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Today, my mom's will was read to the rest of the family. I helped my mom write it a couple years ago, and I was to get funds to pay off school loans. She revised it and put in a note saying I was to get nothing because I was gay. The executor read it out loud. My mom was the only one who knew. FML

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I agree, your life sucks (66474) - you totally deserved it (4847)

On 06/11/2009 at 7:51am - money - by TSampson (man) - United States (Georgia)

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ahh jeez

#1 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:04am by ilikeboys

that's depressing. i'm sorry.

#2 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:04am by Avaquin

That's just sad.

Vandalize her grave...

#3 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:04am by iFellytone

jesus christ...that's horrible. I'm so sorry!

#4 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:04am by ahhamylife

your mom's a b*tch. piss on her grave. she didn't even have the decency to be open with you about her feelings, which could have led to a mutual understanding of each other's beliefs and values. no, instead she acted behind your back, and let your entire family know without any regard for you. that's immature, spiteful, malicious and the indications of a bad person. personally, i respect that other people's opinions on gay rights differ, and people have a right to their opinions, but the way she dealt with the difference in opinion is messed.

what an awful mother.

#5 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:08am by touchableturtle

How terrible 0_0 no really this is one of the saddest FML's i've ever read

#6 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:08am by maggy

Um, omg, that is just messed up....I'm so sorry..

#7 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:08am by xinfin1a

oh man. that sucks. especially when you entrusted your mom with that information.

#8 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:09am by artisticlicense

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#9 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:09am by jem1991

Aw shit. That's just awful. She didn't deserve to be your mother for pulling that. I always hear my grandmother saying, "Oh, well when I die, ______ is getting nothing because they're _______." As if somehow that'll show them and that suddenly makes it okay. It's really just awful.

#10 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:11am by redbluegreen

Hope your mom's death was painful.

#11 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:11am by DaGirlz

that just sucks on so many levels.
this isn't even funny, it's just sad...

#12 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:11am by mayhembaby

Dang boy, keep it easy

#13 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:11am by Hustlinpimp

Go dance on her grave with ur bf, perhaps some grinding.

#14 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:14am by Peroxide

A variation of what #5 said, but without the disrespect to your mom. She should have talked to you, told you how she felt. Did she know you were gay when you helped her write the original will? If so, that's worse.

#15 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:14am by tayliarae

She had to be a real tough swallow in life to have done something so cruel and controlling in death. FYL, and I hope you can get past that terrible last deed of your mother's. In my religion, we believe that you should never, ever expose someone's secret. It seems poetic to me that she would do something so unkind, and only, in the end, expose herself instead of you.

#16 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:14am by wordgirl

Bitch burn in hell

#17 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:16am by crazyjack

I'm sorry. ;/ That's really horrible. I just wanna give you a big hug right now, heh. That's just so sad... I really feel for you. ):

#18 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:16am by OppositesAttract

#5 thats more mature than most people

#19 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:18am by randomdude1234

What an evil bitch. I'm sorry about your mom, but I'm sorrier that SHE was your mom. This is almost too legit for FML.

#20 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:19am by dmmd8686

Omg that's horrible! I'm sooooooo sorry! And as for the 55 people who hit YDI, they can go to hell. She should've talked to you about it. Once again-I'm sorry-you'll be ok though-there's tons of people out there that respect your views.

#21 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:19am by darkmis1

Wow, that's terrible...I'd say 'at least she's dead' but that would probably just make you feel worse... :-(

#22 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:19am by regalarius

How shit for you... definately FYL - but only at this moment. Now that ur out, your whole world has a change to expand!

#23 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:23am by kwosti

The fact that anyone would click "you deserved it" sickens me.


Keep your head high, TS. You're better than her.

#24 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:23am by ghost_light

I think when the OP says executor they mean the will writer.

#25 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:24am by Curtieeeez

i'm so sorry. hugs comfortingly. ):

#26 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:28am by keax

yeaman that fukin sucks.

excuse me for saying this cus i dont really know ur mother and its really not very polite to say this, but fuck her.

u can find ways to get along just fine without her money. frankly i wouldnt want her money at that point. u'll feel a lot more accomplished when you do in fact pay off your college loans from the sweat off ur own brow. and ull be better for it.

good luck

#27 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:30am by revezone

HAHA I love you, #14!! :D

#28 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:30am by dougelo7

That's the last backhand you'll get from *that* bitch. Celebrate your freedom.

#29 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:31am by aback

man that's comedy fukked up but funny u cant write shit like that u need to write a comedy based around that concept it would be a hit (if i see a movie like this get made im coming for my cut)

#30 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:31am by jezus_crist

Wow, words cannot describe the seething hate I have for your mother. Burning in hell would be less than she deserves.

I'm so sorry :(

#31 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:32am by genius_man16

I'm sorry. :( I hope you're okay...

#32 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:35am by Shawalt

I know you must be going through a tough time, losing a parent is never easy no matter what your relationship was. Not only does it suck that you don't get any $ to pay off your loans, but having your whole family know that you're gay is awful, too. While coming out to your family can be very rewarding, it should be done when you're ready. I can only hope that the rest of your family sees the errors in your mom's ways and can accept you and maybe even help you out w/ your loans.

#33 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:36am by heyyou1203

Ugh, reading about ignorance is painful. Hope everything works out for you, and sorry for your loss (even if she didn't understand you).

#34 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:38am by DamienTheRabbit

Ditto 31

#35 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:39am by Capnstinkfoot

#25: "An executor, in the broadest sense, is one who carries something out (in other words, one who is responsible for executing a task)."
As in, the guy responsible for making sure the will is carried out...


/facepalm

#36 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:39am by Postlude

Hooooooly shiiiiiiiiiit, that is messed up, feel for you man =(

#37 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:41am by cuteguyoO

Make out with your boyfriend on her grave >=|
seriously, what a bitch. :\ and I agreeee with #24

#38 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:41am by AlfonzoRex

Ouch, so not only did you not get the money to pay off your loans, but you were outed to your entire family. that's quite a shove out of the closet... And what a bad last memory of your mom :(

#39 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:43am by siriuslee

Oh, that must have been awful. I'm so sorry. :(

#40 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:44am by Turnip_Girl

#25: No. The executor (ex-EK-yoo-tor) of a will is the person in charge of making sure all of the deceased's wishes are carried out. S/he also ensures any remaining debts are paid before the estate is divided.

[Edit] Ninja'd by #36 :(

#41 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:45am by plethora

Aw crap. :(

#42 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:47am by jannas

oh boy
that suuuucks man
im so sorry :(

#44 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:53am by snappledog

That's terrible... I'm sorry.

#45 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:54am by Japemead

When you helped your mom write her will, she didn't know you were gay. She based her will at that point on the assumption that you were straight. Later she found out you were gay and changed her will. There is nothing wrong with that because her will now reflects the latest information she had available. Because it is her will, she can change it however she likes, and does not have to disclose its contents to anybody ahead of time.

She clearly learned that you were gay from a conversation that the two of you had. And although you left this part out, I'm sure at that time she let you know about how she felt about you being gay. I wouldn't be surprised if she even specifically mentioned to you that you would be getting nothing if you were gay. So don't act surprised that she changed her will.

The mistake your mother made is that she did not distribute what she left behind properly. When a person dies, the first portion goes to pay any unpaid debts. From the remaining, a portion of what they leave belongs to the heirs by blood right, and then the rest she can divide as she wills (ie through her "will"). Although it is her right to adjust her will as she sees fit, she has no right to remove the heirs' portion. This however is a common mistake in today's society.

Secondly, I doubt she intended to spill your secret and probably expected you to come out of the closet before she died, but death has a habit of taking people when they least expect it. And there was no way of her knowing who else already knew, for all she knew, the whole family knew already but didn't like talking about it. So yes that was a mistake on her part, but I can't blame her for this.

Instead of grieving over the loss of your mother, you are writing a FML about how you are not getting any inheritance and people know that you are gay. That is such a terrible way to act, and I have no sympathy for you. May your mother rest in peace.

#46 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:56am by Pharmacyst

#46 should being straight or gay affect what you inherit from your own mother? She shouldn't have done that, you can't control your sexual orientation

#47 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:58am by cheese1756

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#48 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:59am by iceicekendi

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#49 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:03am by Chowi

#46, I think the main problem is that the mother didn't tell anyone. I believe that just being open about your feelings eases a situation much more than acting secretly.

#50 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:05am by metawarr556

Ur moms retarded and very judgemental!!!!! I cannot believe ur own mother would do that to you!!!!!!!
I would burst out crying and giving a picture of ur mom "the bird"!!!!!!!!!!!! She must of been REALLY mean!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#51 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:05am by lovablylovable

#46, you're a dick. his mother should love him regardless of his sexual orientation. it's mindsets like yours that make the world a more difficult place for everyone.

this is awful, & I wish you the best.

#52 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:05am by caittt

#46, you know you could have saved yourself some time and still sent out exactly the same message if you just typed "I'm a cunt" in place of the essay.

#53 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:07am by paperfox

FYL ... It is gonna suck paying off those loans now. My mom would do the same if she was offended.
YDI ... for assuming you were getting money upon her death. never assume anything. Lesson learned.

#54 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:08am by Rockyio

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#55 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:11am by TC1

FYL I bet it sucks to be you right now.

#56 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:11am by Dboy23

I'm so sorry for you. I'm sorry that you lost your mother and that she didn't accept you for who you are, especially since she was the only one you felt you could trust with your secret with.

#57 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:11am by brainwascht

Dude, I really feel sorry for you. I hope it all works out for you. Besides, if your mom can't accept who you are, well that really sucks. But the rest of your family will most likely be supportive and you have friends from your entire life. Good luck from a fellow gay guy

#58 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:12am by babaa

i agree with #3 #5 and # 11

#59 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:13am by glitter_kiss

Trollin' from the grave.

#60 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:13am by MrJentipede

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#61 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:15am by heyyou1203

hey
I really feel sorry. I hope it all works out for you.
Good luck from a gay guy
T

#62 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:15am by thorstenfillmann

Thats a shame...no $$$ and throwing under a bus!

#63 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:17am by pjhickson

Sorry to hear that.

#64 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:18am by FML_PosterBoy

#47 I already wrote in my post (#46) that being straight or gay should not affect the child getting inheritance from his deceased mother. People completely removing a child's inheritance is a common mistake and hopefully gets corrected!

#50 I agree, if the OP had been more open about himself to the rest of his family, this situation would not have turned out so bad.

#52 Love and inheritance are two completely different things. You can show love to a child while you are alive and choose to give your belongings to another person. Just because the FML doesn't include how she loved him while she was alive doesn't mean that she didn't love him at all. Like I said in my original post, they most likely had a conversation about how she felt, and the OP didn't mention that. Just as he has the right to choose his sexual orientation, his mother has the right to have an opinion on it. You can't take either right away.

I will say it again, the OP is more worried about his inheritance and what people think of him than of his dead mother, and that is a shame.

#65 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:19am by Pharmacyst

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#66 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:20am by chaddyd23

Ugh, I'm sorry. I'm gay as well and I still haven't come out to my family. I cannot imagine how you're feeling right now, man.

#67 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:23am by KuuKuso

Legally #46 is correct. It's still unfortunate though.

#68 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:24am by dmmd8686

that really sucks. sorry about your loss and the fact that your mom was an ass

#69 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:24am by fxdxhk90

#65 - You're making quite a lot of assumptions considering the very tiny bit of information here.

#70 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:27am by KuuKuso

#66 And no one likes arrogant trash like you. =]

#71 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:27am by discountbacon

wow thats pretty mean. and shes not even around so you can tell her about herself

#72 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:28am by EffYoLife

what a bitch, you should have let her rot alone in her last days.

#73 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:29am by Bryan_Z

I agree with what Pharmacyst (#46 & #65) said.
By no means it's okay to discriminate him in that way, but I'm rather suspicious of the OP. I would rather not jump to conclusions, since we didn't get the full story.

As a side note, please leave those immature comments aside (replies to #46's post). It's better to make a point than randomly spit words of disagreement. Just a suggestion.

#74 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:29am by wingedspiritus

That is awful!!!! I hope you don't let it ruin you or your life. Some people just don't understand.

#75 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:31am by kaywithlove

Wow, your mom is a jerk.

#76 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:31am by Daenerys

I'm very sad now. ;-(

#77 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:31am by kapay

Ur mom can burn in helll

#78 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:33am by xox_what_now

I am so sorry,
she's your mother and she was dying
so why should who you love matter?
she's supposed to love you unconditionally and this was for your future
I'm very sorry for your losses and I hope you find a way to pay your school loans.

#79 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:33am by xHaniffax

Pharmacyst, I think you are missing the point.
To talk about having the "right" to change one's sexual orientation (to whom you are attracted) is pretty meaningless.
I can't suddenly decide that I going to be attracted to blonds if I actually like redheads.
All I can do is decide I will only date blonds. But I am obviously going to be less happy if I do so.
His mother seemed to have resented his unwillingness to date people he was not to whom he was not attracted in order to keep her happy.
Rather than saying, "If you continue being gay, I will cut you out of the will" (we can infer this from the poster's surprise), she managed a spiteful, petty gesture from the grave

#80 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:36am by drimpossible

Oh wow, what a jerk.

#81 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:36am by Rokka13

#65 People do not choose their sexual orientation, it's their lifestyle that they choose. You cannot help if you are attracted to another person of the same gender. However, you CAN help the way you behave due to that attraction. It is up to the individual whether they believe it's right to act on the attraction or suppress it and pretend to be heterosexual.

#82 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:38am by wingedtoad

That's the worst thing that could happen ..it's like 5 bad things mixed up !!

#83 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:41am by hanzino

Are you sure your mom was the only person who knew? You know there's thing where people can talk to each other and share information when you're not around, right?

Before you go hating your mom for eternity, I'd first assume that she told any number of people over the years about your sexual preference, and one of them decided to use that against you after she died so they could get your money. It's not like that never happens.

#84 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:43am by mojo_jojo

wow.
what a great mother you had there.
may her soul rest in piece, but that was a pretty nasty move of her.

#85 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:45am by andie_4

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#86 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:46am by megamatt

"Just as he has the right to choose his sexual orientation, his mother has the right to have an opinion on it."

No one chooses their sexual orientation. It is by no means a choice; you are the way you are, and there is nothing to be done about it. Don't act as though the OP had a choice whether to be gay or not, because he didn't.

#87 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:47am by ghost_light

That's so terrible, I am so sorry. You're a good person, and things will work out in the end :)

#88 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:50am by Stephie

#65: No, people don't choose their sexual orientation. Did you choose to be straight? My guess is no. Stop being deliberately ignorant.

OP: That's a really shitty situation. I hope you're able to get the closure you need and get past the betrayal, which I imagine is more painful than the money situation to cope with.

#89 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:51am by krel

First of all #46, Pharmacyst, I think your response is totally appalling and hateful in sentiment.

TSampson, I wonder if your mother thanked you for helping her draft the Will? Not an easy document to write at the best of times and for a child to help a parent - I think it's quite an undertaking on your part. Did other members of your family help out with the Will?

It's a fair assumption that your mother knew you had confided in her about being gay, why else make a point of stating this as the sole reason for disinheritance? Why mention it at all? It beggars belief. It sounds as if she was trying to deliberately shame you in front of the family without having the guts to talk to you about it first. Not very loving or understanding! She broke your trust in a truly shocking manner when you are starting out in life and needing emotional/financial support.

I can only hope that the wounds will heal and that other members of your family are not being disrespectful/hateful towards you as a result of the disclosure. I also hope that finances will be forthcoming so that you can settle any educational loans.

I experienced far more abuse within the family than I ever did outside of it. I severed all ties and I've never regretted it for one moment.

Spend time with those who show you love and respect.

Peace.

#90 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:51am by FurrTrap

#74 is a cunt too.

#86 is great, because they made me laugh my arse off. A shot of testosterone and you're straight? Oh my love, if it's that easy why haven't you had the treatment yet? =D

#91 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:53am by paperfox

#86 Anyone who says "YDI for being gay" are the kind of people that make the world such a shitty place to live in. You're an ignorant, self-righteous tool.

#92 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:54am by krel

I'm so sorry for your loss. I think it's terrible that people are saying such horrible things about your mother. Despite what she did, I'm sure you love her and it's disrespectful for people to say what they're saying.

I'm not saying what she did was right. But just because she did something terrible doesn't mean she's a terrible person.

I really wish you the best, though. Stay strong.

#93 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:55am by breakitdown393

#55 and #66- Fuck off, you homophobic pricks.

#94 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:55am by trilliamme

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#95 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:56am by drimpossible

#46: so you think it's okay to deprive one of your children from any inheritance but the very basics (which the OP didn't even get even though they need it badly) because of their sexual orientation? Would you say the same if the OP had another condition he couldn't change? Like a handicap, an eye colour his mom didn't like...? Also, you're saying the OP's mom told him while she was alive that she would change her will. This is mentioned nowhere, and the OP clearly shows that this was a surprise to him, so I don't have a clue where your assumption is coming from.

What would you feel like if you found out after your mom's death that she disowned you because of something you couldn't help? Your mom is the one person in the whole world who's supposed to love you and be there for you, no matter what your sexuality is. If this is not the case, I think your life is pretty fucked indeed.

#96 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:59am by Bleep

aww! i'm so sorry. #55 shut the f up.

#97 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:59am by lil_miz_liz09

Sorry for your loss

Stinks he read it out loud

#98 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:59am by wowfmlife

That's really rough. Wishing you the best!

#99 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:59am by bonobo

This is so sad your life isn't just f***ed. It's been raped.

Feel better.

#100 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:00pm by I_Am_The_Edge

awe im srry to hear about your mother. may she rest in peace. But its ok being gay. you shouldn't have to hide it. I live in the deep south.... like you get killed for being gay and two of my friends have been killed because of it and im still out and proud.... now im not saying this to scare you im just saying thatyou should be you.... live life to the fullest you shouldn't have to stay clammed up and not being your self for your whole life. this goes to you and everyone else that reads this.

#101 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:00pm by Sax_man11

Well, your mom's going to hell.

#102 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:02pm by uhohiitsliindsey

#85, I hear there's brains on sale at Wal-Mart, aisle 5.

#46, I think the point here is that his mom didnt (from the OPs surprise) tell him about her feelings. That was truly awful of her.

OP, that really sucks. Best of luck paying of your loans and I hope the rest of your family accepts who you are.

#103 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:05pm by Arinwyn

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#104 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:05pm by wowfmlife

She died bitter.
Nothing worse than that.

#105 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:08pm by UseTheFrags

Your mom disowned you, thats fml material. Fyl sorry

#106 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:08pm by KiddNYC10

woww....that blows bro. Fyl sorry

#107 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:10pm by e0987c5t3

#86 - Seriously??? Seriously????? I respect differing views on all topics, but can you please explain why you believe that because he is gay he deserves to be ratted out to ALL of his family and he is stuck in a loan that he can't pay off without some money? The brainwashing of some religions amazes me (I am not Athesist, just to set that straight)

Everyone posting comments should realize that the Mom could have done this in 2 ways
1) she actually thought that her son, the OP, would have come out of the closet, and just restated the fact
2) she knew he wouldn't come out the closet, so she decided to be spiteful to him on purpose.


what really boggles my mind that either way, she bascially says "F*** all gay people"
Why do people hate gay people so much? Why is it an insult to call others gay?
Why do people automatically assume that because a person stand up for gay rights, he is gay? because i know someone later on this comment post will say i'm gay. I like the female gender, once again to set the record straight.

I have no doubt in my mind that eventually there will be equality for all. The world has suffered through racial prejudice, gender prejudice, and more. Every time in the end there is a gradual acceptance of tolerance, but in the time of gradual acceptance, i feel sorry for all homosexuals who are made to suffer due to extremists beliefs.

Sorry about your loss, and now you should move on with your life (to the OP)
I hope your family comes to accept that you are homosexual, and if they hate you for it, i would seriously suggest cutting off your ties to them. A family is supposed to love unconditionally.

#109 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:14pm by randomness132

Eeek double post, sorry.

#110 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:16pm by UseTheFrags

I'm sorry to hear that. Your mother is a bitch.

#111 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:16pm by TheBlackFlame

#86 , the next time you decide to quote a fairytale from the Sky God's Bible, that was given to the bronze aged man from said time, go read on the Original Sin. Do yourself and your hateful religion a favor by enlightening your ignorance.

P.S. I'm saddened that your mom "tried" to punish you for being you even after her death. She was a good person. Fuck her life!

#112 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:16pm by melikeulongtime

i'm so sorry that happened to you. i hope that you have the support of the rest of your family and friends to help you.

#113 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:17pm by imaginarygirl

That is so horrible in every way.

#114 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:18pm by kitkatkelly

I love how people are saying "you deserve it because you're gay" what if it was switched and his mom was gay, aswell as his entire family but they didn't accept him because he was straight? then you'd all be saying "FYL, your family sucks"

I know it's completely out there, but think about it...

Also if it was that situation then the story wouldn't exist, because i know that gay pepole are WAY more tollerant of others, being straight isn't the norm, or the right thing... be who you are and live how you want... those who matter don't care and those who care don't matter

Good luck throught this tough time, and the rest of you can just shut up with your slanderous comments

#115 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:19pm by hecuva

#80 #82 #89 You are right that you can't force a person to be attracted to people they are not attracted to, and its their right to date/marry/have sex/hang out with who they want(that is what I meant by you have the right to choose your orientation). I never said the opposite. I simply said that the mom also has a right to her opinion and has a right to adjust her will. I said a few times already, but let me make it clearer, I don't believe what she did was right, but that doesn't mean she showed no love to him his entire life.

Also #70 #80 #95 and #102 , do you honestly believe that the OP and his mother never had a conversation about him being gay? They were close enough that he helped her to write her own will, but she wouldn't talk to him about that? I don't buy the idea that he only found out she disapproved after she died. Yes I am guessing here, but really which scenario is more likely? There is always more than one side to every story.

#95 Please read my post more carefully, I said that she has no right to completely remove the OP from inheriting anything!

Don't forget that your mother carried you for nine months, bore the pain of childbirth, and supported you in life. All I'm asking is to show some respect for the deceased.

#117 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:22pm by Pharmacyst

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#118 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:22pm by HipsterDoofus

Ugh.

#119 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:22pm by meadowlark

#103: Because there are OTHERS who think there's something wrong with being gay (see #86's pseudo-scientific bullshit, for example), and worse still, people who would try to take/keep certain things away from gay people (like the OP's mom withholding inheritance, or if you want to look at things on a broader scale, serving in the United States military).

I'm neither gay nor do I serve in the military, but know someone who is both and live complicated double lives because of Don't Ask Don't Tell. I don't think it's too much to ask to be able act on your sexual orientation when you are in service to your country, as long as the former does not hinder the latter.

Sorry to get a bit off-topic.

#120 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:23pm by blinnk57

@103, look at california...prop 8...its not socially acceptable to be gay, fuckng religion...

#121 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:24pm by iJack

#112
I'm glad you graduated high school (probably) without even knowing what "age" the Bible was written. Most scholars would argue that most sections of the Old Testament, like Issiah, can be tracked to the 7th or 8th century B.C.

I'm glad the chip on your shoulders is such that you can not even see your own lack of education, but allow me to enlighten you from your lobotomization in this field. Since you simply wish to support your equally unfounded dogma (that morality is dictated by the acceptance of other people only), I will let you know that the Bronze Age in the Mediterranean happened many centuries before even the Old Testament was written.

Greek trade with Israel/Persians increased substantially by this time and created the writing form "Linear B" as a commonly used trade language. This text is basically a word for word precursor to actual Greek and this is often referenced as the beginnings of the Iron Age throughout the area.

Now that you have received a lecture from an Ivy educated graduate student, please send my check.

#122 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:25pm by Ughsucks

Sorry to hear about your mother

#123 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:26pm by NoNameAtAll

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#124 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:27pm by Ughsucks

Anyone clicking YDI sickens me. Let's see your parents write you out if the will for being straight and see how you feel.

#125 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:27pm by Yatta

#117, thanks for the clarification. But for future reference orientation generally is assumed who you are attracted to, not "date/marry/have sex/hang out with"
Bear in mind, you can do all of the above without being attracted to them

#126 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:28pm by drimpossible

She is/was an idiot.

#127 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:28pm by netbeui435

what a horrible person! you should tap dance on her grave.

#128 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:29pm by BalenciagaBetch9

#117, pretty sure this would be your time to stop talking... you're just digging yourself a bigger grave, and you're starting to contradict yourself aswell,
I thank you in advance for your silence

#129 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:31pm by hecuva

I'm very sorry for your mom's death and that she outted you the way that she did, but I like what revezone said. When you earn the money on your own and pay back your own debts it's a real sense of accomplishment. I hope that you can be mature about this situation and be the bigger man, as it were. Good luck.

#130 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:34pm by absurdliaisons

#108 yeah right, there will never be gay equality, too many people hate them. You say that the world got over gender and racial prejudice but you couldnt be more wrong. Have you heard about the man that went into the Holocaust Museum and killed a security guard yesterday because he hates Jews and black people? yeah, thought so.

#131 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:34pm by wowfmlife

wow. that's just beyond horrible...

#132 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:35pm by brothalove

hahahahaha

#133 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:35pm by paigeharper

Wow. I can't imagine a mother who would cut her kid out of her will because of his/her sexual orientation. that's horrible. i'm so sorry.

#134 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:36pm by desichick23

when i said #108, i meant #109 or whatever randomness132 is

#135 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:40pm by wowfmlife

At least she's dead now. Count that as a blessing. :D

#136 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:44pm by CyclonePsycho

to everyone who is saying shit about your mother:

stop.

no, this wasn't the right thing for her to do. but she was still his mother and you don't know what kind of a relationship they had while she was still alive. (I'm assuming they were close if he felt comfortable enough to tell only her that he was gay.)

Do you really think saying "fuck that cunt burning in hell would be less than she deserves" is going to make him feel better about the situation? No. Especially after she just passed away.

If my mom died and even if we didn't have a good relationship, I would be extremely hurt by anyone who said anything mean about her.

OP I'm sorry everyone is being such a douche to you about your mom. =(

and don't feel too bad about not getting any share of her will, a lot of times gay people do better than straight people financially anyways

#137 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:45pm by ilikeboys

I'm sooo sorry. This makes me want to cry :'(

#138 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:49pm by PureGold

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#139 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:50pm by stridercab

hauhauahuahauauahauhauahuahauhauahauahuahauahuahau

U deserved that one! hauhauahuaha

Just for fun... but of course u didn't, im kidding. I believe that was horrible, but, its so funny...
And well... can ur mom revise it and give that kind of justification to not give u part of what she had? Is it legal, i mean... ur her son. Cmon. Dont let that happen. im sure u have rights.

#140 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:52pm by raphaellopes

Wow, people are really freaking out about this. In my opinion I doubt this is a true story. Who in their right minds would write about this on FML?

If it is true, I am deeply sorry that your mother felt that you deserved this. Good luck in paying off your loans.

#141 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:53pm by daarlingdamsel

hauhauahuahauauahauhauahuahauhauahauahuahauahuahau

U deserved that one! hauhauahuaha

Just for fun... but of course u didn't, im kidding. I believe that was horrible, but, its so funny...
And well... can ur mom revise it and give that kind of justification to not give u part of what she had? Is it legal, i mean... ur her son. Cmon. Dont let that happen. im sure u have rights.

#142 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:54pm by raphaellopes

#131 (wowfmlife): Of course it will never be perfect. There will always be people like that man at the Holocaust Museum (although I wish that weren't so). But we should still take steps in the right direction to acceptance.

#143 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:56pm by nativebacon

this is so horrible. i'm so sorry your mother would do this to you, i wish she could of talked it through with you rather than doing it like this.

#144 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:57pm by cljc

That's horrible, I'm really sorry that you guys couldn't come to an understanding. Just hang in there and stay strong.

#145 - On 06/11/2009 at 12:59pm by Bridge2insanity

that's seriously horribleeeeeeee! I don't see why people said YDI...

#146 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:00pm by ohxberlin

Your Mom's burning in Hell right now.... she deserves it. I hope you spat on her grave.

#147 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:02pm by 110879

Contest the will.

#148 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:03pm by warhorse57

I hope your family react better than she did.

#149 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:05pm by cheesefest

You've really got my sympathy.

#150 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:09pm by testing

Don't worry, that bitch is burning in hell right now for being so malicious and spiteful.

#151 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:13pm by birds

That's just not right. Sorry dude

#152 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:15pm by maxappel3

Thats awful! Sorry to hear your mom died, even if she was a bigot or not. I hope the rest of your family was a bit more understanding then your mom was... Stay strong.

#153 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:18pm by clockworkrainbow

What the fu-?

#154 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:20pm by thelonelylurker

that's the most fucked up thing I've ever seen on here. If you aren't hoping she's burning in hell, I'll do it for you.

#155 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:26pm by Dogmaw

I would have to agree with you that this was an FML.
It's pretty sad that the last act that you'll get to remember your mother by is her betraying you in more ways then one.
This is why my mother would probably be the last person I could ever come out to, she believes being gay is a mental handicap.

Anyways good luck on moving on in life, hopefully your family is more accepting then your mother was.

#156 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:30pm by Smarty_

#46 please get a life instead of writing essays as fml commets

#157 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:31pm by tjd13

#46, that is probably the worst thing I have ever heard a person say. You're absolutely awful. He's obviously not more upset about his mother's death because she was clearly a terrible mother. Just because she pushed you out of her vagina doesn't make her a good parent.

#53, lmao.

OP needs a hug? :]

#158 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:31pm by rayrayy

bitch move...

#159 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:32pm by jessyb05

what sucks is, nothing bad is going to happen to your mom now that she's dead, so don't be a moron and believe that she's going to get an ultimate consequence, just don't take solace in that. but be happy she's dead, i would be.

#160 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:33pm by anonymouskiller

Wow... That was really mean of your mom. Some people just dont understand or like changes. Keep your head held high:) youll be fine!

RI

#161 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:34pm by RIKANA

I agree with #156 and #158.

#162 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:35pm by themixedt4pe

Well, at least she is dead now?

#163 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:37pm by ChrmnMa0

Oh dear. Religious anti-gay sentiments have always confused me. There are instances of homosexuality in nature (two male birds raising a nest of eggs, etc.), and since I'm fairly sure that animals don't choose their sexuality (not that humans can/do)... that means it occurred naturally. Which means God made it. Marriage as a religious institution is a different matter (not opening that can of worms), but it's pretty clear to me that same-sex pairings are just as natural and Godly as any other pairing.

#164 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:38pm by twitteringjaie

Ignorant people like her make me die a little inside. Pretty sure our ancestors came to America seeking freedom and tolerance not more hatemongering

#165 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:39pm by Nightfallz

that is absolutly horrible.
if she was the only one who knew, did she never act like it bothered her to your face?
because if she was against it i dont see how you couldnt see it coming.
im so sorry.

#166 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:40pm by kyeee

What.A.Bitch!!! You helped her write her will, entrusted her with your deepest secret, did not ask much of her (if you only wanted money to pay off student loans), and then she decides to not five you anything just cause your gay??? I think she should have at least confronted you about it while she was alive.

#167 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:40pm by AdamGD

Your mom is a bitch. FHA.

That's right. I just said Fuck Her Afterlife.

#168 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:41pm by Overcast117

I can't express how amazed I am by the fact that a mother would want their child to remember that as the last thing the mother did to them. I, uh. Well, I hope you don't mourn her much, she's not a person deserving to be called a mother.

#169 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:42pm by Shantar

I agree with #24...and every person who said your mom was a biatch..and every person who is hating on poster #46

#170 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:42pm by jncwmnd

Awww...How Sad =( I'm Sorry It Had To Happen...

Look On the Bright Side: You Are Out Of The Closet With Your Family :D

#171 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:45pm by OmgItsAnaBeatriz

Dude I am so srry tht is so fucked up tht bitch

#172 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:46pm by MsGates

thats mean man. but there r better things to look out to.

#173 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:47pm by immumo

i'm rather pissed that she's dead because i would really, really like to punch her in the fucking face for that. what a raging cunt. i hope the rest of your family has sympathy for you (and isn't bigoted like your mom) and gives you something anyway.

#174 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:52pm by diet_otaku

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#175 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:53pm by penguinz

That breaks my heart....
At least you won't have to grieve the loss, of your Mother.
Since was no kind, of Mother at all to you.

#176 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:53pm by imsleepingbeauty

I'm sure she's enjoying her new condo with a lake-of-fire-side view in hell.

#177 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:55pm by rockstarK9

#116, what, so you're saying anyone with a god-damn womb qualifies as a good mother?

stfu, we have no idea if the OP was supported at all, and if he/she was, it was only because she thought he/she was straight. Something he wasn't, and she couldn't take the truth.

The OP deserves better, everyone does.

#178 - On 06/11/2009 at 1:59pm by UseTheFrags

anyone who hit ydi on this is an awful person.
this is wrong on so many levels. even if she was homophobic i wouldn't be that angry. but the fact that she took away money that you needed and that she promised to you, and that she planned on outing you since before her death makes it terrible. this breaks my heart.

#179 - On 06/11/2009 at 2:00pm by fobfan14

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#180 - On 06/11/2009 at 2:00pm by sdawl

Woww, this FML isn't even funny. It's just plain sad ):
That is horrible. FYL.

#181 - On 06/11/2009 at 2:01pm by nanxi

Hi.
Thanks to all the ignorant homophobic comments, we're closing the comments section down on this one.

#182 - On 06/11/2009 at 2:02pm by Alan (FML Staff)

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