Today, while chatting with my in-laws, I told them about my upcoming spinal surgery. Soon after, when I went to get us some drinks, I overheard them murmuring about how many surgeries I've already had, how I'm a drain on the healthcare system, and how I should ideally just die. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I heard my surgeon mutter to a nurse how easy it would be to kill me on the operating table and make it look like an accident. FML
Today, I overheard my mother-in-law and sister-in-law over the baby monitor. They were talking about how much better off my daughter would be if I were to die. FML
Today, a number of people came to visit me in the hospital, including my grandparents. They called me "weak" and "a cowardly millennial" for going to the ER instead of sucking it up, and blamed me for rising healthcare costs. I had a compound fracture. FML
Today, I was finally having a conversation with my granny, who I don't get to see often. First thing she tells me was that she was going to have surgery soon, because her "women's insides" were "dangling out." FML
Today, after having surgery, I called my family to tell them I was out, safe, and on my way home. The first thing they asked was if they could "borrow" some of my pain meds. FML
Today, my surgeon was talking to me about my upcoming heart bypass operation. I was extremely nervous from the start, but he somehow managed to keep saying things like "death", "fatalities", "high-risk", and "never wake up" throughout. FML
Today, I overheard my in-laws talking about me. It started off with light insults and ended with, "People like her are the reason murder ain't always wrong". FML
Today, I was diagnosed with a chronic pain condition. My parents seemed very sympathetic and my mother even cried. When we got home, though, they started laughing and asked if I really believed all the shit the doctor was talking about. FML
Today, I was talking to my only grandson about how I was going to the dentist to get my teeth fixed and how it was going to cost a lot of money, he replied saying "Who cares, you're going to die soon anyways". FML
Today, I got my wisdom teeth taken out. The two male doctors told me they'd give me anesthesia, but when they did, I could still hear them. I heard them talking about my breasts and how flat they were for a 17 year old. FML
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tehman117 21
rmember that when choosing a retirement home.
smithv171 17
That's harsh and very inconsiderate. I wish you the best with your surgery and health!
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CRD1995 19
You should stand up for yourself and have a backbone. No pun intended.
Retaheki 27
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And let them know that if you have so many surgeries you're a benefit to health care 'cause you pay for them.
gracehi 33
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UK. Socialized medicine. He doesn't pay for his surgeries, not directly anyway. He and everyone else is paying for them with their taxes. This is part of the problem with socialized medicine. When you become a continued liability, it stops making sense for the system to keep taking care of you, because governments are cold and heartless by nature.
ElmoSaysSquishy 28
I'd rather pay taxes and have a few people be a burden on the system than have people dying of treatable diseases because they can't afford treatment.
Mauskau 36
As you're saying socialized instead of socialised, you're from the US, where it costs a shit load of money to get sick, or even be seen by a doctor, especially if you don't have insurance. We are saving lives because we will treat people without bankrupting them, although not all treatment is free. Yes the healthcare system is strained at the moment, but that's because we have so many NHS bosses that don't do anything other than get large bonuses, and not enough medical staff or supplies.
slackerjoe 22
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As someone who has had multiple back surgeries, I understand your pain. stay active or you will screw yourself. It's not the end of the world, you just have to get some job training to do something you can do from home. even if it's a lot of work for a little bit of money, something is better than nothing and you can earn your self respect back as well as the respect of your in-laws. If you won't work after your surgeries, maybe they are right.
gracehi 33
I never said private healthcare was perfect. I just stated a problem with socialized healthcare. The bad thing about private healthcare is that it's expensive and many people can't afford it. The good thing about private healthcare is that as long as you, or someone, is paying for the healthcare, there's almost never any trouble getting it, and anyone you're paying to care for you is happy to do it. The bad thing about socialized healthcare is that access becomes limited. And don't assume that I know nothing about socialized healthcare because I'm American. My father is English, and my parents lived in England for many years. They prefer the American healthcare system, or did before recent changes. My grandmother waited for three months for a hip replacement in England. That would have never happened in the states, unless she was on a government run healthcare program, such as the military healthcare system, like I am. I waited three months to get treatment for my chronic back pain, and our veterans have been treated with neglect that would be criminal if it were done to prison inmates. And it's a myth that people routinely die in the US with private healthcare simply because they can't afford it. Minor illnesses and injuries often go untreated, but those with crippling or life threatening conditions can usually get treatment through charity or credit. Yes, this can leave people bankrupt, which is a terrible predicament, but not dead. Usually when someone is medically neglected to the point of death in this country, it's when they were under the care of a government program. But my main point was that the awful sentiment voiced by OP's in-laws, that he "should just die" because he needs continuous, costly medical treatment, can infiltrate government healthcare. When a person is routinely receiving treatment that costs more than what he's paying through taxes, and there's no other option for treatment, and thus no competition, the establishment administering the treatment has no incentive to ensure the quality of his care. If a person becomes terminally ill while covered by private health insurance, the company must honor the agreement to care for the patient because they may be sued and because their company reputation will be tarnished and they will lose other customers that are making them a profit. With socialized healthcare, there are no such incentives. Again, I'm not saying that private healthcare doesn't have it's own problems, but this is one problem with socialized healthcare.
Eff_Itt 20
#53 that comment is way too long bro.
siggy_mcsigx 22
#53 America's private health system becomes pretty immoral when people, no matter what their incomes, have Chronic diseases.
Vegetarian27 24
And way too stupid
gracehi 33
#59, if you think government-run healthcare is any better, you're wrong. Just ask our nation's veterans, or people in other countries who have to wait for months on end to receive treatment for things that really need immediate attention. And, #60, I'll take you seriously when have a real counterargument.
be82tw 17
@33 That's a false dichotomy, there.
Fairyjoshy 13
Um... as an American, there's already a lot of waiting to get health care because insurance companies are often very "ho hum" about whether they'll even approve the surgery you need to avoid a life-threatening complication. Also, I find that insurance companies are a lot more likely to deny you coverage (and thus denying you the actual surgery because a lot of doctors won't perform one if you don't have insurance, even if you have the money) simply because it benefits their pocketbook to do so. The American health care system is one that puts the value of a human life below that of money. At least with the socialized health care system, you're *guaranteed* to be able to get health care, and the more life-saving it is, the quicker you'll get it... whereas stuff that can wait actually waits. There are problems, yes, but definitely far less problems than entrusting your health care to someone who makes money off of making sure you don't get it.
Ryan8878 21
@59 And I will take you seriously when you stop being a ****
smithv171 17
That's harsh and very inconsiderate. I wish you the best with your surgery and health!
Arwen_Evenstar 37
Agreed, I think it's safe to assume they don't like OP rather than this just being about the cost to the NHS though! I hope your partner heard or will believe you, they're wishing being a widow(er) on him/her, that's awful too.
K_kanaka 26
Should have walked out there and said "Hahahahaha **** YOU!"
ratorr2 23
I would have.
tehman117 21
rmember that when choosing a retirement home.
eagleriverjohn 24
Stuff like this is the reason why a lot of people hate their in-laws
cksmith51 14
This is why they make movies about inlaws
gintwinsmoore 20
Meet the Fockers!!!! A hilarious movie!!!! Lol!!!!
Earths_Venus 25
Stop calling them in-laws. The correct term is relatives. As in, you want to stay relatively far away from them.
Arwen_Evenstar 37
That was so tortured that I felt it hurt.
garrett_8614 14
Guess I'm the only one who found this kind of funny
Liamj774 36
Maybe they should just ideally die
SweetasCandy0609 28
Omg OP I'm so sorry they seriously have issues to say something as cruel as that I hope you have a successful surgery and don't let those jerk offs get to you just keep your focus on your recovery.
Brandi_Faith 34
They're seriously horrible people! I wouldn't wish death on anybody, even an enemy, let alone someone that has health issues and is getting a chance to get those health issues corrected! So horrible!
juststephhere 23
That's honestly so inconsiderate. If you aren't comfortable with saying something, maybe talk to your partner. They don't just give surgeries for nothing, so they should just stop. All life has value.