Who's to say the girlfriend wouldn't take that out of context too?

Women are strange creatures.

idk, usually saying "are you going to finish that?" is just a polite way of asking "can i have that?". Not his fault she didnt know that

#52 stop lying I can see your nose.

It was suppose to be a sly way of asking

Proper communication is key. OP did the right thing. Sounds like OP's gf is self conscious...

Maybe. Being direct is good but one can't do it all the time for everything. If I was put in the doghouse every time I ask if my gf is done with her food Id be single by now. Op's gf should be giving him the benefit of the doubt when it comes to interpretations of passing phrases just like he should do for her. I don't sense much trust in the relationship at this point though.

I agree 139. I couldn't imagine getting peeved at every little thing my boyfriend says because I took it the wrong way. this is why it's better to ask to clarify, it saves both parties a lot of unnecessary aggravation. also, and maybe it's just me, but if I was putting on a few pounds, and my boyfriend said something, I'd take it into consideration. "hm, maybe I can save the rest of my meal for later. (or offer him a bite!)" but alas all women don't operate this way.

143 - I wouldn't think of offering my boyfriend a bite of my food if he asked if I was going to finish it

Proper communication IS key. I don't know that "Are you going to finish that?" counts as proper communication. You know what my boyfriend asks when he wants a bite of my food? "Could I please have a bite?" Direct, clear, and polite. However, I WILL grant that OP's girlfriend completely overreacted. I might get a little annoyed if someone asked me if I was going to finish my food, because it makes me feel rushed, but it is a VERY minor annoyance and doesn't deserve the reaction it got.

It's a very common way of politely asking for the rest of someone's meal. Asides from calling you "fat" what else would you possibly interpret that as?

Honestly if she's that oversensitive I think op would be better off without her. Thats just my opinion though.

I'd be pretty annoyed if someone was after my food. Seriously, if you're still hungry, order something else. My plate, my food.

Seriously! OP's crime here was not making his girlfriend think she was fat. OP's crime was being a greedy bastard!

Whenever my BF and I go out to eat, we always choose two entrées that we both like/want to try and split in. Sharing is caring.

nope. im not good at sharing food. my inner fat kid is too strong

I'll get lunch with you any day, 61. You understand.

Arwen, Enslaved; Exactly!

Maybe he just didn't want to waste food. He was asking for what she didn't finish. That's not him being greedy. Also, why order an entire other meal if someone doesn't finish theirs. People tend to waste a lot of food.

#61, My outer fat kid is too strong.

#54 that's adorable. And in some cases it can even expand someone's food pallet.

Sharing is caring yo. She didn't have to give him any if she wanted it, that's why he asked.

48, I think not being able to share a bite of food with your SO is more greedy than him simply asking for a taste. I can't believe how stingy people are to vehemently refuse to share a bite of food. jesus. no one's "inner, or outer for that matter, fat person" will starve because you gave up a small portion of your entire meal.

Why is sharing food so difficult? My very first date with my last boyfriend, the first thing he did was offer me a bite of his meal. "Try this, it's good!" Trying one another's food became a habit on our dates and was actually a lot of fun. If you care about someone, you want them to experience "good stuff."

JazNim, that's slightly different, since HE offered, not you asking/taking.

thats what you got from the fml?

unless her name is joey..

5, you're probably right but that doesn't mean she had a right to react the way she did.

If a man's an asshole, he's just an asshole, if a woman's an asshole, it's because a man was an asshole. Sounds fair.

Im not saying its all mens fault lol she could be insecure or had her self confidence put down by anyone .

"I'm not saying men are to blame, I'm saying the woman isn't."

Or maby they r just a bitch...

I see your point but it's nobody's job to raise someone's self-esteem. By all means, it's good to give compliments but a person shouldn't need validation from others to know they're worth. That's their job.

Very true . Some guys some girls , can be real assholes thoo goes both ways

Well to be fair, 111, by committing to a relationship, you're kind of taking responsibility for each others happiness. It's not only OP's job to keep her confident, but it shouldn't be an every-man-for-himself scenario.

You're not taking responsibility for someone else's happiness just by committing to a relationship. You shouldn't be dependent on anyone for your happiness ever.

Hm, really? Well I guess if that somehow works for you, and you like dating guys that don't care too much about you, that's fine. More power to you?

Of course you should give your partner praise and complement them when you're in a relationship. I wasn't saying you shouldn't. I was saying the a person shouldn't need constant validation from there partner to feel good about themselves. That could get tiring. It's really annoying when you give someone a compliment and they reply with "no I'm not", or " you're just saying that." Confidence is one of the sexiest traits, in my opinion at least.

A partner is suppose to add to your happiness, not bring you happiness.

If he in no way stated or implied that she was fat then there is no excuse for that extreme of a reaction

Or they're just complete idiots who believe people that hate them but not their friends. I knew a girl (cheating ex girlfriend) who believed that because her bully from primary (elementary) school told her she's fat, she must lose as much weight as possible, literally starve herself to become skinny, and anytime I told her she is lovely the way she is she would call me a liar and talk to some random stranger about how she wants to bounce on their huge dick. Girls just confuse me.

Being straightforward is not always safe when it comes to women. :-/

I think he was being straightforward, asking "are you going to finish that" is pretty commonly known as "can I have some." I don't think he worded this wrong at all.

I agree, what he said was fine, but apparently not for his girlfriend!

Maybe he worded it "are you going to eat ALL THAT?!" lol

A classic case of PMS; not Sheldon's Perpetual Motion Squad...

If only ladies came with a womanual.

No the secret is finding a girl that will give you true information about our secret club. If you can find a girl that will tell you the truth and honest opinion that is the grail.

#35 I'm pretty sure even if women came with a manual men probably wouldn't read it, lol...

Pretty shure I would read the manual

It's called "Kama Sutra"

Sure, soaked in drink, getting (probably) filthy stares from people and then sitting alone... Idk friend

See, now this girls has her priorities straight.

I can dream #16.