Today, my grandmother yet again asked where my grandfather is. She refuses to believe us when we tell her that he passed away 6 years ago. She always insists that he's out cheating on her and accuses us of lying to cover his arse. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, at my grandmother's funeral, my senile grandfather kept asking me "Where's granny? I've been looking for her, but I can't find her." FML
Today, my grandmother is upset I won't lie to the police for her and is now claiming that I'm involved in the Mafia. FML
Today, while at my aunt's funeral, my grandma who has terrible memory loss asked me whose funeral we were at. I had to explain to her that her daughter had died. FML
Today, after mourning and making my girlfriend cancel her big birthday party, I found out my grandma didn't actually die. FML
Today, my grandma got a new boyfriend. She dumped the old one because "His wife was taking too long to die." FML
Today, I told my grandmother I was planning a trip to take my newborn son to meet his great-great-grandfather before it was too late. She had a guilty expression on her face. My great-grandfather died 4 months ago and my family forgot to tell me. FML
Today, my 65-year-old grandmother called and asked me to tell my boyfriend that she was flattered, but she's happily married. I have no idea what she was talking about and my boyfriend refuses to talk to me. FML
Today, I visited my grandmother who has dementia. She thought I was my father, and told me that I should never have married my mother, let alone have had children with her. FML
Today, I found out that my grandmother desecrated my grandfather's grave. 14 years after his death, she dug up his body and had him cremated so that she could sell his plot back to the cemetery for money. I was the one who found out so I had to tell the rest of the family. FML
Today, my grandfather kept on asking me questions about my girlfriend, and was obviously proud of the things he remembered about her. The only thing he couldn't remember is that we broke up. I had to talk with him about our "great relationship" for over an hour. FML
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Top comments
luther48 20
I'm sorry. Dementia is tough for any family. Stay strong, lean on family.
dideldoodles 17
This is so sad
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Comments (65)
revolvearoundme 15
This sucks to bear. It's hard dealing with it over and over. I've lived with it and watched it in friends and family. All I can say is be the best human you can be every time.
CoupeDeAce 6
I don't remember what I was going to comment....
Obito_Uchiha651 17
This is not ifunny where if you think not having something to say will give you top comment if you have nothing to say don't comment simple as that
CoffeeChickBlows 13
Pretty sure he was making a dementia joke. Or maybe not. There's your chance to dig your way out of that grave, #15. I expect gratitude from you.
gobiteme2 34
# 15 I can sum it up in three words "what an ass"
demix_fml 32
A very sad situation to be in. I'm wishing you the best op X
totallynotemily 25
I guess she wants to forget that he is dead
ckibb97 22
If she has dementia just tell her he'll be right back, we did the same with my great grandma because she would always get upset, she wouldn't even remember you telling her he'll be back, it just stops her being temporarily upset
KryssLB 14
This. Can you imagine being told someone you loved was dead, forgetting, wondering where they were, and finding out they were dead, over and over and over again? Even if they don't remember, the people around her will. That sounds like a terrible way to live, for everyone involved. Me, if I end up with dementia, I want my kids to tell me nothing but happy lies. "Where's your Grandma?" "Oh, you're meeting her on Sunday for brunch, remember?" "I never get to go on any nice vacations!" "What do you mean? We go to Mexico every February, remember? And we're leaving for Hawaii next week." I will live in a perpetual state of anticipation of joyful happenings. It will be fantastic.
DanishPeach 8
Exactly! I worked in a nursing home for a while and I was told to do this. If they don't remember that their spouse died they will re-experience the trauma and sorrow every single time you tell them. Just pointless to devastate them over and over again
PuppiesKisses 19
That's really sad I'm so sorry... Best of luck OP. My grandma died on 12-18-2011 and my grandpa on 12-18-2015. The last year of his life he had sudden onset dementia and Alzheimer's. He would have hallucinations that she was sitting there talking to him. Sometimes I wonder if he was so close to death that she wasn't really a hallucination.
False_Stupidity 42
As someone who has watched two loved ones succumb to dementia, I understand how frustrating and difficult this is. Just distract her with things like telling her that he's gone shopping or some other activity that she'd believe, she won't remember after a while.
914smv 18
awww Sorry OP taking care of grandparents is hard and plus understanding the stuff they say. Sometimes we just have to agree with them.
FSGInsainity 15
Dig up his body in front of her to prove it.
Suicidal_Divide 17
I'm sorry to say it, but it sounds like your Grandma has Dementia or Alztimers (I know I didn't spell that right). It's not easy to deal with sometimes. My Great-Grandma accused the family of stealing $20,000+ from her. Good luck!