Today, while opening up to a few friends about how I was sexually abused as a child, one of them blurted "Pics or it didn't happen." How did the others react? With outrage? No, just with awkward chuckling. FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, a guy made fun of sexual assault victims, and laughed when he heard they’re getting money and support. He also said I look like his next victim. I hit him, unapologetically. My friends told me to apologise, and that he’s really a great guy. No longer my friends. Talk shit, get hit. FML
Today, I told my friends I was kissed by a girl. They said "Yeah, probably by your mom." The sad thing is, they were right. FML
Today, I laughed at a joke in a group chat. No one else reacted. After five minutes, I realized I’d replied to a message from last week. I had to also pretend I hadn't noticed and sat in silence. FML
Today, I was in a support group talking about how my sister and I were raised in a cult. Never one to be outdone, the loud mouth of the group piped up and scoffed, “Oh please! If it didn’t make the news and no one died, then it wasn’t a cult!” Sorry I wasn’t murdered. It was still abusive as fuck. FML
Today, I decided to open up to my friends about losing my dad last year. To my horror, all they could do was laugh at and mock me, all because I said that he "unalived" himself. FML
Today, I was peppered with questions about my swollen eye and if I'd gotten into a fight. I couldn't bring myself to admit that I'd been brutally beaten into submission by a doorknob. FML
Today, at a mind-numbingly boring support session, everyone was talking about their hardships. One guy was talking about losing his leg in a car accident. I was half-asleep and asked without thinking, "Did you ever find it?" I almost shat my pants at the roomful of death glares that followed. FML
Today, after weeks of therapy for severe depression, my therapist thought it would be helpful to confess my deepest problems to my friends, to prove that it was alright to trust people. I did. They laughed. Hard. FML
Today, I was telling my friends a story. I added a few "embellishments" to make it more intense. One my friends piped up with, "I was with you, half of what you just said wasn't true". It's now all over Facebook and I'm known as "The Bullshitter". FML
Today, someone was making jokes and everyone started laughing, so I laughed. He then proceeded to look me dead in the eye and go, "What are you laughing at?" I started stuttering and mumbled back quietly, "I don't know, what are you laughing at?" He goes, "I'm not laughing" and then they all stared at me weird. FML
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RumpPlug 4
**** those friends, leave them.
Guy1009 15
Time for new friends.
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Comments (169)
Cow_Girl_Lilly 24
Sorry to hear they acted that way OP.
cj89898 24
Usually that comment is funny, not here.
punxsy_phil 11
Chill chill chill. It's just a prank. Ap rank. A PRANK
tomvertigo 17
You have to look at it from their perspective. They may have had no idea how to handle it or respond. That's a very heavy topic to lay on them. Could they have done better? Sure - but consider their position.
DoomedGemini 38
Consider OP'S position. It's hard to open up about something like that. It's hard to learn something like that happened to someone close to you, but they're not ******* victims. The chuckling, yes nervousness or being uncomfortable can cause smiling or laughing, but I just can't excuse the comment that was made. It's op's choice, though, and neither is wrong.
NightKat 25
Sometimes the filter just isn't on, and inappropriate things just kind of slip out. Been there, done that. I don't think the friend was trying to be insensitive. Maybe they all tried to laugh it off because it was so awkward, and they didn't know how else to handle it. But OP's the only one here who knows the whole story...
xMaeLA 24
Those people are not your friends. I don't even know you and i am so appalled at their behavior, and wish I could give you the biggest hug, OP. **** them, and I don't mean literally.
Shade1982 21
People like you seem to be very quick in their judgment. Sexual child abuse is a very, very difficult subject for a lot of people. These people are not trained to deal with subjects like this, especially if it's a friend. Why on earth would you expect a normal response from someone who has absolutely no idea how to deal with that? They have zero training and experience to help op, and their normal go-to response is basic humor, that is actually really not that abnormal.
DoomedGemini 38
Do not try to excuse it as okay. Do I think op should dump them instantly? No, we have no idea what happened after. But don't say "if you're not trained.." MANY people are not trained or ready for the information. When someone close talked to me about it, I started to cry and felt such anger and disgust toward the person and people around her at that time. Some may deal with it with humor, but it's op's right to not want to be around someone who does so. If she doesn't feel comfortable talking about things because they can't react in a way that doesn't hurt her or makes her uncomfortable, she has every right to end the friendship over it.
xMaeLA 24
You don't need training to be compassionate. It's called being a human being. Which I am sure you are one. Or maybe I judged you too quickly.
Sh0cK_ing 3
And you're going to blame them? They probably have never had someone talk to them about that kind of situation so of course they would joke.
Afroman720 18
I'm not saying that your friends are in the clear, but some people aren't great at handling awkward talks and situations and use jokes as a way to cope with the awkwardness, so unless they continued to go out of their way to make jokes and tease you, I wouldn't read too much into it.
JudgeComrade 17
Tough skin helps with overcoming both past and present.
cutiepie292929 18
Go to a psychologist if you want to talk. People who haven't delt with this issue don't know how to respond, you won't get the support you need. Unfortunately the media has made sexual abuse something not serious.