Today, my grandmother yet again asked where my grandfather is. She refuses to believe us when we tell her that he passed away 6 years ago. She always insists that he's out cheating on her and accuses us of lying to cover his arse. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, at my grandmother's funeral, my senile grandfather kept asking me "Where's granny? I've been looking for her, but I can't find her." FML
Today, my grandmother is upset I won't lie to the police for her and is now claiming that I'm involved in the Mafia. FML
Today, while at my aunt's funeral, my grandma who has terrible memory loss asked me whose funeral we were at. I had to explain to her that her daughter had died. FML
Today, after mourning and making my girlfriend cancel her big birthday party, I found out my grandma didn't actually die. FML
Today, my grandma got a new boyfriend. She dumped the old one because "His wife was taking too long to die." FML
Today, I told my grandmother I was planning a trip to take my newborn son to meet his great-great-grandfather before it was too late. She had a guilty expression on her face. My great-grandfather died 4 months ago and my family forgot to tell me. FML
Today, my 65-year-old grandmother called and asked me to tell my boyfriend that she was flattered, but she's happily married. I have no idea what she was talking about and my boyfriend refuses to talk to me. FML
Today, I visited my grandmother who has dementia. She thought I was my father, and told me that I should never have married my mother, let alone have had children with her. FML
Today, I found out that my grandmother desecrated my grandfather's grave. 14 years after his death, she dug up his body and had him cremated so that she could sell his plot back to the cemetery for money. I was the one who found out so I had to tell the rest of the family. FML
Today, my grandfather kept on asking me questions about my girlfriend, and was obviously proud of the things he remembered about her. The only thing he couldn't remember is that we broke up. I had to talk with him about our "great relationship" for over an hour. FML
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Top comments
luther48 20
I'm sorry. Dementia is tough for any family. Stay strong, lean on family.
dideldoodles 17
This is so sad
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Comments (65)
luther48 20
I'm sorry. Dementia is tough for any family. Stay strong, lean on family.
dideldoodles 17
This is so sad
Tali147 16
I can't imagine how heartbreaking this would be.
Niz_DD 14
This is indeed sad but your dp makes me wonder if you lying
andits 21
Maybe it's her minds way of coping. Either way it's hurtful. It still really sucks especially for your family. I hope one day she can make peace with it.
khaskin 12
That's really rough. As bad as it is for you, imagine how confusing and upsetting life must be for her. Compassion and understanding goes a long way with memory issues or dementia. Sorry OP, seeing family like that is never easy.
Moskaaa7 26
Plot twist: your grandfather had been cheating on your grandmother when he was still alive and it's how she remembers him.
khaskin 12
What a great thing to say about someone's deceased grandfather and grandmother with dementia.
fezhafeez 12
too soon, too soon.
chriss2015 13
She may not have dementia. This could just be a tragic way she uses to cope. It's very unfortunate but I wouldn't jump to conclusions.
heyLaddieHey 18
Her husband has been dead 6 years. That's a lot of time to "cope" by refusing to believe he's dead. Unless she had recent head trauma, it's probably dementia.
gracehi 33
I actually have that suspicion also, 5. I mean, not necessarily that he cheated on her throughout their whole marriage, but perhaps just once or twice was enough to make that impression. It's a tragic ordeal in any case.
cocacola999 27
Not necessarily. One of the side effects of dementia is increasing paranoia. At the end of her life, my great grandmother was constantly accusing her neighbours of stealing behind her. It was sad, as they were nice people who had always helped her when she was still well.
walker9879 25
Man that must suck having to repeat everything all the time, but at least you still care for her OP.
GrainHauler 9
it actually doesn't suck. my grandmother had dementia when she passed. I'd give a million dollars to have 5 minutes with her and repeat myself 100 times
LalapaloozaChick 14
for some odd reason I dont like the word arse.
tarlax 11
For some odd reason, I doubt anyone gives a ****.
LalapaloozaChick 14
obviously you do
XxDanno316xX 27
And how is it obvious? Get over yourself, 8. :)
ihartmytdi 23
This might sound a bit harsh but hear me out; maybe frame a picture of his grave/funeral service in her house to remind her of what has passed. Dementia/Alzheimers isn't easy to deal with for anyone, but maybe she needs something tangible to recognize the reality of things.
cheshireau 26
Doesn't always work. My Nan had Dementia before she passed and no matter the photos or the stories we told even really registered. It's a horrible, heart breaking condition.
abbyade 21
I work with patients suffering from dementia and Alzheimer's. It is tough especially when they miss their loved ones that are dead. All you can do is keep reassuring her that he's not cheating and he loves her so much, wherever he his.
bearbear120 27
I'm sorry to hear that op. My grandma had really advanced alzheimer's before she passed. So much that she didn't know who I was. I know how hard it can be on a family. Stay strong.
antisolid87 5
My grandma was the same way before she passed.