Kids, Childfree and Love: Can't be bothered, TBH

Can't be bothered, TBH

By bummer.. - 02/03/2013 06:05 - United States

Today, I found out that the man I just married doesn't want to have children. We had this conversation multiple times with no problems before getting married, but now he would "rather die" than have children, because according to him, they would ruin his life. FML

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Too late

By Anonymous - 16/07/2023 03:00

Today, my husband told me he'd changed his mind and no longer wants children. We already have two kids. FML

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Plans

By Anonymous - 02/10/2022 02:30

Today, we saw a woman with two out-of-control children. As we walked away, my husband said to me, “Disgusting, I’m glad we’re never having children.” News to me, he'd always said he wanted a kid before we married. An uncomfortable conversation is imminent, damn it. FML

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By Tara115 - 09/02/2014 07:20 - Canada - Courtenay

Today, my boyfriend told me he doesn't think he should marry me, because I have kids. They're his kids. FML

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By Anon - 26/06/2014 04:03 - United States - Middletown

Today, my boyfriend told me he wants to marry me and be the father of my children. Five minutes later, he told me he wants to experience death. FML

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Different life goals

By Anonymous - 26/07/2022 05:00 - Israel - Jerusalem

Today, my boyfriend of almost 3 years told me he wants kids, specifically a biological child with me. When we started dating, I told him that I didn't want kids and he said the same, but now he's changed his mind. I haven't. I love him and will probably lose him because of this. FML

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You deserved it 213

Different goals

By Baby bird - 23/05/2021 11:01

Today, I asked my husband if it was a good time to think about having kids. His response was, "ABSOLUTELY FUCKING NEVER." I’ve always wanted to be a mom and he knows that. I feel like I’ve wasted my life. FML

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Not for everyone

By Anonymous - 02/11/2021 17:00

Today, after I'd left the love of my life because he didn't want kids, got into another relationship, he now tells me he's changed his mind about having kids, 5 years in. FML

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Red flag

By Anonymous - 17/12/2023 00:00 - United States - Ontario

Today, I want a baby, but suddenly my partner says he doesn't want any kids because he already has a child. With another woman. He's not been part of the mother's or child's life in over 7 years. FML

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No kidding

By Anonymous - 04/03/2024 05:00 - United Kingdom

Today, eight months into our marriage, my husband decided to let me know he never wanted kids so he had a vasectomy years ago. He seemed surprised he hadn’t mentioned it before, like ever. I love him but I don’t like him very much right now. In fact, I don’t like him at all right now. FML

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Baby baby

By Anonymous - 12/12/2023 23:00 - United Kingdom

Today, my wife and I have been in the same massive argument for two weeks. We agreed when we were dating that we couldn’t think of anything worse than having kids, we married on the basis we would never want kids. Now, a year later, she wants a baby. FML

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hellobobismyname 24

Saturday 2 March 2013 13:23

I may be wrong about this so anyone is free to correct me, but I think that's reasonable grounds for divorce. If you wanted kids and he knew that, and he fooled you about wanting them himself, then that's an enormous problem. I hope you don't feel like there's nothing you can do now. No man can take motherhood away from you. I say try to work things out and find out why he suddenly changed his mind, but if he lied just to get you to marry him then please leave. That's just so disrespectful..

SoMuchWut 8

Saturday 2 March 2013 13:20

I think dying would ruin his life too. So he's screwed either way.

Comments

badoodi 2

Tuesday 12 March 2013 3:47

He's useless! Get rid of him

adorable6 14

Thursday 14 March 2013 11:13

Im not gona lie i totally agree with him.

mkcherry 14

Thursday 4 April 2013 4:34

Maybe he changed his mind because you don't have a happy marriage? Also are children or your spouse more important, if you think there's any possibility that you will get divorced (10, 20 years down the road even) will you even be able to have children that far into the future? I don't personally want kids at any point in time, I cant imagine lying to someone about that fact for years just to get married, so maybe he's just going through a temporary change of heart.

FrittataForMe 0

Friday 31 May 2013 3:14

Well, wasn't he a child once?

Jebitesevsi 11

Tuesday 21 January 2014 14:59

Well, it would.

cdncw 20

Thursday 7 May 2015 23:27

My longest and most solid relationship ended because I'll never have kids. I can absolutely understand his point of view. That said, unless something has changed for him recently (maybe he's having so much fun being married to you and travelling with you that he can't imagine losing it), then this is a topic that should have come up years before the wedding day. I can't specifically say whether your life sucks or not... Are you sure there were no signs before now? Talk to him.