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That's brilliant actually. I would also suggest the birth control shot or implant (the one that goes under the skin in the arm) since she can't be trusted to take a pill or use condoms. If you know a birth center that has the baby dolls that simulate a new born, I would suggest getting one of those as well. Let her get the full experience of feedings, diaper changes, crying, lack of sleep... If you have a friend of family member with a baby or toddler, ask if she can baby sit for a day while you

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#20 that is beyond amazing. Completely agree. If she wants to have a baby, she has to understand that her parents aren't going to pay for it, and she has to be financially able to do so. Which at 15, there's no way. I don't know if the UK works like this, but in Australia, you have to be 15 to get a job, and you get very little for doing so. So there's no way she could afford to have a baby at that age if she were in Australia, and depending on when her birthday is, if she were to fall pregnant

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Sadly, the youth can be so short sighted that they can't see but what's in front of their faces. Every action has reactions; it's the parent's job to teach kids to think about the consequences of everything they do. #20, you have the perfect idea to instill this principle!

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I would also suggest looking deeper into why she wants a baby. When I was 16 and had pregnancy scares with my boyfriend, I actually wanted the test to come back positive (thank GOD none of them ever did). The reason I wanted a baby so bad is because I wanted to fill a void of being unloved and being abused as a child, I just wanted something to live for. I understand this thinking is illogical now but that was my thinking then. As someone else suggested inform the boyfriends parents if he's unde

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Or every 45 minutes for 9 months, baby non stop in the day, refusing to nap, constantly being held or screaming to be held and only sleeping on you... Pretty sure 24 hours with my baby would put anybody off a child ?

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I just want to add, if she says you can pay for it, tell her you're still paying for your own kid so you don't have money for hers.

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Yep, wake her up every 2 hours screaming bloody murder until she feeds you, then shit yourself, vomit in her hair, rip out a chunk of her hair then scream some more lol.

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every 2 hours? lmao. more like every 30 minutes -_- so glad i dont have kids. lol just kiddin i have no idea how often it happens but id seriously do that every thirty minutes scare some sense into these kids.

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How does one even going about trying to bring up child-bearing at that age. "Hey, babe, wanna party like its 1499?" "What?" "Uh, it's a period in history in which children our age commonly got married and reproduced." "Oh, take me now!"

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It's hard to say it's gone up drastically when women in the past were married off as soon as possible once they hit puberty to start having children..

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Aaaaactuallly, teenage pregnancy rates have gone down steadily since the early nineties. 'Kids these days' are actually less likely to have kids themselves than they were twenty years ago. We're just more aware of them because of shows like Teen Mom.

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They haven't in the US. The overall amount of teen pregnancies was highest in the 1950s. Though certain areas have probably spiked.

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So, 30, your advice is for OP to threaten and intimidate somebody else's child rather than talking to and dealing with their own child? Yes, OP should also talk to the boyfriend's parents, but, really, it sounds like OP needs to get *more* involved in their daughter's life, not less.

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If someone can't handle videos of the procedure to give birth- be it cesarean or natural- they don't need to be putting themself in a position where they will experience those things first hand. If someone is so sensitive they would suffer mental trauma from videos about birth, then they don't need to be anywhere near anything that would relate to them giving birth. As it stands, the emotional truama of birth-videos probably is the lesser evil when compared to the emotional trauma of getting pr

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You realize she said 15 right? As in a freshman in high school? How's she going to finish high school, let alone pay for the baby (diapers, formula, food, etc). This would definitely be reckless, and it would probably fall back on the op to raise their grandchild.

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I don't think this child is capable of making a logically sound choice, informed or not. Her brain won't even be done developing for another decade or so. She's uneducated, immature, and far from self-sufficient. If she's dumb enough to want a kid at this point in her life, she's obviously on the slow side, since both I and everyone I knew at the age of 15 would've found the idea of parenthood repulsive at such a young age. I'm sorry if I come across a bit strong, but this girl's wish to have a

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#32 As her parent is actually is your job to make decisions for her that she's not mature enough to understand the consequences of. That's why it's called being a parent.

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She could be a sophomore, depending on her birthday. Either way still way too young for that. But I just wanted to point that out.

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Those "stupid adults" have more life experience and knowledge than any 15-year-old on this planet. At 15, I very much considered myself still a child and couldn't have been responsible enough for a baby. I didn't even have a driver's license or a car, or even a job. Most likely, the baby would have to be taken care of by its grandparents, and that wouldn't be fair to them or the child.

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#45, of course children can make logically sound and informed choices even though they're still developing. But they can't make the choice to try for a baby at the age of 15 because they don't realize the potential consequences. Basically, when a girl starts her period, she's physically ready to have a kid, but that does NOT mean she is mentally ready. This girl is barely into puberty. She's not ready.

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@45 I'm sorry if your adolescence was a negative experience for you, but it's neither here nor there. I did not mean to imply that all children cannot make logically sound decisions because they are still developing. My comment pertained solely to OP's daughter. This FML only gives me reason to believe that she is, definitively speaking, an idiot; she wishes to have a child at FIFTEEN years of age, which has plenty of negative consequences and no apparent justification in this day and age. She l

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But you don't have children so you don't know. Also, I'm nearing my 30's and I still don't feel ready for kids. The prospect is very very scary. How on earth.....?

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It's not bad to tach her the aspects so she can understand, I get that because I'm the same age but her body and brain aren't fully developed and ready for a child. I'm her age and understand this, you're probably in your 20's and don't get this.

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#7 I kinda get what you're saying, but I still disagree. I mean, I do know that in similar situations some parents would immediately disown their children and send them into foster care or whatever (or even worse in some places). However personally, I don't think I could ever bring myself to do that, so I guess in the perspective of those other parents I would be "supporting" her. HOWEVER I would in no other way "let and support her." If I told my daughter why it was unwise a

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32, you say the grandparents raising the child was implied, yet they should allow their daughter to get pregnant anyway if she chooses. Why should a fifteen year old be allowed to make such a heavy decision that could potentially (and most likely) affect the other people in her family? I agree with you that teenagers should be allowed some level of autonomy in their lives and that that can be a great learning/life experience, however allowing (and tacitly approving) a fifteen year to make (and f

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Oh come the fuck on. She needs her parents' signature to sign up for a school trip, for god's sake. Of course it's up to her parents to decide if she's ready to have a baby or not. Hint: she isn't. No matter how mature she is for her age, getting pregnant at barely 15 is not a good or sane choice.

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#45, research has shown that the highest level critical thinking-involved parts of our brain, including bits that are involved in evaluating "consequences", are not fully developed in most people until they're in their 20s. This girl *might* be an exception, but the odds are pretty good she isn't. Encouraging teen pregnancy in the name of "let them make their own decision" when we know their impulse control is weak is not a smart approach. In my opinion.

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Instead of letting her know the pros and cons of having a baby at her age, how bout not letting her have sex at all until she's old enough to have a child?

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smart enough to know?... yeah look. i think kids should wait till they graduate highschool in my opinion. or really get a job that helps make enough to take care of the kid and i dont know where your from but to get a decent job in the US you have to at least be 15-16 but its usually minimum wage or so which isnt enough to take care of the child second they should have their own house in which to take care of the child to build character discipline and respect for both parent and child and i cou

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My sister had her boys 11 days before she was to turn 16. She was a freshman. Fast forward a few years, she's 19 now. The boys are 3, yes boys she had twins. Lexi is one of the best moms I know, she works, she has her own place, she graduated highschool, she's still with her boyfriend, he also graduated, but she struggles some. That's okay tho, she's a great mom. Lexi wanted a kid because she wanted to be a better parent than our parents and she thought if she had the kids young she could do t

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She probably knows that she gets free money, never has to work and becomes the most important statistic.

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Or more likely gets slagged off by the government, paid a pittance, and lives in a poxy little council flat on a sink estate.

Get her a battery operated babies.. Or wake her ever hour for a nappy change.. Cos the girls barelybout of them herself

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Yes! I actually know of a teenage girl who intentionally got pregnant and when someone showed her a picture of a messy diaper, she said "I didn't think I'd have to deal with that." Really!? You intentionally got pregnant, yet didn't even stop to think about all of the hard work involved in raising a child? Gimme a break!

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