That's a stiff penalty to have to pay, OP! It must be hard to erect a defense to head off your BF's limp dick response to his self-abusive penilety for flaccid non-performance!!

Anxiety can cause that especially since was you two's first time doing it. Just reassure him and remind him to relax about it a bit.

Tell him that if he can't get it up you're leaving him. Nothing like putting a guy on the spot with major pressure to fix the issues. This sarcastic remark brought to you by Zebediabolical Heavy Industries.

Poor bud!

there are ways to raise his self-esteem. take this as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship by supporting him. the results could surprise you.

Maybe he's gay.

he needs to grow a pair! we all **** up, get over it

Is it really his fault?

Aww poor guy :(

I couldn't keep it up my first time either, or the second time for that matter. I was just nervous and it got to me (plus my girl was a virgin too, so I wasn't excited about hurting her). But the third time was the charm and we had no problems ever again. I think it probably happens to 90% of guys their first time. Just tell him its normal, but it won't get better if he doesn't try again.