He doesn't want kids period. Why would adopting be any different. And desperately wanting to raise a child with someone you love isn't only "looking for a sperm donor". She had hopes and expectations and they were dashed.

Oh for ***** sake stop with the self righteous "You dont needs kids anyways because there are too many people in this world" bullshit! Some areas are crowded and big cities are, but I can drive thru colorado, nebraska, new mexico, parts of west texas, Arizona, wyoming, parts of south dakota and not see another person for hundreds of miles! Government corruption imo is alot more dangerous than "over population." Govt corruption leads to genocide, famine because they withhold the food sent as aid to keep for themselves and their soldiers (like africa and north korea do)

And not everybody is capable and prepared to adopt a foster kid. Many are so mentally screwed up from years of sexual abuse, addicted to drugs, neglect, bounced around from home to home. I do not want to bring a kid home who was molested and raped for fear he would start acting out the abuse on my own child....which IS common for abused kids to do. And I will not put my own child in danger in order to adopt some 14yr old teen who is a complete stranger.

"It isn't a man you are looking for, it's a sperm donor".... wow I find that to be a very unfair statement.toward OP. For some, having children is a very important aspect of their life. Wanting to have a family with the man you love is absolutely not "looking for a sperm donor". If I married a man that told me he wanted children (having children is something I have dreamed about since I was young) and then after marriage he said he no longer did I would feel betrayed and cheated.

#69 - Quite a few adopted children aren't screwed up from sexual abuse or addicted to drugs. I wasn't. My brother kind of was. We never once assaulted or molested each other.

#144...That's true, but it's also understandable that some parents don't want to take that risk. You can't just adopt a kid, then take it back for a refund if you don't like the person he/she is. Adopting or fostering a child is a long and arduous process, and parents aren't always guaranteed to get one who isn't screwed up. So it's totally understandable why some parents wouldn't want to do that. You have to be a pretty dedicated parent to not only take a stranger into your home, but to help them through any of the serious problems they might have as a result of being in foster care.

He lied to her about a very important issue so she'd marry him. It's already official, 21.

Or just No more sex at all, and get an annulment. Because if chance she did get pregnant with his baby, he would either hate the baby for "ruining his life" or leave her and disappear.

Manipulating him with sex may or may not work, but he would hate the baby. it would be better for the child if she just found a man that he loved and that did want kids.

Or make him hate the baby and his wife for ruining his life as he stated. And go out and cheat. If a guy is selfish enough to lie in order to marry her, he is selfish enough to abandon her and the baby, go out drinking with friends every other day while leaving wife and baby home alone or troll clubs to look for a woman to have sex with.