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By Anonymous / Tuesday 22 September 2015 21:54 / United Kingdom - Cardiff
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By  Grimmerie  |  31

That's a pretty understandable reaction if you consider how important it is for young teenage girls to feel accepted, wanted, and desirable. So much of our society stresses that girls have no value outside of being desirable partners so a lot of girls are taught that that's what their self worth is based on. It doesn't justify her being mad at you but it does somewhat explain it. It seems like she's reacting out of hurt and lashing out at a person who will accept and love her without any ulterior motive. It often feels "safer" to take out those feelings of hurt on someone you know for sure loves you. Give her room, and then be there to support her when she's cooled off. This is one hell of a bad experience for her. What an awful and inappropriate thing for her boyfriend to say, let alone do.

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  sturschaedel  |  27

Or better, stay out of her way while she is grieving but let her know you are there for her when she wants to talk. She'll come around when she reaches the anger stage.

By  dyoy_87  |  20

Look on the bright side, he likes you

By  Symantha23  |  24

Your daughter deserves way better than him!

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  bonermonkey  |  31

I think it's probably hard to talk to her knowing that she is the object of desire of the boy whose just fucked with her feelings and made a fool of her. it's a painful thing to go through even when it ain't your mum.

By  mattiscg  |  16

Cougar Alert!!!

By  Grimmerie  |  31

That's a pretty understandable reaction if you consider how important it is for young teenage girls to feel accepted, wanted, and desirable. So much of our society stresses that girls have no value outside of being desirable partners so a lot of girls are taught that that's what their self worth is based on. It doesn't justify her being mad at you but it does somewhat explain it. It seems like she's reacting out of hurt and lashing out at a person who will accept and love her without any ulterior motive. It often feels "safer" to take out those feelings of hurt on someone you know for sure loves you. Give her room, and then be there to support her when she's cooled off. This is one hell of a bad experience for her. What an awful and inappropriate thing for her boyfriend to say, let alone do.

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  Isandri  |  29

well said #5 your daughter will be all right OP, and daaaamn, you will have sth special to laugh about in few years!

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  LycanGod  |  27

OPS daughter is just been a little drama queen... she needs to get over it already... she's still young and needs to focus on her studies instead

By  trucker2  |  32

Unless your name is Demi, I don't see a problem.

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  Dick_diamond  |  22

According to a particular song, Stacy's mom has got it going on..

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  italyball  |  12

She could teach her daughter how to seek out better partners, and also to teach her daughter to not jump into relationships before knowing someone ahead of time.

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  TheMathMajor  |  26

As someone who did not have good taste in men as a teenager and who had a mom who always told me when I was being mistreated and I should rethink my relationships, a lot of the time it won't sink in. I think it's something that people kind of need to learn on their own. For me, I was always very hurt whenever my mom would say my boyfriend at the time was a jerk and I could do better. Because I liked the guy and I wanted my mom to like them too. And I wanted to prove her wrong which only lead to me staying with them longer. You just have to be really careful about the subject and it depends on the kid's personality as well and what they will respond to.

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  latenerd  |  11

The boy being an asshole is not her fault, but to blame her mother? To be cold to someone who loves her over a 14yo wannabe m-f-? Someone needs to have a long talk with that girl. Her values are a bit twisted and maybe her self esteem could use some work.

By  GrumpyGrinch  |  19

The boy is crazy: crazy to do so and crazy to confess and crazy to confess in front of the girl he used for his games. Try to make your daughter see it this way, there is nothing to be angry at you for, thats the boy's fault, not yours. You probably didn't even have any idea what his plan was, seriously, how could you guess anything so crazy?

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  zeffra13  |  29

I bet it's less that the daughter is angry and more that she's the most embarrassed she's been since the last time she wet the bed. She probably feels stupid in a 'how could I not tell' kind of way and is avoiding what she perceives as an immanent lecture on being responsible or something.

By  amileah13  |  26

She's a 14 year old girl who has a boyfriend. And she's mad because her boyfriend who I would hope is underage wants to date her mother. *me trying to process this*. This whole thing is just messed up and wrong! Yikes

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Uhhh... you really have a problem processing that a 14-year-old has (or rather: had) a boyfriend? Do people only start dating well into their twenties where you come from or what?

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  hektek  |  11

I totally agree with you, as a father there's no way my 14 yr old daughter is having a boyfriend much less to bring him home, no wonder shit is so fucked up these days, our young women have to be taught to value themselves and be confident rather than always looking for approval from others

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  OverBlossomed  |  20

Unless your daughter is homeschooled, you cannot stop her from dating. Having a boyfriend doesn't mean a teenager doesn't value herself or isn't confident. On the contrary, if she's dating, she probably does feel confident. Relationships make people happy.

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  VikkiSwift  |  3

#30, girls are TAUGHT from every angle that their self-worth is measured by their looks and approval from others. Teaching your daughters - hell, all your children - otherwise is a very good thing, but NOTHING you can do will stop them from dating and experimenting if they want to. Teach them to be safe and let them get on with it. If you just try to control and stop them that much, they won't come to you if something goes wrong and, if the issue is severe, they may do something dangerous to avoid you finding out.

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