Nooooooo. That's not how a relationship works. You don't date someone if your only intention of to "fix" them or turn them into something they aren't. Maybe OP is happy how she looks? Maybe she doesn't want to get fitter? Maybe she just doesn't enjoy gym work? Obviously this is on FML because the OP isn't happy with her boyfriend's treatment of her. So why is it ok for her boyfriend (someone she's only been dating a fortnight) to tell her to go to the gym so she can "be hott"? That's not being thoughtful. That's called being an asshole. And he certainly doesn't sound like a keeper. Don't date someone if you're not happy with how they look.

#45, that's not true. I went out with a girl who told me on our first or second date how she'd change my diet. Truth be told, I could have dropped 10 or 15 pounds at the time. I was actually impressed by her candor. I had to dump her because she insisted in sticking her finger up my ass during sex.

You know, that last sentence is probably something we shouldn't know.

In a way I agree with perdix, it isn't the most terrible thing to get healthier and fit, just the way the bf worded it was off. Plus gym memberships aren't exactly cheap, so I'd take it.

And we have no clue what OP looks like, if she's only 5-10 pounds overweight yea I'd say he's being an ass, but what If she's morbidly obese ? Maybe he loves her (in two weeks?) enough to want her to get healthier, I don't think the bf is so horrible, just the way he did it.

#59: Not...really? The OP shouldn't feel obligated to do something just because her boyfriend spent so much money on her. Maybe he should have ASKED her if she wanted a gym membership first, instead of just assuming she wanted to lose weight and be "hott" for him. Seriously, I'm having a hard time seeing where the kind or caring part comes in. Because all I see is a douche act. He wants to change his girlfriend's appearance (after a mere 2 weeks of dating, no less) and doesn't think his girlfriend is "hott" enough. Spending a lot of money on something =/= a caring boyfriend. And a person should never feel obligated to change for someone just because that person spent a lot of money on them.

Dating for 2 weeks is hardly "putting up" with something he didn't like about her.

Leaving her for someone else would probably be the better option at this point, tbh. He clearly isn't happy with how she looks and seems to think it's ok to try to "fix" her. OP would be better off with someone who was happy with her looks, and the boyfriend would be better off with a girl he doesn't feel the need to "fix". Having to "put up" with something you don't like about your girlfriend (especially when its something as significant as appearance) doesn't make him a nice guy. It makes him an ass.

I bet if a girl gave a guy a gym membership, you'd call him a lazy fat ass and you'd be totally OK with the girl.

43 now that, is also sexist and your argument is probably based on... Nothing? I don't know one single girl who'd do that. And neither would I do that.

His argument is probably based on double standards.

I know, but I really hate to see that. I don't know girls who expect guys to always pay for their dinner or something like that. So I think those 'double standards' are mostly based on bitches who you cannot call feminists.