, I was curious. Also, I'm not implying that everyone or anyone should only have "natural" sex. I suspect many men and women enjoy oral and having toys. But it's not the same thing as anal and I'd rather not compare the two since I haven't tried the latter. 142-Thank you for the info. I will definitely refer back to this if I ever need to. Although I am very open minded, it just doesn't seem possible for me. Thank goodness I am with someone who has the same fantasies as I do! I understand that poop doesn't stay there already. How can others not know that? Haha I though it was common knowledge!

I know there are a few animals that actually have sex for pleasure, but they are mostly apes, shimpanzees etc, animals that are close to humans. To say that "since animals also do it" kinda sounds that all animals have anal sex. It's more uncommon than common that they do it.

Hi 91, your points are valid, but equally there is a "thrill" involved with anal sex. First of all from a guys perspective the feeling of tightness is different, and if you have a good relationship with your lover then it's a great way to show trust. You're right not to dismiss it, but see if your husband brings it up :) You never know how it is until you've tried it :)

Everyone has been taking about Perdix and how he is busy (or getting busy!). If that didn't help, read some of the comments before posting again. I think you're smart enough to put 2 and 2 together.

40- "think I'm dating perdix" is OP's user name.

Turn your phone sideways, you'll see the entire username (assuming you're on a phone where the screen rotates)